If they start stirring a night, I get up and give paci's...so they don't wake up the other (or their big sister in the next room). I'm just so afraid their stirring with escalate into a cry and now everyone is up. Am I the only wacko doing this...it's crazy...last night I had to get up and insert paci's about...I dunno...lost count...maybe 6 or 7 times. I wish we had room to put them in separate rooms...sigh. It's funny though, during the daytime naps, I only will insert a paci maybe once to make their naps a bit longer...and I don't care if they cry/fuss a bit (because it's not nighttime and everyone isn't sleeping in the house). I wish wish wish I had the will power and courage to let them fuss more at night...I just hate hate hate the though of them waking the other and my oldest.
I remember those days. I'd usually only try the paci 2 times at the most and if they woke a 3rd time I gave them bottles.
I hate to say it, but mine are almost 16 months old and if my DS starts to stir I come right up and put the paci back in his mouth. I know he will escalate to a cry and I will have to get up anyway. I know he will calm right down with a paci. My DD will find hers and go back to sleep on her own. I can usually tell by the whimper if I need to get up or not. Some nights I don't have to get up any, but others I'm up and down the stairs 5 times.
Nope I'll join you :wacko: the other night I was up at 11, 2, 4 for pacis and then 6 to feed and that was just one baby! I was never one to ever think of separate rooms for the babes until lately when they have started waking eachother up. I always thought awww they have to be close they're twins, ummm NO!! If we had the room we'd separate them too. My fussy girl usually sleeps like a log at night and my happy boy is a bear all.night.long, screaming for his paci ugh! And yup I am too afraid they'll wake my toddler too. :hug:
I don't get "up" to give them their paci since they still sleep on either side of my bed but I am constantly give DD her paci all night long. DS took his paci at first but now he wants nothing to do with it. I really need to transition them to their own rooms but I know I will spend a lot of time walking back and forth so I haven't done it yet!
I'lll join the club and also add in my 2 yr old to the list. Donevan was up 3 times last night asking for his because it fell out of his crib. William I lost count how many times I gave it to him. The ONLY one I only gave it to once last night was Nathaniel
No,you are certainly not the only one! I did that with my daughter and now it seems I do it with the boys, too.
Every time I hear these paci stories I am so thankful our boys don't normally use pacis, LOL. We only offer them occasionally if they are really fussy and we're rocking them (sometimes they accept them and calm down and sometimes they just want to cry instead). But we've never given them pacis in the crib and now I'm really glad about that! However, I am with you on constantly getting up at the slightest little stirring. Last night was a good night and I only went in the nursery 3 or 4 times to pat bottoms and rub backs because they started stirring. But to my amazement and surprise neither baby ever fully woke up and cried. I can't remember the last time there wasn't a night waking! And they slept in until 5:40am and 6:20am, another miracle! But like you I wish I had more will power to just let them fuss a little before always rushing in there, but I just hate the thoughts of having to deal with 2 awake babies at 3am if I can get by with soothing one baby right away.
I did the same thing with DD (and there was no one else to worry about waking up ) I'm sure I'll end up doing the same thing with the boys.
An expectant parent recently asked me if the boys did paci's. I wanted them to, but my DH got them hooked on the flesh, so if they whimper now (typically they wake up a little after I feed them/lay them down); they just stick that hand in their mouth & away they go! I still get up to feed them 3 times a night, but we are BF, so I accept it. Eventually it'll lessen. Like vlakey, I'm grateful in these moments for NO PACI!
In the first few months our babies slept next to our bed in a co-sleeper and I had to reinsert the paci MANY times a night (10-20, probably). When we moved them to their nursery at about 5 months they soon learned how to put the paci in on their own. Now I only go to them if they are upset and crying a lot. Hopefully yours learn how to put in their own paci soon.
I let them fuss until I could tell they weren't going to settle down, and then went to insert paci's. I still had them in my room at that time though, and sometimes I was up several times in a row, and sometimes they settled down without. What I did learn though, is the more you let them cry when they are younger, the better they will sleep through the others cry as they get older (especially if they are going to be sharing a room). So it won't hurt to let them fuss a bit before going in, and your dd will learn to sleep through it too. My oldest 2 share the bedroom right next to the twins, and even when we did CIO with the twins, they didn't even wake up their siblings. Also a fan or white noise really helps drown out the "noises" that all babies/kids make, I have one in each of the kids rooms, as well as lullabies to turn on if the fussies get too loud! Oh and by about 9 months old they babies could find their own paci's, I put 2-3 in each crib for them to find during the night and now only have to get up occassionally if they can't find one!
