Am I Crazy? I already have 2 babies!

I just found out I am pregnant with baby number 3! I am half really excited and half questioning my sanity. My twin girls just turned 1 last month, so they will be 21 months when this baby is born. Does anyone else have a baby or expecting a baby within that age group? Is that crazy to have them so close together? The reason we wanted to is so that all our kids would be close enough in age to play together, and we will probably have the next one soon after too so this one doesn't feel left out. I guess I just need reassurance that was a good idea!!!

 

Congrats!!! There are actually quite a few in your situation around here

 

That's my age spread exactly!!!!!!! Baby girl was a surprise, and I had a hard time grasping what it would be like because the boys had just turned one. They weren't walking, self-feeding a little, still pretty clingy, etc. By the time, baby girl arrived, the boys had grown up a lot. They still needed/need me, but they are much more self-sufficient than I thought they would be. Love the age spread, although it does have it's trying times, they are all packed right there together!

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Congrats!!!!!!!

 

Yes, you are crazy - and so am I!! My boys will be 18 months when their little brother comes - I am 28 weeks along. For some reason, this pregnancy is much harder than my first pregnancy... I wonder why!! It was unplanned and I was nursing at the time so my cycle was very irregular. I took a pregnancy test assuming it would be negative, but I was WRONG! I was in shock and denial for weeks after finding out, but am excited and nervous for #3. And it is nice that they will be close in age. I am also already thinking about baby #4 - gotta go for the girl!!!

Congratulations, and keep us posted!

 

Yup! I am 38wks today and my boys will be 18 months on the 5th! If your crazy then so am I We had them close together for the same reasons you did....basically didn't want to end the "baby stage" just to start it up again. Good luck!!!

 

I am 23 weeks pregnant with baby #3, a surprise. There will be a 21 month age gap between the twins and baby #3. DH and I are a little nervous about the whole thing. We just bought a new house because we didn't want to cram 5 people into a 2 bedroom townhouse.

 

Congratulations! My pregnancies are all 19 months apart and though it is chaotic sometimes and more then a little exhausting and all encompassing, I am so happy that we have all our children so close in age. Every birth of a baby has its adjustment period where everyone is trying to figure out what the heck just happened, but, honestly, infant twins was the hardest most exhausting experience for me and each added baby after that has been a lot easier.

 

MusicalAli- Thanks! I really am relieved to see how many people replied saying they are/have been here, it makes me feel less insane. My husband and I were talking about how our family is going to think we are crazy and taking on too much, but really I feel like it is right for our family and none of our family knows what it has been like to have our twins. My life is busy, but not at all in a bad way!!

Snoopytwins- I can't imagine if this was a surprise, that would take a lot more getting used to the idea! And it is good to hear that your boys became more independent because that has been a real concern, I just don't want my girls to feel neglected because my time is split. How were they with your baby girl when she first came? It's good to know I'm not alone!

Weegus- 18 months will be really close! I was that close to my sister in age and I absolutely loved having a sibling I could relate to more. And you are having another boy- I am sure he will look up to your older boys! Good luck on getting a girl! I know what you mean about the denial. I am so excited, and we planned this... I am just definitely in denial. I just didn't expect it to happen so fast!

Mrs. Wright- you are due soon! Congratulations! You will have to let me know how it goes and how your boys react to a new baby in the house! Do they understand that there is going to be a baby? I have wondered if my girls will really understand?

Amber G.- so you have the exact same gap that I do! My husband isn't nervous at all, he loves his kids and wants a million of them. I just told him last night that my limit is having babies like this for 10 years, then it's over. He thinks I am a baby machine! I am the one that is nervous more, I just want to be able to give this next one all of the attention that the twins get. Congrats on the new house! Are you all moved in already?

Joyful- Thanks! You have such a good attitude about your kids! I am glad to hear that the singles were easier for you than the twins were. I have heard that a lot, and I am looking forward to experiencing what a singleton is like. I am really excited to have our kids close in age too, I feel like it will give them more support at home in their school years. Congrats on your family!

