My 28-month-olds are supposed to go stay with Grandparents for 4 days...and I'm chickening out!

Sheesh, I can't even believe I'm typing this. I thought I had been waiting for this day....and now that it is almost here, I'm chickening out! :laughing:

Next week is my DH and my last week of school, an all-around pretty crazy time of the school year. I asked my parents a few weeks ago if they would want to take the "babies" for 4 nights next week, they said "Sure!" They are coming down this weekend for Lennon's preschool graduation, staying the weekend, and then going back up to their house (3 hours north) on Monday with the little guys. They will keep them until Friday and come back down to our house on Friday, and watch the kids for us on Sunday while we go to the Indy 500.

I totally, completely, without a doubt, trust my parents to watch my kids. But, now I'm freaking out about them being gone for 4 nights, being 3 hours away, etc. etc. etc. I want to call the whole thing off on one hand, and on the other hand, I know it is a good thing! :gah: Lennon has spent many weekends (and 5-6 days at a time) with both sets of grandparents, but for some reason the idea of 2 of my 3 kids being 3 hours away is making me freak out!

Please, someone remind me why this is an awesome opportunity for them (who, by the way, keep saying they want to go see Mimi and Pappy even though they have no idea that they are supposed to be going there in a few days) and a great opportunity for my DH and I to have it a little easier on the last week of school, as well as have some 1:1 time with our oldest DS.

Am I crazy for suddenly worrying about this? Anyone else experience these feelings when you have plans to spend time away from your twins?

Thanks!!

 

Not crazy if you worry about it, but crazy if you don't send them home with your parents!! Seriously, seriously, seriously...think of some fun things you can do with Lennon that the boys are just too young for. To celebrate your end of school, his graduating and the start of summer. What I wouldn't give for someone to take my kids overnight for 1 night...never mind 4!!! And think of the fun they will have having some time alone with Mimi and Pappy, just as Lennon has been able to do over the years.

DO NOT WORRY!!!

 

Evan has NEVER EVER spent a night away from me. He is 25 months. The twins have only been gone from me for 2 nights when E was born. I have resisted being apart from them. :hug: It's hard, but it sounds as if it would be a great opportunity for you to spend some one on one time with your oldest! I bet he'll enjoy that!

 

If you chicken out, can they take my two for four days? :lol:

Seriously, don't chicken out, you'll disappoint your parents!!

 

:rofl: I was thinking the same thing!!


Jori....

 

Jori, my mother only lives an hour away and I do get a little nervous when she does take them...not because I don't trust her but I just get nervous. However, my kids enjoy their time with my Mom (and my Dad when he was alive) and she's the only grandparent they have so I think of it as a good opportunity for them to spend as much time with her as they can.
:youcandoit: The break will be good for you and them! Go for it! When the kids are with my Mom, I call her in the morning to talk to them and her and before they go to bed.

 

Here's my two cents:

Your feelings are totally valid, but its a very, very good thing for your kids to have extended grandparent time. It builds a strong family bond; it gives you a break, so that you will be "refreshed" when they come back; it allows you precious one or one time with your other child; it helps acknowledge that everyone in the family has needs and that even mommys and daddys need a little break.

Think way, way into the future now, about when YOU are a grandparent, and these little ones are grown up and parents and ask you to keep their kids for 4 days. You will feel like you've been given a precious, precious gift. You will treasure each of the 4 days, store it up in your heart and revisit it from time to time as your grandchildren grow up. (Then you will sleep for a week after the kiddos are back with their parents.)

Truly, this is GOOD thing. Easy, no. Will you miss them? YES! But is it a good thing? YES, YES, YES!

All best,

Meg -- mom to 4 year old boy/girl twins

 

I understand what you are feeling, really I do, BUT....DO NOT CHICKEN OUT!

I honestly believe it makes you a better mommy if you give yourself a break every now and then. PLUS...they need the bonding time with the grandparents.

 

You are so right, Maureen. When Lennon heard me talking about it to my DH and I said I can't decide if I should send them or not...Lennon said, "SEND THEM!!" :laughing:

I'm sure my parents would love to have 2 more kids to call grandkids! And you are right, it would disappoint them for sure.

Nancy, very true. It is important for them to spend this time with their grandparents.

Meg, your post made me :cry: Everything you said is exactly how I feel, I'm just having such a panic over it! And wow, what a powerful statement you made about the precious, precious gift this will be for the grandparents and how they will pull on this memory for years and revisit it in their heart. :wub: I know that is so true, they still talk about times they had Lennon when he was just 2.5 and funny memories, etc.

Thank you for the very heartfelt reminder of how very important it is for me to let them go!

I think you are right, it does improve your mommy skills to get breaks now and then. I've never spent more than 1 night away from them! So, this will be a good thing.


Thank you to everyone who responded! :grouphug: After reading all of your messages, I told my DH, "Ok, they are going." I hate to deprive my kids and my parents of a wonderful time just because I'm having little panic attakcs over it. I still get nervous when Lennon leaves for a weekend or longer and he's gone a million times to gradnparents' homes - so I know that I just need to keep my nervousness to myself and not punish Sullivan, Finley, Mimi or Pappy because of my own worries and fears!

Thank you!