nap question

one LO has been having some difficulty going to sleep but even more so STAYING asleep. his morning nap (about 1.5 or 2 hours after wake up) he falls asleep generally without much fussing. i lay him down, soothe him, etc. and hes good to go.
his afternoon naps however, once he wakes up (generally 30 mins after he falls asleep, sometimes sooner), he falls asleep in my arms but if i lay him down he cries and cries and cries.

any rhyme or reason to this?

 

Sounds like he is a prime canidate for CIO. He needs to learn how to self-soothe. You can let him cry for up to an hour without checking on him. If he is still crying after the hour, take him out and try again in a little while. If you don't feel comfortable with that method then let him cry and check on him every 15 minutes. HTH

 

now my question is...
his brother. wont this wake up him? i dont want to remove him bc he will only sleep in his crib and im really trying to get them used to sleeping in their cribs, only.

 

You can put crying DS in a pack-n-play in another room if that makes you feel better...you aren't creating any bad habits here so I wouldn't worry so much. Most of us on this site found that separating them during sleep training/naps worked the best.

Otherwise, if your good sleeper is a solid sleeper then he will get used to the crying and eventually sleep through it. CIO shouldn't take long for him to learn.

 

so when i let him CIO, do i literally just let him cry for 1 hr? or do i go back in every 15 mins.

 

You can do either. The first way is called the extinction method where you literally put them down and let them cry without checking in.

The second way is checking in every 15 minutes (this is what I used at first).

There are a lot of methods you just have to find one that works for your family.

Google CIO methods

 

If you want to try CIO, here is a link to info in the FY handbook. There is also a link at the bottom of that page to a thread with the experiences of other TS moms who used CIO.

 

I have to agree that more and more it sounds like he's just spoiled and used to being held

I do a modified CIO. I don't use a set time limit. I go by cries. I can tell the difference between a "I don't wanna go to sleep" cry and a "OMG mom has deserted me" cry. When the crying reaches the more frantic pitch, I go in, soothe them without speaking to them or looking them in the eye, lay them back down if they are standing up, cover them up, replace paci, turn lullabies back on, and walk back out. You don't want to stimulate them at all so not speaking and not looking them in the eye is supposed to help with that.

The first night is awful. Lots of crying, and probably lots of night wakings/cryings. But all my kids were sleep trained within 3-5 days at the most.

I didn't take my ds out when we did this with my dd, and now my ds is waking up and they are both still sharing a crib, I don't take my dd out. I never have, and they sleep through each other's cries....unless ds crawls over and on top of or stands on dd's head! That seems to wake her up for some reason! :lol: