Had to share

My nieghbeor told me about a class at our local library for the kids. Im always up for new things to do, however I do get a bit nervous as to how regimented the class will be.....and all the stares I get (like I have five heads). So there was about 15 moms with their ONE baby and here we come....LOL! I sat down where there was an empty stop next a few moms. As im peering around I noticed another mom with two twin girls (8 mo old).......I wish I had sat next to her!

Anyways, these moms are talking and one said something about the twin girls. The other mom says "ugh...their cute n all, but I wouldnt want twins!" (might I add with a snotty face too). I looked over at her and said yeah its alot of work. They still had not relized mine were twins. So then she says "oh how old is she" (my son was in my lap) and I said " oh their both 15 mo.....and their TWINS!!"

This is why I am aprehensive of going to (singleton) mom groups. I laughed it off, but I do feel abit different when Im there and I feel real bad when the songs say sit in the lap that brought you or hold your baby high.

...just had to share

 

Well that sucks that this other mom was so snotty. Personally, I'd just chalk it up to jealously or intimidation; she probably can't imagine how she'd function as a twin mom. ardon:

Good for you for going and handling things with grace! :clapping:

 

:bow2: I give you kudos for such a classy response. I am sorry you had to deal with this kind of experience :hug:

 

I don't know, I hate it with a passion when people say "Oh, look! I always wanted twins!" It seriously burns me up! I always say, "no you don't, having all your kids at once is no joke!"

 

They're jealous. And I ALWAYS say, "No, you don't. Having them arrive ONE AT A TIME is the preferred method of transportation!" People who say that have a fantasy about twins. And people who say they would "never want them" are jealous of the attention the people who have them are getting. That's been my experience, anyway.

 

I wouldn't want triplets... It doesn't mean I don't realize that triplet moms are probably really happy with their triplets, even if they are a lot of work. I wouldn't take that stuff personally, a lot of moms already have a hard time with their singletons and can just imagine that twins are a lot of work and that they wouldn't be able to handle it, or that they wouldn't like not being able to have quality time with each of their kids (which is really my main problem with having twins).

 

Those are my feelings too. Thats probably why I feel alittle "wierd" in those classes because I feel bad when they give you an instruction to do with your ONE child. I didnt take her comment personaly nor would I allow that comment to keep me from the class, I just had to share with moms who could relate..LOL!

 

about the comments- the other day I got "oh poor you!"..and I said, "no, lucky me",

and about them being on your lap..I did feel bad sometimes at the momme and me class...and then laughed
when I tried to get one on my lap but they were both more interested in walking around and playing with other stuff...
so I said..two kids and no one to hold! :rotflmbo:

 

We had a similar experience in the ped office once except that we were the only people with twins in the room and a group of about 4 other moms sat on the other side of the room and carried on an ENTIRE conversation among themselves (not quietly and in earshot) about how happy they were that they did not have twins. (yes, they knew my girls were twins, one of them asked, which started their conversation) Talk about awkward...

 

so sorry for the comments, but sometimes people just don't know what to say...

I do wish I had more individual time with my kids... but I still try to go to group play dates that are mainly attended by singletons... as for laps... I just put one kid on each leg when I sat cross legged on the ground. most of the time I was able to do what the other moms did with their one child... the main thing is to just have fun with your kids! enjoy!