Judgy McJudgerson

I have, what I think is, a funny story. My niece was babysitting my girls last weekend and when we got home she said she needed to inform me that my girls know a "sexually advanced word". My heart went into my throat! Well, she said they were getting changed for bed and talked about their vagina. Phew. That's it?! I told her that's fine, it's a word we use, that's what we call it. She was shocked that I would allow them to use such a word. I then tell the story to my SIL (niece's mom) and she too is shocked that I would let my girls use the word. As with anything else in their lives inappropriate, we do talk about when and when not to use the word and how some people don't like it. :good:

Fast forward to last night. DH's friend and his girlfriend were here (42, no kids, very opinionated to begin with) and I told them the story (because I think it's funny). I got halfway through the story and she starts yelling saying that I need to find out who taught them that word and speak to them right away about how inappropriate it is and how no child should EVER say that. :umm: Then I told her that we do use the word and I'm the one who taught them that. I was told that is disgusting and she could not believe I would do that. :aggressive: WTFever lady.

 

Wow. We use anatomically correct names too. We call a penis a penis and a vagina a vagina. Some people are weird.

 

Wow. What does she call her lady parts?

 

I have friends whose kids call it cutesy names too. I don't see what the big deal is. I can think of a few slang terms that would be totally inappropriate to teach a child...

 

Is your friend in the Michigan legislature? I have friends on facebook now who include vagina in all their posts.

 

Ok. Seriously. I'm at a loss for words.

(BTW, the first part of the story IS funny)

 

They would have a field day in my house. We use vagina, penis, and nipples (for the nipple part). Those are scientifically valid terms.

 

I would respond, is there another word I should be teaching them for their vagina? Is using arm for arm incorrect too?

 

What the hell else are you supposed to cal it if not a vagina? Unless, as Kendra mentioned, you're in the Michigan legislature.

It reminds me of Eliot Reid from Scrubs :rotflmbo:

 

A vagina is a vagina. What else are you supposed to call it?

 

they are what they are. Sure my children and I have called a vagina a lilly or china and a penis a willie but they also know the proper names. Nothing wrong with using proper names or cutesy names it's personal preference and up to the parent(s) not friends, other family members or sitters.

 

Wasn't it like 15-20 years ago the push to have little kids use the correct words in case they were ever molested they would be able to correctly without a doubt be able to describe what happened to they to law enforcement agents?

 

You don't want to know what I call it

The girls use proper terms, sometimes they will say peepee instead.

 

My kids say peepee and poopoo but my older two know the proper names for their parts.

I have a friend that told me "Opinions are like aXXholes. Everyone has one."

 

I thought that was a cute story too, and I would have reacted about the same as you did when the babysitter approached you! The rest of it . . . geez. Give me a break! Somebodies panties must be giving them a major wedgie to react like that!

 

My parents as teachers visitor told me a great one. She talks to all parents about teaching kids appropriate words for their "private" parts which would be penis, vigina etc. That it is actually a great way to arm your children against sexual preditors. She went to a training and watched a video discussion with pediphiles who had abused kids. One thing they look for in a victim is rather or not they know the correct name for their private parts. Kids who have been taught the correct name are usually not picked by the pediphile because it tells the pediphile that those kids parents have likely not only discussed private parts with them but also taught them good touch/bad touch and those kids are far more likely to go to their parents when someone does something or approaches them inappropriately. So I'd inform the nay sayers that teaching your children the proper name is arming them against pediphiles. My boys have always known the correct names even before the PAT suggested it. What else are you going to call a penis or a vagina?

So anyway she tells this to all the parents she visits. She told one mom of a little girl and at the next visit the little girl was singing a new action song... Head shoulders knees vagina knees vagina, head shoulders knees vagina knees vagina. The mom took her advice very literally.

 

Next time I see her I will try and work it into the convo to find out what she would teach her daughter to say. I'm curious!

I definitely would not judge a single person for nicknaming the area, for the longest time we called it our "hooha". :good: I honestly don't know that any of my friends use vagina with their daughters, they all have a nickname.

Good to know I'm not the only one that's scarred my children by using the right name.

