Ever been hurt on TS?

I have no issue. I'm only discussing it with you because you were the person arguing the issue. And you can have a straight answer from me on anything. I'm not sworn to mod room secrecy. Of course, are you still?

 

Good to know. And the way you get banned is??? Oh yeah... not kissing arse. That's right. :good: So for anyone going to freethinkers, be nice to them all or you'll get banned. So much for fairness, huh? Claiming TS is SO unfair.

:hush: I really have to stop coming in here...

 

I'm not arguing. I just didn't like that kelly was giving the impression that ts is so horrible. Not arguing at all, just trying to show the other side as well. Nope, not a mod anymore... but you can see that under my screen name, no?

 

Puh-lease. Freethinkers (and are you even allowed to talk about it here) was started because the mods/admin here banned a beloved member and would not even allow discussion on the issue without shutting down threads (I'm guessing this one is down for the count now). As far as I know (and I'm not very active there), no one has been denied membership or banned despite disagreement and free discussion and argument. Do you want to join? Oh wait, you aren't allowed per TS.

 

Not on my phone.

Kelly has been hurt, which she expressed. Point of the thread, no?

 

Whatever. I guess this place isn't my cup of tea.

And no, you don't get banned at Freethinkers for not kissing ***. You get banned for being a horrible person, never participating anyway, and there for no reason but to keep tabs on us. There's only one person that's ever been banned.

 

Hey, I was well aware of some of the goings-on anyway. Having it confirmed sucked, but honestly for me, that's not what really hurt. It was the crapping all over AAA after Erica got banned. That was unnecessary and spiteful.

 

My sentiments exactly, Kate!

 

Don't give yourself all that much credit. It's a dead site... hence you all being here. ardon:

And I just LOVE that my "cup of tea" comment comes out in status' and her friends are using it. :laughing: I am horrible, aren't I? :diablo:

 

Wow. Way to show how wrong people are about you. And people think I'm a mean girl. But I do enjoy being proven right, so thanks!

 

I don't need to show anyone anything, if they want to know they will get to know the real me... not listen to what others say. I said that above because a few have the attitude they are above "high school" drama and above me yada yada yada when that is all an act. We're all human and all get hurt, why not just say that and act that way? I do think a few over there can dish it but not take it... as proven with my tea comment

 

I'm late in the game--as usual, but no I've never been hurt on TS.
I've been insulted many many many a time. Almost to the point of being asulted.
But my mommy taught me that sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me.
I just turn off the computer and it's all gone.

 

I'm doing a pretty good job drawing my own conclusions based upon your behavior here. I have no idea what others say about you. But here, you've gone from pretending to be sympathetic to Kelly to outright mocking her. And Kelly fully admitted to being hurt, so I am really at a loss as to what you are trying to prove beyond showing everyone your true colors.

Of course everyone is capable of being hurt, but I truly haven't been here. Like Meli said, I can just turn off the computer when it's not fun anymore.

 

That is horrible! I am so sorry!

 

Wait, so now you are proud of being a "mean girl?"

WTG. You're right. That's awesome. I hope to have more friends like that. It's always fun to wonder if the person you're talking to is sincere or if the first chance they get they'll scream hateful things at you. Makes life interesting, right?

 

I wouldn't say I've been hurt. Some topics, some individuals, and some of the group dynamics annoy me. For me the worst thing is the cliquish behavior that we sometimes see; it can feel like some people just side with their buddies rather than give their real opinions, but like others I've found a lot more good than bad.

I'm sure there have been things I've said that bothered other people. I think this is part of what happens when you have such a diverse group of people. Sometimes people don't even realize their comments can be offensive. In other cases, people just misinterpret what people are saying, and sometimes people don't really want an honest answer, but I think most people are helpful most of the time. I've definitely learned a lot from the people on this site, and I'm thankful to all of you guys for the things you've taught me.

People don't violate terms of service because they take their trash talking off TS, so they can go on facebook or some other forum and say things about people, and they get to stick around TS because they didn't violate terms of service. So yeah I suppose people can't defend themselves because they aren't friends with people on facebook, aren't members of other sites, or they aren't friends in real life. Honestly, it's probably a total waste of time and energy running around trying to police everything that is said about us. (Imagine what it is like for celebrities.) That's why I try very hard to tune out things that are not constructive--not that I'm always successful at that .

No matter where we are people talk smack about other people, and they often do it when those people aren't around. It's probably part of human nature, who knows. It sucks, but maybe people should be flattered that others are thinking about them rather than taking care of their own business. :laughing: In the end, it's probably best to just try to ignore as much of it as possible (unless it turns into actual stalking or something). In my experience, the more people know that their comments get to people, the more they talk about those people.