 

I'll definitley keep you updated...if I have time :lol:

and no the boys do not understand there is a baby in my belly or that there is one coming home soon. They do know what babies are and where the baby sleeps but that is about it. We have a doll for them but they really think of it as their own baby, not one that is hands off!

 

Another nut here! My youngest son is 7 yrs younger than the twins, but will turn 2 a week before this baby is born he's 20 months now). I'm honestly a bit scared, but it's a bit late to turn back now right? I think it'll end up being great. Just think how close they will all be and how easy it will be to plan vacations with them all being interested in relatively the same things and able to do the same activities. We always have to get really creative to plan family vacations because the big boys want to do things that they think are fun that the little one can't do at all.

My 20 month old does understand Mommy has a baby in her tummy. He will come up to me and lift my shirt up and say "Hi Baby!" or kiss my stomach and say "Aw, Baby!" He also will bring his blanket to me when I'm on the couch and lift my shirt up and use it to "cover up the baby" and he loves to rock his teddy bear and kiss it while saying "nite, nite baby". It's all so very sweet!

 

Mrs. Wright- Thanks! And I won't feel bad if you are too busy to get on twinstuff I am sure your boys will understand to be 'soft' when you have your baby. My girls have an obsession with poking dolls eyes, but hopefully they won't do that with a real baby!!

Haley'sHope- Yeah I guess we can't really change our minds once the baby is on it's way! I really agree with you about the vacations and interests, I am excited for them all to be in about the same age group. That is so sweet that your little boy is already helping you with the baby and loving it and it's not even here yet!! I am looking forward to that. Do you know what you are having?

 

Our youngest was 18 months old when our twins came and the twins were 18 momnths when the one under them came. After that the age differences went to 14 and 15 months apart. It is definitely do-able and enjoyable while you're doing it! I love having them all so close. Our twins and the 2 under them are all boys. Our group of little boys will soon all be 5,4 and 3. It's such an amazing thing to me to watch them all together. You're not crazy by any stretch of the imagination. I wouldn't trade it. They are the best of friends.

 

My older two were about that space apart. Granted I only had one to start and added one. It made it nice, they were still fairly close and could share a lot of interests. My older ds and the twins are about 13 years apart and they play but not the same way. I think older ds feels a little left out. I think your spacing will be great!!!

Jen

 

My oldest was 24 months when the twins were born, so no you aren't the only one. There are lots of us judging from this thread. Congrats!

 

Thanks everyone!! You all helped me feel less scared. When I posted I had just barely found out less than 24 hours before so I was in a little bit of shock! I am not too worried anymore, just excited and a little nervous to see how it will turn out. I guess I was just worried a little because everytime we told people we wanted another one sooner than later they looked at us like we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into! But that really doesn't matter, because it's what we want and judging by all of your posts, you have all enjoyed being in this same situation. I don't know how I would be feeling without knowing you all have been there and loved it!

 

My twins were 16 months when my son was born. It's pretty difficult getting out of the house right now but I'm sure as they get older it will be easier and I am looking forward to them all playing together. Some days are harder than others but overall after having twins one baby is a piece of cake. LOL The twins do great with him although they do get whiny sometimes cause they just want mom. It's not as bad as I was afraid it could be though. Congratulations and enjoy your pregnancy. I am definitely not ready to have another one anytime soon. We had a scare last week and I about had a breakdown. LOL Congrats again!!!

Forgot too add he was a total surprise...we did IVF to get our twins and I'd only had one period after quitting breastfeeding so we about fell over when that test turned positive! LOL

 

My twins were 21.5 months when surprise baby sister was born. It was a rough start initially, but she's 6 months old now, the twins are 27 months and we just potty trained!!! Life has definitely improved and its sweet to see them all play together.
You can do it and as others have stated Im happy to chat about any specific questions you may have