twin bonds

I am just wondering if it makes a difference if twins are the same sex as opposed to b/g twins; is the bond stronger or the same?

I am starting to come across people who say they have b/g twins in their family and they were constantly fighting while growing up. This has thrown me for a loop and I am really hoping mine are not going to be like that.

What have your experiences been like?

 

Well, I have b/g twins and they don't even make note of each other. My daughter just chases my oldest son around the house while her twin sits and plays. She could care less about him and vice versa. Hopefully this changes and they become good friends.

 

We have boys....and they seem to really notice and play with each other. They started noticing each other around 3-4 months. Now they play all the time - chase each other, look at each other and randomly laugh, etc. They also take toys from each other and are starting to act a bit jealous, especially when I have one of them and not the other. They do also play on their own about half the time or more and sometimes just completely ignore each other.

 

There is hope! I have no idea if it makes a difference if twins are the same sex or not, but I have b/g twins who are EXTREMELY close. They truly are each other's best friend. Their preschool teacher is always telling me how cute they are together. They will play with other kids at school, but if one of them gets upset about something, the other is right there giving hugs & they stay together until the upset one calms down. At home, they play so well together & rarely fight. We try to separate them sometimes for different activities, but when we do, they really seem to miss each other.

 

Well I have ID boys and while they do have a really close bond and can make each other laugh for hours and will play together until bed they do have normal sibling rivalry issues. Despite the fact that some of the toys we have duplicates of if River has something Alex wants, Alex will steal it from him and River will start crying. They also pull each other's hair...I'm hoping this stops soon.

 

Mine have finally got to the point where they notice each other and will laugh together. I just hope that continues. DD is a screamer though and every time she screams, DS just starts crying. I hope that phase will end soon. They also keep taking stuff from the other, DS more than DD.

Thanks for sharing your experience, I was just really curious as to what others have gone through. Just wanted to hear some better stories than what I have been the last couple of days.

 

Not sure if this helps but I grew up with b/g twins who were the same age as me and lived down the street. I was very good friends with both of them and they were extremely close with each other and still are as adults.

My girls are ID and while they can now entertain each other, at this point there is lots of fighting over toys (already) and TONS of hair pulling (oh no!). One is crawling more than the other so she often chases her big brother around while her sister sits and plays. I have hope they will become the best of friends

 

I wonder if there have been any large studies done on this subject. It would be interesting to see.

My experience is that it doesn't make a difference if they are b/g or same sex. Thinking about it (not something I've really done before) I would not say that Alyssa and Bryony are closer than Naomi and Luke. They are all in separate classes at school and N & L spend more time doing different activities out of school (although they do have two extra-curricular classes they attend together) because their parents make a real effort to spend one-on-one time with each of them, whereas A & B go to all the same classes/activities outside school. However in their free (unscheduled) time N & L are just as likely, possibly slightly more likely, to choose to play together as A & B are.

I think it is more each child's personality, and the way they are treated within the family, than sex which determines how close a bond they have.

 

Same here exact I do have boy/girl twins.

Maybe I am the lone dissenter but I would like mine to be like regular brother and sister, and not so tightly bound as twins. Of course, whatever relationship they have will develop on its own.