I am so conflicted about this I figured I would ask everyone if I am crazy! I have a good friend who is getting married next weekend. There was a big snafu with the invites and so I am planning a trip last minute. DH does not want to go and wants me to go without him. It is a 7 hour drive, so I would likely go on Thursday night and stay through Sunday or Monday. I don't know if I can handle being away from my twinkies that long! So, I am considering bringing them with me. Before you tell me I am completely nuts, the location of the wedding is also where DH is from so my MIL and BIL/SIL are there. If I brought them, they would be watched by grandma for the wedding and any other time I wanted to go out. A lot of people are telling me to take it as a chance to vacation by myself, but I work and so my time with them is more limited than someone who SAH. In fact, for the first 10 months I was back at work, I would basically see them an hour a day unless it was a weekend, so I still feel like I am playing catch up. I have switched jobs and will have more time with them now, but I will be working 24 hour shifts so I still will be away from them more than most. Also, I am still nursing them in the AM and at bedtime and although they do fine without it if I am not home, I am afraid that if I am gone for several days they will have weaned when I come back and I don't think I am ready for that. Am I nuts for thinking I can take this on? I would basically be alone for the drive and in the hotel, and otherwise we would either be visiting friends, going to the zoo, or having a family member watch them. What would you do?
You are brave! We did a 4 hours 1-way trip and my boys screamed the entire drive...both ways. Maybe if you drove at night so they were sleeping. thats not an option for us because our boys do not sleep in the car. I hear ya about being at work and only seeing them for 1-2 hours a day. I do that too and I feel that I can't do much during the weekend because I want to soak up all the hugs and kisses! So I dont think I could mentally go without them! Good luck, Jenn
i would do it - it'll probably be a ton of work, but for me, it would be worth. especially if you aren't ready to wean yet - that would be my worry too. GL with your decision!
I would SOOOO do it! It will be an adventure. You are not crazy. It helps knowing family will be there too. Please let us know what you decide. Just think of it as a REALLY long errand.
I think I would go for it too. You'll have extra help when you arrive and you won't have to be away from your kiddos.. that's a no brainer for me!
I would say no if you did not have your IL's there to help you out, but since you have some extra hands around to help out...I'd say go for it.
I've become much more adventurous as the kiddos have gotten older, so yeah, I'd go for it too. Especially if you're BFing twice a day. Just be loose and have fun with it!
I would totally do it too! If you didn't have help on the other end I'd say no, but since you'll have extra hands, for sure go for it! Pack lots of snacks, drinks, new toys, and I seriously suggest a dvd player! It helps even if they won't watch a whole movie
If you feel you can handle the drive on your own and if you're happy to leave them in the care of your MIL then go for it! I bet your family there would love the chance to see them as well. Is it just the wedding your DH doesn't want to go to? Maybe he would like to go if he could also stay with his family while you attend the wedding, then you'd have help for the journey. Travelling after bedtime is a good idea if your babies sleep in the car. Hope you have a great time.
It is actually I want to go to the wedding but I was planning on going to a conference that weekend after not hearing about the wedding. I was more than happy to watch the twinkies while slugrad98 went to STL without them. I know my wife can do. Heck if I can stay home everyday with them they not burn the house down. Then anyone can do it. I just don't know if I am going to be able to sleep knowing that my wife and kids are not going to be in the same house as me let alone the same state.
If I knew there were people that were going to help, I'd take them with me to. I love having my girls with me and as long as I knew that people would be able to help out, I'd not think twice about it.
Thanks everyone! I am going and taking them with. Very excited about the adventure. And yes, that is my wonderful DH who is posting. He doesn't post as often as I do because he is home with the kids when I work
I havent read all the answers but I say go with your gut instinct. If you are still BF and you have family who can watch them, then take the twins with you. However, if your DH is happy to mind the twins then let him! I´ve found it very hard to be away from my twins (they spend time with the ILs and the longest I´ve gone without seeing them is 5 days!) but Im learning to do it (I keep busy!). You may well be surprised and have a good time! GL with your decision!
