Whining and Screaming

Does this end? I feel like if I'm not engaged 100%, and plan out my day meticulously, I get screams and whines. I step over a gate to pee. Tears. I pull one off the table and try to distract him with toys. Tears and horrible screaming as he claws his way back up. Over. And Over. I try to do something different for a bit, like go outside, and it's just all the worse when we come back inside.

The worse they get the worse I get. I don't feel like talking cheerfully to crabs. I can't chortle cutely when they throw lunch all over the floor (and I won't be able to eat until the next time they sleep.) So most of the day I just grit my teeth and "get through," which I feel awful about. I don't talk much. When they're happily playing, I don't want to butt in and "ruin" the nice quiet atmosphere so I don't talk to them much then either. Eugh. I feel like it's a downward spiral. They crab, I disengage, they cling and whine more. I feel like I can never sit down or I get climbed on. I can't *DO* anything or I get climbed on. Dishes involves either constantly fending them off or them crying at the gate. What in the heck am I supposed to do??!!

There's so much to do, my house is a wreck. Ag ag ag.

I'm just tired of the crying. I wish I could do something right. Is just this their personality, or ... I dunno... is there some kind of magic mushroom you guys are all feeding your kids?

 

For how unfunny the topic is, you sure made me laugh reading this!!

We're going through the same thing at our house right now and I just don't know the answer. I think this stage (the whiny, clingy, needy one) is when having twins is really tough. With a singleton you could pick up and carry them, maybe wear them, sit and play with flashcards (people do that, right?) but with TWO?! It's a trial to get through the day. So, no advice here. Just know that you're not alone!

 

so not alone!!! We have our good moments and our melt downs DAILY. hugs!!

 

I had to LOL because I could have written this post myself! Hugs to you and I WISH I had those magic mushrooms.

 

I could have written this, too! It's so frustrating some days. I am thankful I get out two days a week to go to class or I'd go completely nuts I think. Ugh. I can't even walk two feet away most days without them screaming, and trying to fix their meals - yikes! I don't know when it will get better, but I hope it is soon. I have noticed the worse days for us seem to be right before they get a new tooth. They both have 3 of 4 molars and 2 of 4 canines, so I'm hoping we get a break from that soon.

 

Although I am sorry I have no answers I am so grateful you posted this as is does make me feel a little better as I thought it was just my two that were going through this frustrating stage.

 

Hang in there! I would say 15-19 months were the toughest times with the kids. I felt like nothing I did could make them happy...they had tantrums frequently & cried a lot. I found once they could communicate better, things started to improve. So hang in there, it does get better! :hug:

 

:hug: Honestly?...I let them cry a bit...I put Toys Story (they love it, I just recently discovered) and I get ready let's say in the morning. There are many times when they are banging the door and cry and scream while I'm getting dressed, but 1. as long as they are there, I know they are not in trouble, 2. I can get ready much faster without them opening and emptying every drawer in the bathroom/bedroom.
Hang in there....it is very hard, but it'll get better... :hug:

 

I totally agree with this. I don't remember it being this bad with my singleton but with two the crying/whining is never ending!!!! There is ALWAYS someone attached to my leg crying to be picked up. Even if one of them is having a good day the other still seems to be a crabby mess so it cancels the good one out!

I can't get anything done and to make matter worse they have started waking up at 5am!!! I find I have been using TV a lot, now that they actually like to watch it, as it gives me 10-15 min to get meals ready, go to the bathroom, change a laundry load, etc. I have honestly been finding this year more challenging in some ways (emotionally I think) than the first year. I hope it changes soon too .

 

Sorry, I have no advice, I am just happy to have read this thread... Same situation here! I don't think it's their character, just the stage they are going through. Hang on.