Feeling very alone

I am a single mom, have been since mid feb. I am living at home with my parents for help. They are away this week, back on thursday and today was AWEFUL. I barely slept as both babies were up all hrs of the night, I think I slept 2 hrs before someone got up to eat. They didnt nap together today so I couldnt grab a much needed nap. I took the 3 oout hoping a change of scenery would help, Donevan my 2 yr old didnt listen to me and ran all over the store and the parking lot, resulting in frayed nerves and a quick return home. William has been screaming all day, Nathaniel only wants to nurse, my boobs are killing me. Donevan pooped in his pants at super, I swear he does it on purpose. I feel like crap, I am sore, nauseaus, dizzy, tired. I sat down and cried freaking out my 2 yr old. What the hell am I going ot do when I get my own place? I'll be in the looney been before the twins are a yr! PLease tell me it gets easier.

 

It gets easier. :hug: :hug: :hug:

The sleep deprivation of having twinfants is horrible, you will feel so much better (still crazy at times, I admit, but physically better, emotionally better, and more equipped to deal with the challenges of parenting).

2.5 year olds are hard enough, let alone a 2.5 year old and twin infants. Do whatever you can to survive. Do they sleep any better in a swing or bouncy seat? Try it out. Do you use white noise? Give it a shot. Have any friends that can come break up the tediousness of the days? Invite them over! Pack all 3 kids up and just drive around town, get yourself a yummy coffee drink and turn up the radio! :hug:

You will feel better, you are at a really hard point right now. :hug:

 

Having twins is VERY hard. Having an older toddler is even harder and then throw in the fact you are a single mamma.... of course you are feeling stressed but YOU CAN DO THIS :youcandoit: Think of it this way, life would be awful without your kids in it. I try and imagine that when i have a down moment and can come back with renewed energy. If you can get a little help and give yourself a "free" hour do it. It's worth a $$ and you come back to the kids and see them in a new light.

Hang in there.... cry if you need to and :hug: s to you.

 

:hug:It does get easier! :hug: Every day a little bit. Stay with your parents as long as you need to, I'm sure they're happy to have you. Taking care of 3 kids is not easy, doing it alone? I can't even imagine. Kudos to you momma!

 

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I am in awe over any woman who can raise a toddler AND twin INFANTS by themselves! Yes, you have your parents to help support you, but I just can't imagine how exhausted and emotionally drained you must be every single day. You should be so proud of yourself for being so strong and independent!! I promise you things will get easier little by little. When our boys were 4 months old I often said to myself "I love my boys but sometimes I don't like them" (which is a comment I saw from another TS member then and totally agreed!). It is totally natural and NORMAL for you to feel the way you do. So cry all you want, and come here and vent ANY time you want! Your twins are still at a difficult age, but at around 5 or 6 months old I no longer dreaded going home from work, heh. And now, OMG just anticipating seeing my babies will put a huge smile on my face. And the nights are soooo much easier. I won't lie, the nighttime wakings and nap battles are still a PITA sometimes, but we still get a good amount of sleep overall at night (which was NOT the case at 4 months!) which allows us to cope with our boys when they have a crying fit. I still get frustrated at our little poopers occasionally and drop a curse word here and there...but overall they are by far the highlight of my day, and some day in the not too distant future you will feel the same way. They will give you even more strength than you already have, which is just a flat out amazing amount of strength already. Hang in there momma and know that this too shall pass (eventually)!! :hug:

 

:hug: Momma!! It does get easier, and I think we have all had days like that. It's no fun at all. I hope everyone sleeps well for you tonight, so you can wake up refreshed tomorrow. :hug:

 

:hug: I am so sorry you are feeling alone and overwhelmed!

 

Definitely, you are in the thick of it and it's all about pure survival!!! :hug: You can do it, momma!! It will get better!! Do whatever you need to right now to keep your sanity. Shut yourself in a room and cry - disregard all sleeping "rules" and sleep every time you can, and let your LOs sleep in swings or carseats or whatever works.

Definitely try and get some help if there's anyone who can give you a few hours to sleep or get away or whatever you need!!

 

Thanks girls, everyone slept their night last night thank god. William went down at 9 and slept till 8:30 this morning and Nathaniel went down at 8:15 and slept till 7. I was able to sleep from 9:30-7 which was heaven. Hopefully today will be better, we have a doctors appointment with the three, should be intresting

 

Oh, thank goodness you got a good night's sleep! Hang in there... I have help and I still cry too. It is very hard. I made a list for myself of the things that I love about them and that's what I look at when I'm feeling frustrated or helpless. Good luck ... many hugs to you!

 

I'm so so sorry! That's sounds horrible! I know you are just venting, but I do have some thoughts. Regarding your 2 year old pooping, you might want to try a daily dose of miralax or cup of apple juice to make pooping more easy for him and to make pooing happen at the same time each day. For the twins, I found that if I woke them and fed them together first thing in the AM, it was easier to keep them on the same schedule all day. I did try to keep mine on the same feeding schedule when I was on maternity leave because then they were more likely to nap at the same time. Things will get better - hang in there!

 

I agree! Don't even think about moving out on your own for now! I only have the two babies, no other children and I was going crazy, too. I went back to work when they were 10 weeks old because I needed a break. Honestly, my work time is the easiest part of my day. I know my babies are well cared for while I'm at work and I'll have a nice break from baby-duty. I would still be a nervous wreck if I was at home all day.

You are doing the super tough job of staying home and I think that is way harder than being a working mom. You can do it! Extra sleep always helps. That's great that they slept so long for you!