Yet another feeding dilemma

Hi again!

I swear I have the best twins in the world (knock on wood) but feeding is such an issue! I managed to get them on the same "schedule" for a bit, but now at 6 weeks my DD is 2 pounds heavier then DS...the problem stems from this. My DD is slowly starting to eat more at each feeding and sleeping 4-5 hours! DS however is still up every 3! I don't want to be waking up DD when DS wakes up b/c I don't want her to get in the habit of not sleeping and I can't very well starve DS until DD wakes up! But as it is right now I am absolutely NOt getting any sleep or me time!

Has anyone else had this problem and if so, what did you do? Or even if you haven't any advice would be very welcomed! THANKS

 

I did not have this problem, but I would recommend you put both of them on a 3 hour feeding schedule during the day, and at night, let DD sleep as long as she wants. Each time DD wakes at night, wake DS for a feeding too, right afterward (or feed both at the same time). Then, if he wakes up additional times at night, feed only him. And really work on distinguishing between night and day--lights and tv on during day, sleepsacks and dark at night or whatever.

It's great that she is sleeping longer and I would encourage her to do that--at night.

I suspect they will both soon be stretching the time between night feeds--around 6 weeks is really the hardest time with twins; soon it will get much better so just hang in there a little longer.

 

I agree to keep them on the same schedule during the day-feed them every three hours, or what it is that they are doing. Once one of my boys starting sleeping longer at night, I did NOT wake him at all. No way, no how! LOL! I could do a feed in thirty minutes vs one hour +! Hopefully they are on the same night schedule soon!

 

Ugh...mine are the same way. Of all the advice I asked for or was givin by twin moms, the resounding answer was "keep them on the same schedule feed them at the same time". They are now 3 1/2 months (but born at 31 weeks so 1 1/2 mos adjusted). My DD who has always been a pound lighter just cannot take the larger amounts of formula like her btother takes. Therefore she eats smaller amounts more frequently. I just feed her on demand but don't let her go any longer than 3 hours during the day. My DS eats 6-7 oz every 3 hours during the day. But I will do whatever it takes because this is working... they STTN from 7:30 to 7:30 and have been doing so for about 3 weeks. :woohoo: I am constantly feeding throughout the day.
That being said...earlier on I did feed the at the same time, even if I had to wake one up. What I did have to end up doing was separating them at night because I noticed I was always waking my DS because my DD was waking every 2-3 hours to eat. That first night I separated them he slept 7 straight hours.
I was a miserable mess from complete exhaustion before they started sleeping longer at night. I have never been thru anything so completely taxing. Sleep deprivation is used for torture and I can see why. But as twin mommies it seems like we all just have to put in our "time". But, I can;t believe I get to say this, it WILL get better!

 

I didn't put the girls on the same schedule at all during the first 4 months despite the advice I was given on here It was HORRIBLE. I never woke them and they were on such different schedules that most nights, the most sleep I got in a row was 90 min. And that was a good night. At 4 months, I put them on a schedule and things changed. They will learn to sleep as time goes on, but until then, you must get them on a schedule to have a little of your sanity (and sleep!). Not putting them on a schedule sooner is my biggest first year mistake.

 

Yeah...the most consecutive sleep I ever got was 90 minutes (on a good night too!)I actually found it easier to put mine on the same schedule th first month or 2 when they were eating such small amounts like 2 to 3 oz. As they have gotten older and taking more it has gotten more difficult. My DD will NOT eat if she is not hungry. Throws a wrench in the whole plan. However, I can forsee me being able to go back to keeping on the same schedule once my DD "catches up" and starts taking more...it WILL make life so much easier. I suppose every baby is different. :unknw:

 

Keep them on 3 hour schedule.feed them at the same time or 30mins apart.we kept our twins on 3 hour schedule until they were 5/6 months.babies that young need nutrition constantly for their brain and nerve system developments,even though they don't wake up and cry.you try 3 hour schedule for couple days, they will self adjust their intakes,..I have to say the first 4 Months were my best time. All they did were just eat, sleep, pee, poop. I know many will disagree though. But we had the schedule since day 1. It made life much easier

 

I did the same, during the day I would feed them every 3 hours. At night, I let them sleep until one woke up and fed them both.

Mine are 8 mths old and DD is 2 lbs lighter than DS. She finishes BF'ing before he does everytime, but is happy and not hungry sooner than him so I don't worry.

Good luck...scheduling seems to be the toughest thing - atleast for us!!