Do you separate yor twins?

Hello! I wanted to ask you whether you separate your twins at all, meaning for example if you go for walk with one while the other one stays with his dad?what have you noticed/suggest in this topic from your experience.we have just started at 16 months separating them for a walk or something similar and we noticed that they are calmer.i need some feedback dear friends!!!

 

Yes, we do. If one of us is running to the store and the other is staying home, we'll take one and leave one. I've also sent one to mother's day out and kept a sick one home. The girls seems to do really well being on their own. I was worried at first, but they thrive during their "alone" time.

 

One of my biggest regrets is that we never separated them early on. They have always (and I mean always!) been together except for two late night ER visits and they are 3 1/2 now!

 

My DH and I have separated them from time to time and they seem to do just as well apart as they do together.

 

Yes, we separate them to run errands or different things on the weekend. We don't have family in the area, so we take a "break" by only having one child. It is a good experience for all of us. Afterwards, my DH and I say "it's so eeeaaasssyy with ONE!" My kids don't mind being separated. They seem to like the one on one attention.

 

Yes, we separate them when running errands. One goes with DH and one stays home with me.

 

I don't think we separate them as much as we should, and I also wish we would have started separating them earlier. Now when and if we do separate them, they are so caught up in where the other one is they don't enjoy their alone time.

 

we've started separating them once in a while - i'd like to make more of a habit of it though. usually whoever ends up staying home is pretty upset at first but will calm down pretty quickly. i find though that whoever i've got with me when we're out & about is usually a little clingier & shyer than when i'm out with both of them. it's kind of nice though because i can worry less about anyone making a break for it!

 

" usually whoever ends up staying home is pretty upset at first but will calm down pretty quickly. "

THat's what happens in my house and who ever stays home cries the entire time...
so do you leave with out the other one seeing you leave???
Even if the one that stays at home is distracted and playing with toys..he/she will stop and then run to the door and cry...

 

At this age we would have one day on the weekend where one would stay with nana and the other with me for one on one time.

 

i'm not a big believer in sneaking out - i think that can cause a lot of anxiety because they never know when mom or dad are going to leave. by saying goodbye & giving kisses or whatever & letting them know you're going, they may be upset the whole time you're gone but at least they know what's going on, KWIM? when i leave i try not to make too big a deal out of it - i usually say "mommy & Riley/Danika are going out for a little while and you'll stay home & have fun with daddy! see you soon!", give a kiss & go. i think the being upset part is partly an age/phase thing & partly a needs-to-get-used-to-the-new-arrangement thing. i've found the more we've done one on one time the less upset the one staying at home has been.

 

I agree about not sneaking out. When we would separate at that age, we each would go somewhere, even if it is was just for a walk or drive around the block, neither of mine liked it one bit to be "left behind" but did much better if taken out.

 

Most of our one-on-one times with the boys have been doctor's visits (which there have been a LOT of lately). They seem to be pretty unphased by the separation and don't get upset. This summer when it's warmer, DH and I are going to make a point of getting out alone with each of the boys for some fun. I think it's important, and I think they'll really enjoy it.

 

I love getting out with just one of my kids! I do it at as often as I can, even if it's just me running to the store with one of the twims.

 

We've separated them ever since we felt comfortable taking them out in public. I am a firm believer in one-on-one time for kids. My parents have 4 kids and made a point of taking individual time with each of us. Those times are some of my fondest memories. Now, even if it's just going shopping, we separate the B and E for some one-on-one mommy/daddy time. They seem to enjoy it.