It's coming up

My hubby is leaving on his 1st deployment since the boys were born (July 31st). He has been home since August 3rd (yes, he missed their birth). Normally he comes and goes for 2 months at a time, every 2 months. This time we lucked out cause he didn't take his "baby leave" until they came home from the NICU so it fell around the time he should have deployed lol and he got to stay home. I am normally ok when he's gone. I mean I have the normal break down when he's leaving cause he's my husband and my best friend, I do everything with him, I tell him everything. When he's gone it's like waiting and waiting when I want to talk to that person. So this time I'm soooooo nervous. I will be entirely by myself with the boys around the clock for 2 months, then he'll be back for 2 months, then leave again for 2 months... UGH this repeating cycle!!!!! :headbang:

 

HUGS! I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling. My DH will be working away 14d home 14d - so I'll be on my own with all 5 kids for those 14d (no family close enough to help) but at least its only 14d!!! HUGS HUGS HUGS!

 

:hug: :hug: I am so sorry! I know this is so hard!! FWIW, a big :thanks: to your dh for the sacrifice that you are making!!

 

Oh boy! Do I know what you are feeling! Is there anyone who can fly out to help and keep you company? I know this is a scary thought, but could you fly space available to someone? I know going to my parents house always made the deployments easier (and go faster). I didn't have to fly with them, but did several drives with them throughout these two years. The first one took two days to drive what would normally take 9 hours. Now we can do it in 11 hours at least. I also spent a lot more time on here! Hang in there sweetie, you can do this!!!

 

Awwww, I just can't imagine how tough the next 2 months are going to be for you Just try to remember what they say, that which doesn't kill us only makes us stronger! :hug:

 

:hug: You can do it! I know it will be so hard & a huge adjustment, but you are a strong Momma & you can do it! :hug:

 

:grouphug: :youcandoit: I also can't imgaine what that must be like. We all are here for you!! I also wanted to say :thanks: to your dh and you!

 

I can't imagine how you're feeling but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband! :youcandoit: :hug:

 

I couldn't imagine not having my husband around. BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!!!!!! I'm sure it is just as hard for him to leave. I hope you have some family around for support. :hug: You can manage though, your stronger than you realize

 

Definitely no close family near by, it'd be a 7 1/2 hour flight IF we got a direct flight.

It all sounds great, but as I said above it's a 7 1/2 direct flight if flying commercial, I don't even want to imagine what space A would be like! I tried to convince my 19 year old niece to come out and she would love to, but we don't have the money for the ticket and neither doe she Plus we have a dog, so leaving here isn't really an option.



Thankfully, we got our psc date change and get to leave in July to southern Cali (7 months early) so if I want to go home it's relatively an easy drive. But in Cali, he'll be on shore duty, so only gone for a week or two at a time here and there for training/school.

 

Big :grouphug: 's! :youcandoit:

 

DH deployed when my girls were 5 weeks old. It's hard as heck without him here. I'm lucky to have my mom really close so she is able to come help me out a lot. You can do this! The time will go by really fast. DH has already been gone for 3.5 months and its flying by. I miss him everyday, but I feel lucky to be with someone who i love so much and who loves being a father. How often are you going to be able to have contact with him?

You never know what you can handle until the situation is upon you. Let me know if you want advice or support from someone going through a similar situation (and our twins are only one day apart!)

Good luck mama!

 

:hug: You can definitely do this. :thanks: to you and your DH.

 

I'm used to deployments. Half of our relationship has literally been spent w/ him deployed. It's the thought of being alone with the babies lol. Our contact is pretty good, we talk (internet usually) every day when he's gone unless he is too tired (lots of 18 hour days when he gone) or if there is a reason that all communication is shut down (like deaths ).

Thanks for having open ears

That's cool that our little ones are only a day apart

 

Oh it can be so hard! Mine left 10 days after they were born for 6 months. Even now he's always gone. YOU CAN DO IT! And remember, even though you feel alone YOU ARE NEVER ALONE! We are here and many of us understand what you are going through. The support here is a BIG part in my survival during these times.

 

Just wanted to say I too am familiar with deployments. We're in a two-year assignment now where DH doesn't have to deploy but I know that time will come again all too soon where he has to say good bye to all of us for several months and we'll be marking days off the calendar again. Hang in there and I know the deployment cycle can be exhausting. Sometimes (ok, a lot of times) I think it's harder on the ones who stay behind (for different reasons obviously) and it takes a lot to keep things running the way they do normally. You can do this and I bet having two lo's to keep you busy now will make the time fly by. :hug: to you.