new to form, 24 weeks along

I am new to forums and I found you guys. I am 24 weeks (25 weeks on Thursday) with Mono-Die girls. I also have a 5 year old daughter that is amazing. Me and my honey decided to move in with my mother for the end of this pregnancy and the start of the girls life.I also help take care of my mother because she has a huge list of medical problems. I am hoping to get some questions answered and some of my concerned laid to rest. I also want a place to vent on my issues without being told that I am just complaining about the best thing that has happened to me. I am not sure were to start, so I would appreciate some replies to get the ball rolling. thanks!!

 

Congrats and welcome! I did all of the above during my twin pregnancy and felt amazingly well supported. Bring your questions, concerns, and complaints and you will surely find someone who relates and, hopefully, can answer your questions. In the mean time, I hope you pregnancy, move etc go well.

 

Welcome! What kind of questions do you have? We're here to help...

 

I am having lots of BH and some times they are so painful I cant move or talk. My discharge has changed to clear and my pelvic pressure can be so bad that I feel like one of them will pop out. It comes and goes and not with any prediction, I was also diagnosed with Ashma with a few weeks back and that has not been fun with the breathing treatments. And another thing I have a hard time walking around because the pelvic area feels like its grinding against all my other bones. I am feeling very helpless because my house work gets behind and I can not keep up. My honey goes to school and work full time and he does all he can to help with the mess. I cant play with my 5 year old daughter most of the time because MJ (Baby B) is in my ribs and its very painful,(even though my tummy has dropped already) and that is on top of the pelvic pain and the BH increase. So I stay in bed most of the day trying to feel somewhat human, mean while that house works needs to be done and I want to play with my kido. When I try to talk to my support system about my concerns or to vent they tell me to suck it up and keep going and not to complain about this blessing. I am not a complainer but I feel like this is overwhelming and I want some kind of understanding. I love I will be a mother of 3 but its seems lately I am in more pain and just cranky all the time and I fear its just going to get worse.....And I am thankful that my baby sister moved me back in with my mom because my honey could not really help, so at least I am moved but I still need to organize and clean....sorry so long I am just feeling alone in a crowed room
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:welcome: to TS and congrats on your babies!

Are you sure those painful BH are just BH? I only ask as BH aren't usually painful. Do they go away if you lay down/drink water?

Secondly, I'm almost done with my first singleton pregnancy and feel absolutely freaking great. At 30 weeks with my boys I was miserable. I felt like the biggest, whineyest person out there. It wasn't me- it's gestating twins. It's incredibly hard and people who haven't done it ought not to judge. Vent away here anytime!

 

I know they are contractions and I assumed they are BH. They are not predictable, and sometimes laying down does not help.

 

I don't mean to scare you but that is something I would mention to your docs and take pretty seriously as a sign to slow down. :hug:

 

:welcome: I would definitely be getting those contractions checked out. Drink lots of water & take it easy!!! :hug:

 

When you're pregnant (even with a singleton, much less twins!) what needs to get done, at least so far as housework goes, should change. Do you have any friends nearby that could come help with laundry or dishes or anything that absolutely has to get done? I'm about 25 weeks and I know that if I do anything much that's physical during the day, I can barely keep my eyes open without a nap and I haven't had any complications so far (other than the normal pelvic pain, etc that is generally a part of pregnancy). You are growing two kids inside of you - I wouldn't let anyone tell you that you aren't doing "enough" or say that you are just complaining.

 

I had the same thing you are you are experiencing that started around 18 weeks. At 24 weeks I was in so much pain, lots of pressure, lots of what I thought were BH, turns I was in pre term labour. I don't want to freak you out but you should talk to your OB about it.

And Congrats on your girls!

 

I will call the dr tom to give him the heads up. I just dont want to think its something when its nothing...I do have friends near by but I feel weird about asking. I feel like I am going to wake up and have energy and the contractions wont start....I guess thats not going to happen :vava:

 

I think it is excellent advice to mention what you think are BH to your doctor. I just wanted to add, however, that my BH probably started by then, too, and were at times VERY strong/tight. I was monitored weekly and nothing was ever regular - so as others said, I'd drink tons of water and lie down. Usually helped. I had experienced BH with my previous two pregnancies, so I wasn't too freaked out that anything was progressing - there was never any regularity to mine - with twins or with singletons.

Best of luck and feel free to moan and groan here!

 

:welcome: to TS!!! We are glad you found us!

Keep us posted on those BH! You may need more rest. I am sorry that you feel so much needs done and dont feel up to doing it...there are somethings you just have to let go. I would concentrate on taking care of your daughters needs and yourself.
Dont listen to people that have no clue what you are going through...come to us for that! :friends:

 

I called the dr and he said I am fine and to stay in bed more and double my fluid. and if the symptoms get worse or closer to go to the hospital to get checked. I feel like I have more energy today but once I got up and did a few things I started to have contractions. So I am back in bed laying down and drinking so much water I think it will explode. Thank you all for your concerns.

 

Hello and welcome to TS! You've come to the right place to get all the attention you need and deserve!

