My little drama llama

Both of my girls have recently entered their "inner drama phase", as DH likes to call it. They're usually thrilled with the world and twirling around giggling, but every once in a while, everything stinks and I am mean. The use of the words "forever" and "never" is cracking me up... as in "Mama, you are never nice" or "I am not going to talk to you forever." Piper usually chooses to sulk in a corner if we make her mad, but Cricket tells us exactly how she feels. She took the drama to a new level yesterday by spelling it out for me. At bedtime I read only two chapters instead of the usual three (because she had a chapter taken away for a rude tone of voice earlier). As I was closing the door she said:

"Mama, I am really annoyed that you will not read another chapter. Annoyed. Do you understand what I am saying? It means that you are mean. M. E. A. N. And I think you will be this way forever. I wish I had a nicer mom."

What do you even say to that? I think I muttered something about being sorry she felt that way, and now go to sleep child!!

Please tell me this is just a phase and that your girls (or boys) went through it and became sane again? I don't know what I'll do if this lasts all the way through their teenage years! All joking aside, how did you all handle situations like this?

 

I feel your pain. A couple of nights ago M screamed in her bedroom because "YOU NEVER LET ME PLAY ON THE SWINGS AS LONG AS I WANT TO!" A full half hour of screaming about how mean I am, how she NEVER gets to do what she wants, how she'll treat her children differently when she's a mommy, how she'll never calm down, how she'll be stuck in her room forever, etc etc etc. It was actually a little funny. When she gets like this, I tell her to go into her room and calm herself down. She can be mad, and upset, but she can't stand right next to me and scream about it.

 

So, if Alice has been doing that for a few months already, does this mean that it's only going to get worse since they're younger than your girls? Royce doesn't do the drama llama thing, he just gets upset and cries still.

 

Ian's my drama llama - he told me I was mean (on his birthday no less)...I calmly explained to him he hasn't seen mean yet!

 

My girls don't do it to me but to each other all the time. One will say I hate you I'm nOt going to be your friend or something to the nature. I then point out that they are sisters so they have to

 

I wish it had just been a phase! It does get a lot less frequent though (well so far, not too long before we see what the teens have in store for us ). When Aliah was at the height of drama around the same age as your girls, I would wait until much later, when things were calmer, and then tell her how she hurt my feelings when she said she didn't love me, wanted a different mum or whatever it was she said.
. Quite often I found that it had been playing on her mind so this gave us back the bonding time.

My sister though is still very overly dramatic at 27, she lives in London though so we are not so impacted by her as used to be, though in a lot of ways her it's also part of her wonderful and fun personality.

 

Oh lord. Direct quote from Ivy in TO: "Mommy, you aren't acting like you love me!" :cry:

 

It took awhile for my oldest 2 to use the words 'mean' and 'hate', which have only been used a handful of times, BUT, the having to crack down on behavior/attitude that caused those wonderful words to be shouted, has increased since we are drawing closer to the teenage years. I wish I could tell you it got better. It was not too bad until about 9-10 years old. Now it is going downhill fast and I am scared to death of the ACTUAL teen years, since they are only 11 1/2.

May the force be with you!

 

Well, Luke is my dramatic one. If I put him in timeout, he yells "Fine! I will sit here forever! I don't care!!" or "I will NEVER hug you again" or something similar. They do out grow it, in my experience, but it sometimes resurfaces going into the teen years. Fun!

Heather, if it is any consolation, my girls were their most difficult in the few years before puberty. Once they were actually there, the hormones seemed to settle down & it hasn't been as bad. Those couple of years leading up to it were HORRIBLE though. I don't know if it is typical, but that has been my experience so far!

 

Alex is my drama "llama." All the yelling everyone has already said. "I'm NEVER coming out of my room" is a favorite, and of course he wants to come out 5 seconds later. No advice, but I can commiserate!

 

Drama, drama and I have 3 llamas. My youngest (5) is the queen of DRAMA! She likes to let us know that we are ruining her life or we don't love her...blah blah blah. The other two do it on occasion, but it isn't nearly as bad. When I see any of them in the fits, it makes me sweat about the coming years.

 

My son's (6) favorite now "Mommy, you're not my mommy anymore!"

 

I have a herd of llamas! big ones, small ones, boy ones, girl ones LOL!!


Make no mistake! My twins are NOT sisters! I never EVER EVER let them paint their nails ( hence the dried nail polish on my used to be nice wood kitchen floor), I ALWAYS make them pick up their toys because I LOVE to clean and cleaning is ALL I want to do. I am so MEAN that I Have never bought my boys any clothes EVER ( oh excuse me, that's any COOL clothes ie, $200 tennis shoes or $85 shorts - that's right and I never will LOL) I am by far meaner than any other mom on this planet because for some odd reason that NO ONE could EVER guess Why I did not allow my boys to go to Rockfest alone and hand them my debit card, after all that's what Josh's mom did (she's AWESOME). I even got growled at and nearly had my finger bitten off by the baby yesterday for taking a sticker that Addison had given him, out of his mouth, I guess it has started already- I clearly have some issues with NOT wanting my baby to choke or something. I need therapy.