Should I go to the gym?

We joined the YMCA so that i could work out and have someone watch the kids. I don't use it often because I always feel so bad dropping the kids off at the daycare because they both scream. My son especially! They even cry when I come back to get them...and without a doubt, when I come back after my 1 hour workout someone is ALWAYS holding one of them. I feel horrible for the workers. Like I hog their time.

Anyways -- I really want to go, but I feel bad leaving the twins there....should I just do it? I almost feel like I should. They will cry, but it's only an hour. I can't believe they make me feel this guilty.

 

Do the care givers tell you they cry the entire time? I know mine will cry for a few minutes and then play. I think the more you do it the more they will get used to the idea, but I know it is tough.

 

The caregivers tell me that they cry off and on. Usually DD plays after a few minutes of crying -- it's of course DS (whose showing seperation anxiety lately) that doesn't do so well. I decided that I'm not going to go today and that I'll go tomorrow afternoon. Instead I'm going to work on Xmas cards this morning while the kids play. Something else that I can scratch off my list.

 

I would continue to go unless the caregivers at the YMCA are reporting it as a problem. I am sure that they are used to children crying while Mom & Dad workout, if it was something they could not handle, they'd let you know.

 

How long have they been going to daycare? I enrolled my boys in a Kids Day Out program at the beginning of November. It's every Monday for 2 1/2 hours. They first day they cried for 20 minutes, the second week about 10 minutes.

Now 1 1/2 months later, Jake will wave to his teachers and Josh will whine for about 10 seconds after I drop them off.

It's also funny because as soon as I pick them up, Josh will come running over crying. :headbang: He was completly happy for those 2 1/2 hours but for some reason as soon as he sees me he'll start to cry. This also happens during the week during their speech therapy. He'll be happy during it, but once I come back into the room, he'll start to cry.

I would keep going and let them experience time away from you. It's the job of the staff to take care of your kids for that hour including holding them if need be. I'm pretty sure if it was too much for them to deal with they would let you know.

I'm glad I did it now verses waiting until 3 to enroll them in preschool.

 

Keep going!
I'm a member of the Y and use their daycare. One or both of mine usually cry LOUDLY when I leave. Building a good relationship with the workers there really helps to ease my anxiety about their crying/behavior. I usually chat with them for a minute and make sure they are ready for me to leave. I always tell them to come and get me if the crying doesn't stop and if it drives them nuts. They have only come to get me one time in 7 months. Most of the time they deal with it pretty well. They will hold one of them if they are having a rough day or help them work on a puzzle, etc. I'm always appreciative of the staff and I think it helps them feel more positive towards the twins. It gets easier the more often you go there. The twins will feel more comfortable with the staff and surroundings.

We just started a Mother's Morning Out program. Both kids SCREAMED when I left them for the first 3 weeks. On the fourth time, it wasn't so bad. They fussed a little and then they were excited to play. I always get good reports when I go back to pick them up.

I usually reassure myself that if things were really bad, they will call/come get me. Otherwise, I'm going to enjoy my small bits of time away. It helps me keep my sanity.

 

I went to he gym when my twins were a year old and not used to being away from me. Audrey was ok, but C didn't like it. I would spend some extra time in there (if allowed) and play with them (mainly DS) to get them used to the gym. Make sure the ratio they have is being followed. I would never leave them if there was too many kids for the workers. It is good for them to learn that being away from you is ok. It is good for you too!!! I'd continue to go! It is hard, but they will get used to it.

 

:good: I agree with Nancy.