3 yrs 1 mo and still no PT!

OK..I think I've tried everything and they still want NOTHING to do with PT'ing. I can get them to sit on the potty (sometimes..other times they yell, "NO POTTY")..I've tried the sticker chart, going without a diaper (with underwear and no underwear), reward, pull ups, sitting on the potty every hour or 1 1/2 hrs, 30 minutes after eating...I don't know what to do anymore. They just won't go in the potty. They can tell you what they can get if they pee or poo poo on the potty but don't care to do it. They seem excited over the rewards I've offered but the next attempt at sitting on the potty is a no go. Does this mean they aren't ready or I'm not pushing it hard enough? They will tell me when they have poo poo in their pants and one of them will actually go right over to the diapers and lay down b/c he knows the drill but sometimes they just don't care. I'm starting to get sick of diapers and really think they should be able to get this by now.

 

It may be that they aren't ready or, if they are like my kids, they are just stubborn. I think all anyone can do is share their experiences and, since all kids are different, you can take what you think might be useful for your kids and leave the rest. So, here is our story:

I PTed my DD in less than a week when she was 3 years, 1 week old. Here is an old post about how. I made up a Diaper Fairy and she brought prizes.

My DS was a completely different story. He didn't train until he was about a three months shy of his 4th birthday. We had to literally force him. Here is the post I wrote about that. You have to go down to post #15 to see what we finally did. But, there was no doubt in my mind that he was ready and could do it, but was just being stubborn. I don't suggest doing this unless you have tried everything else, first!

 

with my son I did the same thing Stacy did - I simply took the diapers away and put him in underwear...the first day he never made it to the potty - and he wiped up all his accidents himself...I'd walk around with fresh undies and a roll of paper towels and rug cleaner! The 2nd day we had some success but more accidents than successes - but that 2nd day I realized it was all timing...he would pee about every 45 minutes or so...if I waited until 46 minutes he'd pee on the floor...by the 3rd day he was taking himself (and it spaced out from the 45 min quickly) by the 4th day he was pee trained....also we told him he could pee sitting or standing like daddy...he much preferred to stand and I think that helped...

poop was a different story and it took 3 months to poop train...

I should also add that DD trained herself a week before her 3rd birthday...she decided she wanted to wear princess panties and that was it...she never had an accident again!

 

My girls weren't fully trained till 3 1/2. maybe lay off for a month and try again. The holidays are so hectic any ways

 

I agree that unless they are leading the way and trying to go by themselves, I'd wait until the new year, too, when things calm down a bit.

 

I agree with the others. With that much resistance you are fighting a losing battle. My oldest was 3.5 when he was potty trained. I tried several times before. But it wasn't until he was willing that we had success. It is about who has the power. Since you can't make them go, they finally have the power. They are going to continue to resist as long as they know they are winning. That is my philosophy anyway

 

I had one train at 3y 10 m---and it just clicked---2 weeks for pee and about 3 for poop. 2 months later she is day/night trained. my other DD is not trained still at 4, but we are pursuing medical reasons at this point.

 

My daughter turns 4 next month and just LAST week decided she would use the potty for pooping.. I was stunned still am, I was convinced I was packing diapers to college. My son got it around 3.5. We just didn't push it enough and then my daughter got constipated and decided she needed to stand with her legs together and poop, so she has been on Miralax for a long time (turns out chicken nuggets don't have much fiber).. anyway,t he other day she had nothing on before bath and she yelled 'I'M GOING POTTY".. it though cr*p she is going on the floor and ran in and she was on the potty pooping away.

She has had a few pee accidents since then , I think she forgets she doesn't have a pull up but mostly fine.. i stil have her in pull up for overnight. DS is in underwear overnight, he has super bladder.

 

I had a terrible time potty training my boys. They are now 3yrs 8mos. I still have trouble with one of my guys,but overall we are finally done. I bought the online book " 3day potty training" and we did a PT blitz when they were 3yrs 4mos. I hired my babysitter ( I also have a newborn), my mom and I took 3 full days and performed the technique. It was exhausting but Grayson trained in the 3 days.However, Heath took a full 2 weeks of intense training and he is still the one who will hold his poo until he can't stand in anymore! Grayson received alot of "treats" (such as toys, alone time with one of us, candy etc) for being trained, which only seemed to make Heath more stubborn!!!

My guys had never pooed in the potty and only peed when we asked them, but they often refused (they still refuse!). I tried everything! Cloth pullups only caused chaffing on their legs and they didn't care!

I am now a wealth of information!!! But I do recommend the 3 day potty training technique by Lora Jensen, but just be prepared that it is alot of work and will probably take longer than 3 days.


Let me know if I can help in any way!

Jen FB

 

Not ready. Unfortunately, they are the ones in control of this milestone. I am just getting cooperation out of my DD in the past week. It's not because of anything I didn't try, but just because she thought she'd FINALLY do it on her own.