 

I'm loving the term "sexually advanced." To me vagina is not to the level of advanced. Now if they said orgasm or ejaculation or something like that, then I'd call that sexually advanced. But vagina is only 100 level sexual.

 

Well my boys know the word penis and have for quite some time, since around age 2. So I guess they are "sexually advanced", too.

 

That term coming from my (dare I say somewhat prudish) very conservative niece. Now that I experienced the way she reacted about someone other than an adult using that word, I have to say I'm glad the girls and I use it. I grew up afraid to use the real terms and I didn't want the same for my girls. I want it to be more matter-of-fact than an embarrassing big deal.

And I too had the fear that my girls had something MUCH worse. :blush:

 

Lady garden? Front bum? Hoo-ha? I can think of a million of them, but I think I'd rather hear a kid just use the word vagina. Hopefully my kids won't grow up to be too sexually advanced though, I don't want to be a grandma for a long time!

 

I'm still kind of speechless about all this but then, in our house, we cheer about vaginas.

 

It makes me think of Kindergarten Cop when the little boy stands up in class and announces to Arnold Swarzenegger, "Boys have a penis, girls have a vagina!"

Spencer calls his penis "peanuts" no matter how many times I've told him how to say the word right. It makes me giggle when he says it, even though we use the right words, too. And we're very religious, conservative people. But I don't want my kids to be ashamed of their bodies, even if I want them to be modest about them.

 

Exactly! :lol:


I don't know why she cares what word YOU chose to teach YOUR girls.

 

OMG she said a*m - Nancy I certainly hope you have not taught your kids to use that awful word. Why do people want their kids to be so advanced at such a young age?!! LMAO (the A stands for ARM LOL!!)

 

Oh and Jen LOL!!! Lady garden!! LOL!!!!!!!!! That is awesome!!

 

Abby calls hers "parts" and Ian calls his a winky but I don't care what anyone calls it....

 

Count us in for another family that uses the correct words-although for some reason my kids always say wee-wee for penis-must hear that from other kids. Reese usually says bottom for the whole area, I know what she means.

 

I grew up in a pretty prudish household where we never talked about our body parts. I certainly could never have said vagina to either of my parents. In fact, I think my mom usually called everything south of the waist our "private parts". Because there was this major taboo, I couldn't ask questions and grew up thinking that sex and orgasms and anything else dealing with vaginas and penises was kind of embarrassing, and certainly not something to be discussed - with parents, friends, or even my future husband. Fortunately, I had some really brash friends in college who taught me how wrong that thinking was, but even now, I've probably got a few hangups thanks to parents who wanted to use nick names and act like the whole area didn't even exist.

I'm so proud that my girls know all of the anatomically correct words and that they ask me questions about how their bodies work. I feel like at age five, they are so far ahead of where I was at 18. So yeah... I'm all for teaching kids the right words. And I'd love to hear what words your DH's friend's girlfriend thinks you should use instead of the real ones!

 

We also use only the correct anatomical terms. The boys have picked up "weenie" from their friends, but I refuse to allow cutsie names in the house. It just doesn't make sense given that we don't use cutsie names for any other part of the body.

True story: The boys were asking how babies are born. I matter of factly explained that babies grow inside a muscle in the mommy's stomach. When they are ready to be born, a doctor helps the baby come out of mommy's vagina. I further explained that the vagina is a hole especially made for babies to be born. They were complete fascinated, but I did have to end the conversation when they asked to see my "special hole." :rotflmbo: Thankfully they haven't asked how babies are put into mommy's stomach. But when they do ask, we'll have the same kind of factual discussion.

 

Get out!! You and I are long lost sisters. :friends: I could have typed this about my life almost verbatim.

 

There are a few 'terms' I was going to mention in fun, but I think I will :hush: .

 

Do it Hearher. :woo: Do it. :woo:

 

We call ours pee-pees for now. Girl pee pees and boy pee pees. They know there's a difference but we are going through a rough patch with talking about poop, pee, butts all day as it is, I really don't want to add penis and vagina to it! My mom called a vagina a peeper and I about freaked out watching looney toons and they said peeper (eyes) on there!!!!! SO yes, real terms will be used....as soon as we get over our poop fetish <_<

 

Oh my, thank you for the trip down memory lane, love Scrubs, love it!