Having a bad day.

I'm just having one of those days a bit of a pity party. My daughter was suppose to go to a Language/ PT playgroup today but I've been so disappointed with them we just went to a play centre instead. I only had the baby and her today, since her sister was in daycare. We get there and she'd rather play with the couches, climb on the tables (and fall off- luckily it was shorter) and dig through my bag instead of playing with all this stuff and there was no kids there to bother her. My baby (7 months old) is teething likely 3 teeth and I've tried all day to schedule her in naps only to have her wake after an hour. Then when we get to the play centre she is fussy and pukes on me.

I took my daughter to a pedi PT a few weeks ago and wouldn't you know she says "kick". Getting her to say a new word is like pulling teeth, yet some stranger spends a few minutes and she says a word. I'm just tired that I put in all this hard work with trying to read, talk, take her to things to get us out of the house and expose to other people (we have no family here)..... and I feel like I have no outcomes for all my hard work. I hated moving onto this age group 2-4 year olds because my two don't act like any other 2 year olds I know. My other twin is doing better physically and with language but then with her I'm dealing with her biting, stealing toys, hitting.....

We have been going to endless professionals and still more to come & hopefully we will get some answers. But for now, I'm just tired. I havent' mentioned anything to my family because I want it kept private. So I guess I just needed someone else to listen to my whinging.

Feel free to post your own bad day .


Heather

 

:hug: :hug: :hug: Sounds like a trying day. I think the best thing right now would be to lean on your family for support. You can't do this alone. Well, maybe you can, but then you might self-combust and that would not be good for your kids!! :hug:

Was this her first time at the play center?? When we first started going to an early intevention playgroup, I noticed it took some kids a bit of time to warm up to the environment.

It will happen. Behaviors will get better, words will start to come, and you WILL see your hard work pay off. :hug:

 

That stinks, Heather.

What are y our kids acting like that is worrying you? How old are they in months?

You've got your hands full so don't feel too bad. You're doing a great job!

 

I'm in the same shoes... mine are only 20 months but still no word except 'more' and 'cat' that they don't even use in the right context. Therapy just makes me feel like a failure every time!

 

:hug: This age is difficult, period. Keep in mind that all the work that you have been doing with your DD is helping her achieve these goals. She may have said the word kick with her PT person, but all your work laid the seed for that. :hug:

 

You are doing great. You are working with them which is why she was able to say a new word to the PT person. They will get there.
I'm sure there are other parents of 2 year olds in a similar situation as you are. The great thing about the 2-4 age forum, is that there are alot of us who have been through this who can share with you their experiences.

 

:hug: We all have bad days. In fact this past Monday was mine. :grouphug:

 

Big hugs...I know how you feel about the development. DS is having some challenges as well and it's tough trying to get help from people that don't seem to know what they are doing. We have been told that he needs help but not specifcally for what and haven't been given any resources to take advantage of other that the PT and OT that come to the house.

It's frustrating but keep doing what you think is best. That usually the best route anyway. We take him to a gymanstics class once a week, we read, and we dance to music after dinner as often as possible...he still doesn't jump with two feet very well and drools a bunch.

Be patient and do our own research...no one cares about your child more than you.

Good luck and keep your head up

Lindia

 

My bad day was Monday, too! It was horrific!!

:hug: to you Heather! Like others said, you working with her is helping!! Keep it up. The more you work with her the easier time she will have in therapy.

 

Thanks, I guess sometimes I just need a crumb, something from her to see her advancement or to hear a story to know I'm not the only one, or to hear that someone else had the same difficulties and it turned around. Inspiration I guess.

I've kept it from my family because sometimes people just "talk" and they are not helping. I dont' want my daughter to have something said to her years from now by a family member who just didn't think that day. My dh and I have decided the best we can to keep our children's lives private and not discuss things like this.

My twins are 24 months old. (someone asked above)

heather

 

:youcandoit: Dealing with developmental delays is hard. You've got all the regular 2 year old issues, plus you have the added stress of evaluations, specialists, therapy sessions, etc. And I also think there is a lot of guilt too because you wonder if it's your fault your child is delayed.

My DS has a speech delay along with some other developmental problems. We've been in speech therapy for about 7 months now, and during the first 6 months, I saw almost no progress. I felt like this a lot. :headbang: I wondered if it even mattered that I was working with him at home like the therapists suggested. I kept up with it though, and now we are seeing a lot of progress. It's a long slow road, but you'll make it. One thing I found helpful was to ask the therapists for what progress or changes they were noticing. They always found little things to comment on that would boost my spirits. Things like "he is following instructions a lot better now" or "he is making better eye contact when I say his name" etc. Even if there were no words, he was still moving forward and I found that reassuring.