Birthday Woes

WOW never in a million years did I think this would turn into a "kristine is insulting and being bitchy" thread. I am so in shock that a few of you were overly sensitive to it and took it as an insult. I don't really think it was appropriate to address my original post with such hostility though. There is a rude way to say how you feel and a polite way and being a witch with a b because you thought I was being one is not cool and ends up making you look immature, in my opinion at least. But hey, to each his own right?

Oh and Snittens I have tried for 2+ years to get him to stop smoking but he's not ready and until he gets ready he's not going to stop. No one can make someone quit a habit if they aren't ready. That was uncalled for. Also saying "You know when you should start dressing like an adult, when you are one"...are you saying I am a child? THIS was rude, not my original post.

That's exactly what I was doing I guess some people didn't get the humor in it. I just have this vision of what being 29+ should be based on how I thought my Mom looked when I was growing up. Kids always think their parents are old farts <humor> so I was just referring to that.

I am not going to apologize for people misinterpreting what I original posted because I think the majority of the people who responded to my post understood what I meant. If you took it wrong I think you may have been taking it too literal and ignoring the humor in it. Especially the easy listening and dressing in the adult section at the stores section. As a kid I HATED the music my Mom listened to, I thought everything she listened to was for "old people" aka my Mom, who I thought was old but that's because in comparison to me she was, and I always thought her clothing choices were awful, but that may have been because it was the 80s and everyone's sense of style was a bit off...umm, Members Only jacket anyone? I always thought she showed her age and made me feel like my Mommy was an oldie because she didn't know who New Kids on the Block were and would BLAST Aaron Neville and Motown (which I love actually) everyday. But I think all kids, or at least most, look at their parents as so out of key with what's "cool".

I'm glad most of you can relate. My best friend, who is in her 40s, said that she cried when she turned 29 and just about everyone I've talked to (my friends/family) said it was the hardest too but that their 30s turned out to be WAY better then their 20s. My Mom was so distraught about turning 29 she hoped on a plane to NYC for a 48 hour party to escape her birthday.

So, yeah, um I guess if it rubbed you wrong I think it's because you were reading too much into it and taking me WAY to seriously.

If you're in your 30s, 40s, 50s, whatever it's all good and if you're happy then all the better but it doesn't mean we can't sulk a little..lol

-Kristine

 

I do get where you were going. It just doesn't really apply.

2 people I went to elementary school with were grandparents before they were 30 so that could blast any stereotypes totally out of the water. (well, about what grannies are - babies having babies is a whole other thing)

 

Ok I am confused, what really doesn't apply??

 

Your mom was cooler then you thought! :laughing: She knew how to partay. :drinks:

Woman, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone because there is always going to be a few that can take anything and make it out to be something bad/offensive. It is what it is, most got what you were saying. :good:

 

I suppose bad choice of words, I was going someplace but then changed my thought and forgot to delete it. I suggest you find a picture of your mother at 30 and marvel at what she really looked like.

Oh, and what you are wearing right now, is going to seem horribly out of date in 20 years too.

 

:rotflmbo:

 

How was it insulting? I'm 43 (about to be 44) and I can't find any insult there at all. We ALL go through different things that make us feel old and depress us a bit.

Turning 30 didn't bother me. Bradley starting high school got to me. I mean, heck I had surely not been out of high school long enough to have a child in high school. My most recent "dang I'm getting old" moment was when I realized one of our school's little pre-kers was the son of one of Brad's friends.

 

Oh and a way to get around the whole junior/misses clothes debate, is to shop at Banana Republic, GAP or Old Navy. No department, just sizes. I rarely head into a department store. Sometimes I do hit the Kohls Jr section. The jeans just fit way better on me. I have more of a boy build on bottom (my waist is larger proportion than my hips), and I can't help they fit better. Women jeans sag in my butt and hip/thigh area. :ibiggrin:

 

Those are all misses sizing. Just in brands that fit you well. Try J.Crew as well if you aren't hippy. Maybe Ann Taylor LOFT.

 

I agree ! Dept store jeans (tops are iffy) just don't do it for me either. I love Old Navy, everything is so cozy. Plus it's affordable.

 

I freaked about turning 30, but I think that was more about my place in life and what was going on. Now, now on the down side of the 30s...not bad at all. I do try to dress appropriate for my size and shape...more so than my age(do love my Old Navy jeans....they fit me the best). I do like my 30s better. I'm in a better place, have beautiful children, a wonderful husband, great job, and I'm just more comfortable with me. I think for some, turning 30, 35, 40, whatever age, is a milestone. For me, I remember when 30 seemed really old, but I now know it's not (40 is...haha)!

Oh...and I agree with Kendra (I think it was). Seeing a picture of my mom the same age as me was a shocker because I "remember" her being older, but she really wasn't.

 

The teens. Never want to go there again. Or think about it.

The twenties. When everything is new and you're out in the world and life is goooood. Party!

Ahhh, the thirties. When you are getting more comfortable with yourself and searching for your own path.

I'm loving my forties. My decisions are made on my own - and my mistakes too! And they're mine and I'll shout them all to the world or fix them because that's part of what maturity is all about. The best part is owning your life. And making choices based on what you want. Which means I don't wear makeup or high heels, bwahahaha!

I wonder what the fifties will bring?

There's downsides to everything but I don't think there's any upside to being in your teens. <shudder>