"You look great for having twins!"

Anyone else sick of looking "great for having twins" and just want to look "great" again? What does that mean anyways? Like "you're only sorta fat"? I know I shouldn't compare myself to my singlton mom friends, but when they are all talking about squeezing into their old jeans as soon as they came home from the hospital and I wore maternity clothes for 4 months it's hard.

 

if it makes you feel any better my friend who had a singleton gained over 50lbs and has taken over a year to fit into her pre-preggo clothes.

 

Its a compliment, they are saying that you look this great AND you had twins? Amazing!

 

I know what you mean. Yesterday MIL was Skyping with me & said I look so skinny. As compared to...? I wish people wouldn't comment on weight/looks like that. It doesn't make me feel better.

 

I heard that once or twice.. and my thought was this... How is one supposed to look after having twins??? did you think i was going to look bad??

 

I might be in the minority here, but I was happy to hear that. I felt so bad about how I looked after having the twins that I took that comment as a compliment :unsure:

 

I also take it as a compliment. I think people were just surprised that I no longer look like a house.

 

I think I can make you feel better. Friends of ours had twins a few months after us and the husband actually told me a few weeks ago that he knew that it was going to be rough after their twins were born because for months after I gave birth I looked like complete and total crap. Gee thanks buddy, sorry that I looked so bad when my husband was working double shifts leaving me to take care of four kids on my own.

 

I take it as a compliment. I think it is given as one. I really dont think that those that say it mean it to be a dig.

 

Personally, I really hate it when people comment on my weight. When they say (just generally, before I ever was pregnant) "you look thin!" all I can think is "gee, did you think I looked heavy before?" I really don't like it.

Now, after having the twins, I know that I truly was bigger/fatter at some point in the recent past, so I just take it as a compliment. I do think it's nice when people say "I can't believe you had twins!" If they say "you look great for having had twins" - that's not quite as nice, because they could be implying that you don't look that great, you just look better than they would expect someone who has had twins to look. But really, they probably are just phrasing it in an awkward way and a really just trying to say "you look great!"

 

Well that's not as bad as being asked if I had had the babies yet four weeks after delivery. I was shattered breifly but realised people don't often think and are just interested in making small talk. The same woman asked a friend of mine if her boy/girl twins were identical, clearly not the smartest cookie.... you gotta laugh!

 

I might be an odd ball, but I like it. I think I look good compared to what I looked like just befre I delivered, so I take it as a complement.

 

At 4-weeks post partum with me, someone asked my mom when she was due. That's why she NEVER asks anyone. :girl_devil:

With my singleton, I was in maternity jeans for at least three months, and even after that I was up a size from my pre-pregnancy clothes. I carried about 10 pounds extra until getting pregnant with my twins. And of course now I'm way up again. :FIFblush:

I think most people are just trying to be nice. I've been on complete bedrest for 7 weeks, I look like an absolute and utter mess these days. But friends will still visit and say, "You look great!" :rotflmbo: Thanks for the compliment, but now I can never believe anything they say about my appearance, ever!

 

I've been getting - "you look smaller than you did before you got pregnant" - gee thanks - did I look fat then? If only they'd just leave it at "You look great" it would feel much better

 

Blah! I am so disgusted with myself! My stomach looks like I'm 6 months pregnant (with one though! lol)! I think that I have that thing where your abdominal muscles get stretched out. Not like I'll have the money for surgery any time soon! I'm still wearing my maternity jeans and that is really depressing. I feel like a cow... still!

 

I get comments on my weight ALOT! I'm small. I was small before I had the twins, and I'm even smaller now (I lost all boob I had before and more) I don't mind when people say things about my weight... what bugs me is when people compare me to themselves. One of my coworkers was complaining about her weight to everyone (she had a baby about a month after me) and she said

"You din't even make it to full turn, so you didn't have to grow as much as me" Hello!! I was having TWO!

 

Hey, I know what you mean... I thought I tore mine apart and they would never go back! Mine (my ab muscles) were a whole three fingers apart when I layed down and flexed what was left of them... I won't even tell you to start crunches as I know it's impossible to remember to do them between babies and exhaustion... So try something easier instead... Stand up straighter... that's it. Make sure your shoulders are back and you chest is out when you walk ANYWHERE... Even around the house... I swear it will help your stomach... I was 180lbs when I got pregnant, 275lbs when I had the twins, and 220lbs 2 weeks later, now 205lbs 6 months later... grrr... BUT! My stomach is significantly flatter... So, where as I haven't lost much pounds, I was able to tighten those muscles up to where only one finger fits between them now... I'm not the fitness expert, but I thought it was something easy I could share that worked for me.