It's just past 7am & I am calling mulligan on the day. So far, I called Riley a cow & then proceeded to have a full blown melt down. The fact that I, the supposed adult, called my 3.5 year old daughter a cow, to her face, makes me feel sick to my stomach. I'm glad that she doesn't really seem to realize how awful that is as she's currently cuddling next to me in bed but I know. Apparently, last weeks of pregnancy+insomnia+children who don't consistently STTN=psycho mama. And I'm terrified that it's just going to be worse once the baby arrives. :cry:
I really hope your day gets better! :hug: PS-I've called my kids much worse (not proud momments) but they still seem to love me. Dont worry she'll get you back one of these days (like say when she's 13)...and you will still love her.
AWW, I am sorry. It's hard to be done and not have everyone understand that. Forgive yourself and take lots of deep breaths. Edit to add, I have raging PMS these days due to work stress (they are trying to kill our program and I have to do stupid things to save it) and home stress (our daycare is closing, my oldest seems to be vying for the most misbehaved award, my husband is on Mars). The other night, I yelled at Henry because after we finished books for bed time, he looked at me and said "go downstairs, eat dinner?" I gave him a lecture that he needs to eat when we are AT dinner and not right before bed.
Oh honey, we've all been there. I told Piper to grow up the other day, and not nicely. I was so frustrated at her whiny behavior that I just lost my mind for a minute. And I don't even have the excuse of kids that don't sleep through the night or being very pregnant. Your hormones are raging out of control right now. Don't beat yourself up. Just do some extra cuddling and forgive yourself. Your children certainly will.
:hug: it happens to us all!! I have PMS issues monthly, i can feel myself get out of control and yelling but i cant seem to stop it. Hormones suck!! :hug:
These things do happen.. kids are excellent button pushers and you have a whole lot of buttons to be pushed right now! The important thing is what happens after the blow up, and it sounds like you're all friends again. :hug: And I am sure there will be bumps when the baby is born, but you'll handle them and so will the girls.. it's all part of learning to be big sisters and change the family dynamic. You'll do great!
*hugs* Give yourself a little break! You need one!!! (or two or three) She knows you love her. It will get better!
:hug: Don't be so hard on yourself! For kids that age, a cow is an animal full of fun and affection! What is cute than a calf? Don't worry about it!
I thought you were going to confess that you cheated at golf. Isn't "mulligan" a golf thing? ardon: I've never heard the phrase "calling mulligan," but I like it. Anyway, more :hug: for you. 3.5 is such a tough age, and then being pregnant on top of it... wow. (I think it was around age 3.5 when I was trying to get out the door with both kids, and Sarah just walked through the doorway and stopped dead on the stoop, blocking everyone else from getting out -- and I said, "Sarah, MOVE!" and gave her a little shove. Not in a nice loving way.) And yeah, fortunately a 3.5 year old doesn't really know that it's a bad thing to be called a cow.
A mulligan is a "do-over" in golf. So if you call a mulligan you say you want to take the shot over. We use the word mulligan all the time at my house... it's a fun way to explain that you didn't mean for your comment to sound rude, or you want to start the whole day over. I have a friend who calls her ex husband her mulligan (like - never uses his name, he's always referred to as "The Mulligan"). Ie - he was the golf shot that didn't work so well, so she gets to do it over with her current husband.
:hug: Rachel, I know I definitely have had those days. I remember one day calling my DS a jerk. Not my finest moment but he had me so angry and I was already in a bad mood, frustrated, PMSy and generally just should not have been around people.
Thank you so much for the support ladies! I'm about to go have a nap now that the girls are asleep & I expect that'll help my outlook, at least a little. This made me laugh so hard. And then I thought "Mulligan isn't a horrible name". :laughing: I am definitely going a little bit :crazy:. I've always just thought mulligan meant a do-over. We used it a lot in gaming (like if you're dealt a really crappy hand of cards you can call mulligan & get a new hand). I didn't know it was originally from golf. Learn something new every day! :grouphug:
Been there, done that. Recently. And just to ease your mind a little, it's gotten soooo much better now that baby is finally here! I am no where near as miserable as I was those last few weeks of pregnancy. Luckily Josh is an easy baby so that's helpful too.
Hang in there; you're an awesome Mom. I know I'll sound like a Debbie downer, but it definitely got harder for me when Lena was born. Of course, I have probably only STTN myself maybe 20 times in the past four years. I"m so moody with these kids some days. My word is jerk. I've called them jerks or told them to stop being jerks more than once. My personal advice get your support network ready. Friends parents anyone you can find to give you some time off to get rest and clear your mind. It's helps tremendously.
:hug: Oh do we all have those days!!! We all have done/said things we are not proud of. This thing we called parenting, that we dreamed about since we were kids, is HARD WORK. That NO ONE ever told me about! Many :hug: to you.
Hugs! I can't tell you the number of not stellar parenting moments I have had in the last 2 months with 2 1/2 yr old toddlers and the end of my pregnancy/arrival of baby. I find I get especially ugly when their behavior directly leads to the disturbance of a previously quiet or sleeping baby! At any given moment I usually have 2 out of 3 kids crying...tonight I hit the jackpot and all 3 were screaming
Big hugs!!! I have had those days and worse (just wait til you have teenagers) I am having a time right now. I breastfeed Easton and while I wouldn't change a thing and love every second of it he will not let anyone else even touch him so it is hard when the twins need me, the teens need me and dh is calling me too! Sometimes my cup runneth over - I handle it better some days than others and you will too. Luckily things like this bother you way more than it does the kids. They know you love them!!
:hug: :hug: :hug: I have been there in the last few weeks a couple times and I am not pregnant. I remember when I was pregnant when my friend called her 3 year old a "little b****" and I was horrified. Now that we have reached that age I can understand because we have Cybil the drama queen who tries to be the puppet master living in our home fighting for dominance. DH says he is waiting for her head to spin around some days.