 

I have never been hurt by anyone on TS, but I too have been shocked by things that people say to each other. \I would never be willing to post a topic on here which would allow for responses that would hurt me. I will never post relationship issues on here or parenting mistakes I have made because I would be afraid someone would say something that could hurt my feelings. These topics are discussed only with my close friends and family, whom I trust. I am incapable of trusting anyone on here because I don't know anyone personally. It's impossible to build a relationship via the internet. I use this forum to share joyous occasions, ask for advice from BTDT twin mommies, and to share funny stories and support other people. PEople who do share personal information are looking for support and encouraging words, so if people choose that time to say hurtful things, then they can live with that. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! All I hope is to offer support and encouragement to other TS members for many years to come

 

Nope, wouldn't say hurt. I'd say more that trust should be earned and I've learned it the hard way. So, more shame on me for allowing myself to feel bad when I should have known better.

 

I would like to remind everyone that threads in this forum need to adhere to the TOS. There are some conversations going on here that would be better for a PM amongst the individuals participating. If the thread continues as a public PM, it will have to be closed. Let's try to get back to the original question and keep it as friendly as possible. Thanks!

** If anyone needs to re-read the TOS they can be found at the top right hand corner of this page.

 

opcorn:

 

TOS only applies to certain people in certain areas of the site, no?

 

Me too. (popcorn.)
Just wanted to say that your girls have changed SOOO much! cute!

 

If you see a TOS violation and you believe that a mod/admin has not seen it, please use the report button to alert the mod team. It's impossible to keep track of every thread and every possible violation. There is more leniancy given in the Den than in other forums though.

 

I think TOS are rules? right? I get in trouble all of the time so No, they apply to me too LOL and I'm just a regular here LOL!

 

I have to say that I read through all of this twice and have absolutely NO IDEA what the discussion turned into... it seems to have become about some secret society that regulars don't know about? Not sure. Anyway.. back to the original question..

No. I have never been "hurt" by anyone here. I think to be hurt you have to actually know someone. You can't be hurt if you have never met someone, seen them etc.

I've been annoyed for sure, but never hurt. People I run into on the internet can't affect me that much

It's great to hit topics now and then and to read about things but to be hurt.. doubtful.

 

Ditto Melissa. There's a link to TOS in the upper right corner of the page. All forums are moderated, and no one is exempt from the rules. Moderators have occasionally gotten strikes.

Also, if someone is harrassing you via PM, there is a report button just like for posts. Though PMs are private and only participants can read them, they are still subject to TOS.

 

Yes and if you "break" the rules 3 times, it's 3 strikes and you're out.

Well, most of the time anyway. Sometimes you're only out for a little while.

 

The randomness sure makes it seem personal. It's not just three violations and you're out, it three violations that someone decides to enforce. I've seen pretty astonishing things let go,(with multiple mods participating) and totally lame things enforced. I, for one, have never had a strike although I freely admit I've deserved them. And there is a running joke with another member who shall remain nameless about her apparent immunity to strikes. Some have been unbanned, and some have had their accounts deleted although that officially isn't "done".ardon:

 

Hey, don't be mean to the mods! They only allow people back in who do small and petty thing like, you know, call a mummy (and a gestational surrogate) of twins murderer... now if you do something real bad like, say, talk about mormon underwear you are out FOREVER!

 

If you are concerned about a particular post or need clarification of the TOS, please contact a mod or admin and we will attempt to answer your question. Although we cannot discuss whether or not other members have received strikes, etc. I am sure that there are times that things are missed. We are not perfect. I know that right now I am attempting to pack myself and four children for a week long trip and it's hard to keep track of what is going on in this thread alone, let alone the entire TC and BF forums that I moderate.

 

thanks! they got some serious attitude problems, tho <_<

 

No WAY!! :laughing: I *heart* your cutie girls!!

 

Not even sure I want to be a part of this conversation it sure did go downhill. :escape:
BUT yes I did get my feeling hurt. AND honestly to say what comes around goes around and if you had your feelings hurt I am sure you hurt someones feelings are false. I have never gone out of my way here ever to hurt someone. In fact when topics usually go bad like this I run for the hills :escape:
The funny thing is when I first came here we lived in Alaska we lived far away from family and friends. My husband was deployed my closest friend in Alaska moved to Guam and I came here hoping to find friendships. It was a hard lesson to realize that not everyone comes here for the same reasons. I wanted to add on to this but I can't even put into words what I am trying to say if this dosen't get closed I may be back when I get my thoughts together. :drown:

 

Holy cow! Look at what a can of worms I unknowingly opened! I didn't even know there was this underground conspiracy going on. I just thought I've met a few mean, but many many wonderful people on here. I'm usualy the kind that gets mad instead of hurt. What got me thinking on this topic was some comments I have read about other people's posts. I've thought many times "I can't believe people would be that mean to a fellow twin mom. Wow! If they were saying things like that about me I'd never come back here." I don't want to go through life hurting people (even if I'm "just being honest"). There's always a better way to say what you really feel without ripping someone a new one. I would hate to see someone leave this community of support because a couple of ladies and their nastiness.

p.s. I've noticed there's a "cool kids" group too, but as long as everyone can play together...

 

Did you seriously start this whole post because of me? Really? I don't even remember what I said to annoy you (something in response to a post about poor people in the Den as I recall?) but please move on. Or discuss with me directly. This is too passive aggressive for words.