My two act so awful

Dawson had an MRI on his knee today( football injury) so we had to be at the hospital at 4pm - before dh gets out of work. A& A were more awful than awful. They ran around, screamed, kicked each other, I took them to the gift shop Ava broke a trinket and Addison threw herself on the floor wanting candy , they acted worse than ever - so bad I thought we were going to get kicked out of the hospital. They refused to do anything I asked them to do the entire time we were there. It has gotten to where I dred taking them anywhere because they act so bad. So I brought them straight home fed them bathed them and put them to bed. This is the first time I have ever done this. Addison went to sleep and Ava is still crying and pleading that she will never act that way again I feel awful but I cannot give in - this is so dang hard!!!!

 

:grouphug: I cried last night eating my dinner bc Jack was crying for more food after we took it away for playing with it (see "Table Manners").
Its so hard sometimes! I was so embarrassed the other day bc I had to take all 3 with me to my Drs appt and of course they were 45 mins behind and the waiting room was packed. Both Jack and JT had time outs on the floor facing a corner and I was a sweaty, hot, flushed mess bc I felt like everyone was gawking watching me but I didn't dare look at anyone.
We're just doing the best we can! :grouphug: :youcandoit:

 

If I saw you giving your kid a TO in a doctor's office, I would totally smile at you and probably say something like, "I do that too."

Heather, do you think A&A are acting out because you have a new baby?

 

Could be, it most certainly has gotten worse since our new arrival. I had thought it was my patience level but maybe it is actually them really acting out because of Easton????? I have an appointment this afternoon I am dreading it but also curious to see if last nights going to bed early made any impact on them.

 

Wouldn't it be nice if four year olds came with an on-off switch? That way we could just turn them off and store them in the trunk when we need to do things like take older kids to the hospital?

But seriously... I'm so sorry you're going through this. My two are just hitting this stage, and it's the worst. It sounds like you're doing the right thing by taking away fun stuff (like playing after dinner) and sticking to your guns. Hopefully next time you're in a similar situation in public, your girls will remember last night and not act up as much. But then again, they're four... so who knows?

 

Yeah, I am sure last nights early bed time will have been long forgotten by this afternoons appointment! My goodness i am surprised the hospital is still standing!, it makes me wonder how they acted while my inlaws had them at the hospital while I was there having the baby- the hospital staff probably already knew my two - and no wonder my FIL went home after 3 days!!

 

ITA with Bex.

This is what I told a friend on FB about her daughter's public tantrum: "I am not bothered by kids having a tantrum... I'm bothered by adults catering to it. By handling it (esp. publicly), you gain my respect. Go T!"

 

I am sure there were people in the hospital who I gained the respect of and those who wanted to call CPS on me it was truly awful.

 

I remind my girls that they can have a time out ANYWHERE! Middle of mall, btdt. In the post office, yup. At a restaurant, of course. In the super market, sure! etc etc. For some reason they lose their little minds sometimes and go nuts. I see other little kids standing nicely next to their parents while waiting in line at a store, or post office, or whatever, and I'm so jealous. But I will continue to take them places, and teach them the appropriate way to act.

As a mini-rant: I swear the post office double time out (both had to sit facing the wall), the ONE woman in front of us in line was chatting with the postal worker and asking her crazy questions just to prolong my agony. She actually smirked at me as she left and I couldn't tell if it was a "I'll leave now" smirk or a "I understand your pain having two children in time out on the floor of the post office" smirk. Regardless she didn't need to start a conversation about the weather and then ask random questions about people on stamps while I was waiting behind her.

 

Aw, I'm sorry you are going through this. I can relate. My girls sometimes act like little angels...like today when we were running errands they stayed with me and did what I asked. Sometimes though I will take them places and they will scream to be held and carried (obviously I cannot carry them both around at once!) If I don't do it, they throw themselves on the ground and literally kick and scream. I have to drag them by one arm. It is so embarrassing. Usually we just say "Ok, you can stay there, see you later!" And pretend to walk off. But it only works for a second. Sometimes they just lay/crawl/roll on the ground wherever we are because they think it is fun. <_< It gets ridiculous. I just have to remind myself that it doesn't last forever!