Recommend books on raising boys

My boys will be 5 in March, and they both are already doing all those "boy"
things like playing war, bad guys vs. good guys, etc...from the bit of reading
I have done on the web, I am learning that this is part of how they express themselves
and is in no way indicative of future (violent) behavior.

Their dad seems to understand this easier then I do, and I am wondering if anyone has read any book/s on raising boys that could help me respond to this play in a way that is positive (and not
stifling, which I think I have tended to do). And just help understand the way boys develop in
an easy to understand writing style.

thanks.

 

They also see it on tv and if there are older boys around they emulate (spelling?) At least that is what it is at our house. I read raising Cain and another that I can not remember. Basically, it said that this is normal, that we as mothers try to protect our boys a bit too much. That they need to go wrestle, climb a tree, fall down, just to see what they are capable of and to figure out how the world works. I think that they just need to get in the middle of their world in order to see how it works. "If I hit it and it breaks, it is fragile, If I throw it and it does not break....well cool lets do that again!"

It is so not a thing I really get and I have three brothers! I struggled a bit when they went from sweet snuggly toddlers/early preschoolers to rough and tumble do it their own way (but both different) kinders. It is fun though You def. get to see the world from a whole new perspective. And they still have their moments (usually right after starwars men have just made an attack on the littlest pet shop) when they come and snuggle and kiss me with out it being a request, then it is right back to the battle! :air_kiss:

 

I read a book not that long ago called "The Way of Boys". It was an easy read and I felt like I understood my Timothy more, and in a few ways, understood my dh more. He's really good at explaining the thought process behind how boys tend to end up at the conclusions they do while us moms are scratching our heads figuring out what just happened. I highly recommend it.

Marissa

 

If you are a Christian woman, I recommend "Bringing up Boys." I was raised in an all girl family and have 3 boys. I needed some help trying to understand them. Actually, now that I am thinking about it, I need to go read that again..

 

Also, Wild at Heart by John Eldredge. It really opened my eyes about boys/men in general and the built in way they view/do things.

 

I was also going to suggest 'Bringing up Boys' by Dobson. I am not usually a Dobson fan, as I find his philosophy too harsh. This book, though, was the exception. I thought it was excellent and has helped me to 'allow' and even encourage my boys to be their masculine, strong selves. This book helped me to understand them in a way that I hadn't before. I also think my copy might need a re-read!

 

The Fine Art of Mixing Drinks has helped me through hard times. :laughing:



Truly, I have no recommendations. Glad others do for you.

 

LMAO I totally agree!!