I'm in the club too! I get up sometimes 5-6 times depending on what's going on with them - i.e. teething, sick, etc. I don't want to keep them dependent on the pacifiers but it's the only thing that will get them back down sometimes. Thought I was the only one! Feel better. And we have the same space issue, too. I have them in the same room but as they get older and become so different with their sleep habits (Baby Boy is an EARLY riser...) we might just have to figure something out.
I was another wacko, until I thought I was going to completely lose my mind from the sleep deprivation. He was up 8-10 times a night, I believe, just for a paci. :wacko: Jake was the only one with the paci, and only one waking at 6 months, and I did CIO with him. It only took 2 nights, and he has slept well ever since.
I am right there with ya! My gals are still together in the Arm's Reach co-sleeper next to my bed so at least I don't have to get out of bed to stuff those pacis in their mouths. I usually need to do it once or twice a night, starting sometime in the early morning (i.e. 5am). On good nights I don't have to do it all but that is not the usual!! I will occasionally take a fussy one into bed with me if the paci stops working and I want an extra hour or two of sleep. That tends to happen at about 6-7am. They are going to be too heavy for the co-sleeper soon (A is just over 14lbs and V is just over 12lbs and the weight limit is 30lbs) so they will be in a crib sometime soon - haven't decided if they will stay in my room or go to their own room. We shall see! It would be nice not to be woken up several times a night on pacifier duty.
I am always one to "never say never" but literally, that is one thing I would NEVER do and never did. *mine are 28 mos. It completely defeats the purpose of getting your kid to STTN if you ask me cuz they aren't and YOU definitely aren't!! There is no way in the world i would get up to plug my kid NO WAY!! if they cannot find it themselves, they are out of luck That's my motto.
I'm in...I'm wacko too! DS is 2.5 and gave up his paci cold turkey in November and hasn't turned back, so thank goodness there. Twin A gets put to bed with a paci and once his eyes shut, he's OUT for the night. He is good at getting his paci in and out, so no worries there...UNLESS it's 5:30 a.m. and he thinks its time to get up, then I will go in, put his paci in and tuck his blanket and doggy around him, sometimes he'll go back to sleep. Twin B on the other hand....(head hanging down) is in a crib in our room because he just started sleeping through the night and I never wanted him to wake the great sleeper Baby A. We do the 'paci shuffle' 2-3 times a night and usually it works, but didn't last night. 4:30 a.m. he's STARVING TO DEATH.... oy vey! I'm hoping to get him more constant at STTN so we can move him into HIS OWN ROOM, and will then have to do the 'paci shuffle' from a distance....ugh! BTW, twins are 8 months old, if I ever get time, I will fix my ticker!
I hear you. It's such a vicious cycle. Lilly likes her binky but doesn't need it. Audrey is pretty binky dependent and we are in a bad cycle of waking up and me giving it to her. If I don't give it back to her, she screams and wakes her sister and my husband up. If I do give it to her, she goes back to sleep but I feel like I reinforce her need for it.
Oh, I'm right there with you...and if I don't get up, my DH does!! Both of my girls use paci's at night and during naps. They came home from the NICU with a wicked paci habit I will actually put 2 or 3 paci's in the crib now, & quite often they will find one on their own..but if they don't, then I'm up to plug 'em! I keep saying that I am going to let them figure it out, but like a lot of posters my girls share a room and occasionally they will wake one another up. The good news is that my girls are 15 months old now, & they are getting better at finding their own paci - we don't have to get up every night anymore.
I heard a good tip from some people who were having to re bink their kids ten gazillion times a nite like you guys are doing and they would put literally 20 pacifiers in the crib at nite and that way the kid could always find one him/herself and rebink, and if baby couldn't do it-- there was no parent to do it. Try it if your baby is old enough. It might get ya off the hook. Someone needs to invent something to fix that problem! I hope it's ME! I could use some cash!
Haha, I'll join the club too!! My girls will wake up a couple of times during the night, but not every night. When they do, I give them their paci's and they'll go right back to sleep. Most of the time they don't even open their eyes, they'll just lay there and whine a little, but the paci's do the trick!
