My boys are 27 months..

I'm dying here. D Y I N G.

This age blows. I seriously want to cry by 7 am EVERY DAY.

HATE IT. H A T E IT!

The tantrums. The FIGHTING. It is HORRIBLE. WAYYYYYYYYYYY worse than any other stage.

 

:hug: Yep, it sucks alright.

 

:hug: :hug: :drinks: Sounds like you a need a good drink, Momma. I hope this phase passes quickly!!!

 

I hope your days get better soon!!

We had a rough patch around there for a few months, but it got better....although the instant they turned 4 one of my DD got really wild! Hopefully this too, is a phase.

 

I don't know if this will help you at all, but I kind of think of tantrums the way I do about colicky newborn crying. It's inevitable, it's going to happen, and if all your good efforts fail, it's ok - your job is not to stop the crying/tantrums, your job is to cope with the crying/tantrums.

It gets better! Lately mine have developed a lot more empathy AND self-control.

 

:hug: Just think of it this way... maybe they are getting it out of the way early and will be happy toddlers the rest of the year! ardon:

 

:hug: My boys were awful just before 2 but have mostly been awesome ever since... I think it's a stage we all have to go through - it just hits at slightly different ages. It WILL get better. Hang in there!! :hug:

 

(((HUGS))) to you my friend!! Deep breaths and a stiff drink will help. And, maybe a morning off??

 

**Hugs** Hang in there. IMHO I think kids have tantrums becuase they can't communicate what they really want or don't want and the only way they know how to express that frustration is to cry and yell. I don't remember what the technique is called but its when you try to say why they are upset for them.

For example DS doesn't talk very well at 2.5 so when something is not going his way he cries and or yells. Last night it was time for bed and I turned the TV off just when Thomas the train was about to start. He started to cry and I told him "I know you are upset and you want to watch Thomas but its bedtime. Remember I told after dragon tales the TV was going off?" He was still bummed but he got over it.

Good luck and may the patience fairy be with you,
Lindia

 

Thanks girls. They speak and communicate fine. It's the FIGHTING. Oh Dear God, the fighting. They are attached at the hip and fight for the SAME Kleenex (today anyway) cuz they have to have the SAME ONE of everytihng. UGH.

I do not drink (sober) but if I did.. it would be keg-stand time over here! LOL.



I can't imagine what it would be like WITHOUT the fighting. It would be SOO different! They are inseparable to the fullest degree and tHAT causes major issues for them. UGH.

 

yep, mine are 25 months and it's BAD here. People keep telling me it gets MUCH better when they turn 2.5yrs...I will believe it when I see it! UGH.

 

Maybe separation would be a really effective discipline strategy then. If they're driving each other nuts, warn them that the consequence will be being separated, and go ahead and plop them in different rooms.

 

Right after turning two, my boys went through a phase of a lot of fighing...closer to 2.5, not so much...now closer to 3, the tantrums over silly things have begun (so have the "no!" "I don't like it" "I can't" "leave me alone"...etc). So, I think it all ebbs and flows, although I almost couldn't get them out the door this morning because one was upset over putting his shoes on and the other wanted to wear a different hat! Go figure.

 

Exactly! Its rough learning to understand your emotions and that you aren't always in control of your life. When mine have tantrums, I usually give them some space and then we talk about how they are feeling.

 

Yes, 2 2yr. olds is very, very tough!!!!! I feel for you!!! I will say however since mine have turned 3 things have much improved, there is light at the end of the tunnel!!!!!!!