really need some CIO advice

this morning i put the LO's down as i always do about 15 mins before they actually fall asleep.
one LO (the one that needs to be soothed, head rubbed, etc.) did not sleep. he finally fell asleep and woke up 10 mins later. i attempted to go back in and soothe him. after 5 mins of head rubbing, he just wasn't falling asleep.
i was going to try CIO.

the other twin fell asleep and slept for an hour.
he woke up when his brother started wailing around 11. he was due to wake up anyway but still.

what do you do for naptime CIO.
how long until they actually fall asleep and if they cant fall asleep, what do you do? leave them?
what if they cry (like he did today) for the full hour of naptime. the kid got no nap!!! im attempting naptime again in a few mins and i hope he's ok to fall asleep.

 

:hug: I would let mine cry for the whole hour before and it was hard. Usually if they cried for that long it really wore them out and I'd have to move up the next nap. GL!

 

the good napper passed right out. the other LO was screaming for what seemed like an hour. i think it was honestly 10 mins.
i rubbed his head and now hes sleeping. : (

 

i can not deal with the screaming.
they are both screaming uncontrollably. how long does this go on for? i feel like there is no way they can fall asleep? do i let them lay there and cry until their 'scheduled' naptime is over?

 

When we did CIO for naps at 6 months I let them cry for an hour. It was really hard for me to do this and I usually had to call a friend or go sit outside to distract myself. They rarely cried that long, though. After the first couple of days, they fell asleep quickly. I've always had more problems keeping my DS asleep. (He's known for 45 min. naps). Mine do not nap together, though. I separated them when they were a few months old because I had such a hard time getting them to nap well that I didn't want them to wake each other.

Now they go down for naps sooooo easily. I give them a sip of water, they lay down and hold their lovey and go right to sleep. I think it will get easier for you. I hope things improve soon!

 

I also had to let them cry for the full hour a couple times before they figured it out. I did CIO cold turkey because mine actually get more worked up if I go in and try to soothe. Especially for my DS it is all or nothing! When I did CIO for naps I separated them because DD would go down easily and rarely fussed but DS would scream at the top of his lungs. I put him in a pack n play in another room. The other thing I found that helped was being consistent with playing soothing music and having a special lovey used only for bed. If he did cry the entire hour, I then got him up, got him calmed down, distracted, fed, whatever, and then aimed for the next nap a little earlier since he cried through the first nap window. So, usually the schedule was up at 7, down for nap by 9, down for the next nap by noon but if he cried through nap I would try it about 11 or so....etc. I am lucky enough to have two floors and would go downstairs, turn the TV on to distract from the crying and only turn the monitor on about every 5-10 minutes to see if he quieted. That way I could stick to the hour time limit without going crazy from the screams. It only took a few days and now they are great nappers. We never have to rock them, just lay them down, hand them their lovey, turn on the crib soother music player, and walk out. Good luck! The more you stick to it the easier it gets. :clapping: :youcandoit:

 

I am having a similar problem. DS will fuss now just a few min then off to sleep he goes. DD has to be rocked for 10 min or so. The problem with us is that they arent in the same room. DS has been in our room and we are so ready to have it back and have him in his crib in the nursery with DD. Right now they wake each other up somtimes when 1 starts going to town crying..UGH im dreading it