DS got invited to a birthday party...

And DD didn't. They're both in the same class at preschool. Uggggggh. What to do?

 

I'd just take DS and not make a big deal about it to DD. I'm guessing this is much more frequent with b/g twins and something that will probably happen more as they get older.

 

Bring your son, and find something to do with your daughter. They do not have to be a package deal. Since they are in the same class, it could be that it is a boys only party.

 

Yep, ITA. Mine have learned how to handle this and now appreciate parties they are invited to without the other.

 

I agree and that is what I am trying to avoid. My boys are in seperate classrooms and over the weekend, my one DS was invited to a birthday party. When I dropped him off, I had my other DS in tow and the parents insisted that he stay. They were not aware Jake was a twin and kept apologizing for not inviting Josh.

I had already made plans to take him out to breakfast, just the two of us and I was really looking forward to one on one time with him.

I realize as they get older, they are going to have different friends/interests and I do not expect both of them to be invited because they are twins.

 

Yeah it's what we're going to do. The problem is that we only have one car with car seats, so it means she'll have to stay home with me, it's NOT going to be fun... Probably one hour of tantrum...

 

I would really talk up a really fun activity/craft/treasure hunt/etc. Or if you can all drive to the party together and drop of the parent and DS while you take DD to do something really fun and come pick them back up. Or they could drop you two off somewhere so she doesn't have to see him going into the party.

 

If you go out, I would do this. Personally, I would talk up how awesome it will be to have Mommy/Daughter time. Make Christmas cookies, paint your nails, watch some Christmasy shows in your PJs. Get her excited for her special plans.