I was like you, in so much pain, but mostly it was from the pelvic pains, I ended up getting a pelvic strap which did help a lot so if you can find one of those?

And like you, I didn't feel comfortable asking people to do my housework but you said your sister is there now? Will she help you maybe unpack some of your things. Maybe also set up an area in your bedroom for your five year old, so she can come and play while you are resting?


I noticed your post on another thread which said your doctor said you would need c-section because you have mono-di twins? I was told the same thing but I researched, spoke to a lot of ladies on here and in the end told the hospital doctors that I wanted to have a vaginal birth, which they ended up agreeing on. I was due to be induced when I had to have emergency c-section, but what I'm really saying is that, it is possible to have a vaginal birth with mono-di twins, there are lots of ladies here who have done so, so any more concerns, please ask these wonderful BTDT Moms who are here.

 

I got so much to research just dont know were to start...lol

 

I'm glad that you spoke with your doctor! Lots of rest, lots of fluids!! Also, have your husband pick up some Ensure protein drinks for you. They're very helpful for mono di pregnancies.

My girls were mono di as well. We ended up with an emergency c section (more for my baby b who had gastroschisis than anything, though). It's not a medical necessity. Ask away on here; we have some very experienced and educated moms who would be happy to share information with you on how to have the most successful pregnancy and birth possible.

There really is no "normal" way for twins to be born- they come early, they make it full term, they're born by section, they're born vaginally, they're delivered in a hospital, and they're born at home. We're all more than happy to share our experiences with you and help you make decisions about how you want to handle this exciting time in your life!

Good luck! Rest up and come on here anytime!

 

update....I ended up in the hospital last night with cramping and pressure. I was in Preterm Labor, they were able to stop the contractions. I am now on restricted bed rest. I am scared and feeling blue over having to staying in bed. I want my girls to be healthy!! I have to keep the faith that God will take care of us.

 

Stay in bed, and drink lots! I have been where you are, it is hard and they didn't think I would make it past 28 weeks and I delivered at 37 weeks! You can do it!

 

thanks...I am so scared and reading all the diffrrent stories help some

 

Update....I am battling sadness and anxiety. I keep communicating with my honey but he feels helpless. I start to cry for no reason and it comes and goes. I go to the OB on Tuesday and very excited to get out of the house. My little girl is getting better at me staying in bed, I blame it on the dr saying that he wont let me out of bed, lol. On Tuesday I have my diabetes test and he says I have to go back every week till I deliver to make sure the girls are growing ok. I get really anxious at night with boredom and body aches. I have been contracting off and on and I start to cry because I am scared it will not stop and the babies will come to soon. The pressure on my cervix comes and goes but all I do is lay in bed so I get upset that it happens at all. I have heard my honey talking to my tummy begging the girls to stay in there for 8 more weeks so they have the best chance. And that makes it so hard on me to reassure him when I feel like I have no control over my body. But I know each day that passes is closer to healthy girls.

 

Hang in there, and know that you're not alone in what you're feeling. You and I are within a week of each other, and we're both on bedrest experiencing contractions. I know how the anxiety and sadness can get. But you're doing a great job, and you're right – every day that these babies are inside of you is a day that they are getting healthier and growing bigger and stronger. You might want to mention the anxiety and sadness to your doctor at your appointment. Sometimes the doctor can give a referral to someone who you could talk to over the phone who might be able to help you through this difficult time. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Fingers crossed for a good appointment on Tuesday!

 

Sending you some hugs. I'm sorry you're on bed rest and still having contractions. I hope the babies decide to stay in for many, many more weeks.

 

had to go back to the hospital because of breathing issues, I am now on the t medication and not able to use my albuterol because the n medication made my blood pressure bottom out. I am home and resting and nervous because they said that if I cant keep my breathing controlled without the albuterol then I will have to be admitted and stay till birth. trying to keep positive but its hard. I am only 27 weeks, sigh

 

had to go back to the hospital because of breathing issues, I am now on the t medication and not able to use my albuterol because the n medication made my blood pressure bottom out. I am home and resting and nervous because they said that if I cant keep my breathing controlled without the albuterol then I will have to be admitted and stay till birth. trying to keep positive but its hard. I am only 27 weeks, sigh

 

I don't understand why they won't let you use the Albuterol. I am a severe asthmatic and was on meds for contrax that also made my blood pressure bottom out and I was still able to use it, as it speeds up your heart rate, so the opposite of what that contrax meds do. I used mine throughout my pregnancy, and I was even on prednisone at one point.

 

Sorry you are on bedrest. I almost delivered at 24 weeks, and spent 12 weeks on bedrest. I went in and out of the hospital about 5 times with pre term labor. I was very anxious and I felt pretty depressed and afraid for my twins. My husband was also a mess, too. We made it through but it was tough. You are doing a great job. It's not a fun way to experience pregnancy, but I really believe the medication and bedrest made a difference for me. Are you getting p17 shots? I had weekly progesterone shots to minimize the pre term labor. Hang in there....

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