Frustrated about people

I'm feeling really frustrated today. There is a girl in the community, who I don't know, but whose relatives know me. She is like 14 weeks pregnant with twins. Both of her relatives have approached me about getting some of the things we have for our babies. We sell our stuff and use the money to buy more clothing and toys for the babies. I would not give these things away to anyone unless it was my sister or if it were things we were going to donate to the Goodwill. Anyways, I thought I had explained this to both women that have approached me that I would be happy to SELL our twin stuff to her. I'm getting the feeling from a conversation that I had this morning with one of the ladies that this girl thinks we are giving her our twin stuff. I was taken aback and didn't stop to clarify this morning, but I think I'll pull her aside tomorrow when I see her and make sure she understands that I will be happy to sell our things to her and offer her first dibs since the twin resale is coming up next month. I just can't believe a complete stranger would expect me to just hand things over and not offer to buy them.

 

Sorry you are having to deal with that, it sounds like a misunderstanding. I would do just like you said & pull her aside and explain the situation. Hopefully, she will be understanding & it will be no big deal.

 

I would definately do the same, pull her aside and make myself VERY clear. It would be a clear demonstration of who she is if she does not even offer to buy them from you.

I do the same thing you do. Sell all of my gear/clothes and use the money for the next round of stuff we need. Your "friend" will definately understand what you mean when her babies come.

Keep us up to date,
Jenn

 

I am having the same problem. It is with --not a friend, but she is someone i know and say hello to if you will. Well, she and 2 of her sisters are expecting and she keeps asking me about "taking the not needed baby stuff off of my hands" since they need it, that getting my stuff would be "hitting the motherload of clothes and baby stuff for free" They email me about once a week to see how much stuff--ie.. how many bouncers, jump a roos, car seats and how many outfits pr size... i explained to them that i plan on selling the things, even if consignment bacause my 2 will will need more things, and i was given an answer of, why would you do that when we want to take it off your hands.. when could we come by to see the things and pick them up. SOOO I made a price list of the things Im getting rid of and emailed it to everyone with first come first serve. I dont care if it seems rude. I did not have a baby shower, we had to buy everything. I do agree with you, sister, or sil, OR BEST FRIED then yes, but everyone else needs to remember that its rude to ask for soomething for free if you did not hand something down to me.

 

Wow, some people are clueless and tactless for sure! We have bought almost all our stuff as well. And I fully intend to sell it after to buy new stuff for our girls. We were given some things from another family with twins, but I certainly never asked for it. They knew we were having twins and showed up with a box of stuff for us. It was very nice of them and I much appreciated it, but would never ask for their "leftovers".

 

Wow, Beth, your situation sounds worse than mine. They are being persistant and clueless. The thing I hate about it the most is that it forces an akward situation that shouldn't be there at all. It should be common sense to offer to pay for something. GRRR. Inevitably, in my case, the two women that know me and are speaking on her behalf are going to think I'm the one who is being rude.

 

I'm so sorry they put you in this situation, Leslie. My sister just found out she is pregnant and is coming down from NC this week to raid my stuff. She has a dog and I don't so I'm very nervous about letting her have some things that I know I'll never get back w/out it being covered in dog hair (or teeth marks). I went through all my stuff yesterday and made her a nice sized pile, but I'll be hiding the rest of the stuff for a possible baby #3 down the line. It will also be stuff I plan on selling. Maybe you could go through some things that aren't very valuable that you don't want anymore as a "consolation prize". For example, say "here are the things I can afford to give away, but everything else I need to sell so I can buy them more clothes and diapers".

 

WOW, you go girl! Stick to your guns!!

 

It must be having twins makes everyone think we can part with our stuff, because we must have so much of it! :rotflmbo: I'm sorry that they think you should just give away your things. They should just jump at the opportunity to buy it at a price less than brand new prices!

I also just went through this - with a "friend" who I don't really talk to or see except in outside social circles. First she wanted to borrow my stuff, then she wanted to come over and "help" me go through it all and take what she wanted - the kicker was she could not promise to return it. Another friend told me that she likes to go around and gather up freebies then have big garage sales (this is baby #3)! Anyway, I did what Meg suggested. I went through my clothes and picked out what I have absolutely no desire to ever see again, and had it all by the door for her when she came over! I did give her an infant car seat, but told her 3 times I NEED it back. So we'll see in a year if I got burned on that one.. :crazy:

Hope you stand up for yourself, and figure something out. I wonder if the mom expecting twins has any idea what her relatives are saying to you!?!?!

 

Oh My!!!! People are so friggin rude sometimes, I like the emailed list with prices heh heh. We have been giving a few things away and hopefully if and when we need help karma will take care of us, but this has been only for friends.

Good luck!

 

I'd call her in a year to get it back.

I think this girl is actually expecting me to hand over my things. Yesterday morning, her aunt asked me how much I'd sell them for and this morning she implied that since Cheryl already talked to me about her that I should know that I'm going to be giving them to her. :woah: I don't recall having that conversation with Cheryl at all. I think I'm going to have to be more blunt in spelling things out for people.

It feels good to know I'm not the only one that feels this way. I wouldn't think it was that big of a deal, but we have five kids and money is tight with twinfants.