Mother of Multiples group

How many of you are members of a MOM group? And those of you who are, what do you think? I discovered one close by and I would really like to join but there is a $25 registration fee (i'm sure for a good reason but i don't know why) and right now we really can't afford even that much.

All of my girl friends have kids 18mos or less, so I'm glad that we at least have a little social group, but sometimes I feel like an outsider. They all have singltons who are freakishly well behaved (and sleeping through the night). I have a set of colicky, high energy twins. We all took the kids to get their pictures taken one day- hell on earth is all I can say. When the pictures came in their kids are all cute and smiling and my boys are scowling. They have lost all their baby weight (and then some in a couple cases). Probably the hardest thing is that their husbands all have good jobs and they always want to go shopping or out to lunch, or something that's really not in our budget. I hate feeling so envious! I'm totaly a green eyed monster!

That's why I love it on here. I really feel like there are other women I can talk to who know what it's like. I would love to meet some local MOMs. What do you guys think?

 

I like our local MOM's group. They have a monthly support group (where you can bring your kids), monthly mom's night out, and a number of playdates. Our registration fee is $35 per year here and it goes towards different events, like a fall party etc. It also gets you access to their bi-yearly consignment sales. I'm pretty sure if you talk to the officers of the group and explain your financial situation is tight, it's possible they could reduce or waive the fee. I think our club will do that, anyways.

I also belong to local SAHM and Attachment Parenting groups, and I still do more stuff with MOM's. It's not because they have twins, per se, but they only schedule things that twins can go to with one parent supervising. For example, it would be hard for a mom with twins to go to a pool with little kids, while it wouldn't be as big of a deal for a singleton. We go to a lot of parks and the zoo.

Our monthly support group meeting is great for meeting other twin moms but they also have guest speakers come in. This month ours is about poisons in the home. Last month we had some coupon experts educate the rest of us. Personally, I would go and try out a meeting or two, then decide if the group is for you. That's what I did.

 

I must say that I find this online forum much more useful that my local MOMs group. I joined my local MOMs group a few months before the boys were due, and I liked the opportunity to meet with other twin moms. But the last monthly dinner consisted of only 4 moms, including myself (though usually its more like 7-12 moms). But what is most frustrating of all is that their discussion board is DEAD. Nobody will reply to any posts. Its actually pretty worthless. Which is why I'm glad I found this forum

Though I guess my MOMs group is not part of the "offical" national MOMs group, because they don't charge a membership fee. Our discussion board is free to members as far as I know and is hosted on bigtent.com (kinda like meetup.com). But again, its worthless so I'm really glad there was no membership fee

 

I enjoy our local MOM's group. I like all of the woman and I learn alot from other mom's of multiples. I like the get togethers and the resales. You should talk to the president and maybe they can let you make payments towards the annual fee.

 

I really like my local MOM group. The fee is $30 but depending on when you join during the year it can be less. I would talk to an office in the group and see if they could do something to help lower the cost. We have one meeting a month and different speakers come to talk to us. Last month was a health care person and they answered questions and gave advise on what to do during the upcoming cold and flu season. This month we are having our Christmas party. There are also events to take the kids to. Like today we meet up and got coffee and sat around and talked. We just bring snacks and such for the kiddos. This website is great for advice but lets face it, you have to get out of the house sometime!

 

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

I'm reading this reply, thinking "Her group sounds a lot like mine does." I get to the bolded part and think "HOLY cow that's exactly what we had!!!"

Then I realize it's my fellow twin mommy and we are in the same group! :laughing: :laughing:

So I'll just ditty Valyre! :ibiggrin:

 

We have the same thing. It drives me insane. NO ONE POSTS or replies. It annoyed me soo bad I wrote them a huge letter letting them know that it bugged me to pay 30 dollars and get NOTHING from it! And no one EVER got together or anything. It was just dumb AND ir eally think it was all about the twice yearly sale more than anything.

I belonged for one year and 3 months and NEVER once met anyone anywhere. And I am a VERY social person!!

It was odd. It was like no one wanted friends?? Dumb.

I did not like ours and it sooo sucked to have to pay for NOTHING like that.

 

there is one locally...i haven't joined..i looked in to it..it's $20 yearly, which is fine...aside from the fact that i don't feel the need to be that social, my twins are my LAST in a line of kids (we have 6 total) so the whole "new mom" thing just isn't happening here...it seemed to me that a lot of the moms at the mom group were moms of JUST multiples..i like large family groups better...i belong to a homeschool group, and that is better suited to me...on that note, i say call the coordinator and see if you can sit in on a meeting or two (i also can't make it to meetings, even though they are only once a month, jason works evenings) and see how you like it..i know our group does the whole "speaker of the month" thing and honestly, that would REALLY annoy me..

 

I wish I could send you the $25 registration fee I wasted on my local MOM's group! I actually think they might be really good, and maybe even good for me once I figure out how to get out of the house for more than 30 minutes with these two! But for online communication and question-answering, this website is the best I've found. By the way, I completely understand what you're saying about comparing yourself to your friends who have singletons your kids' age. It isn't fun. I also understand the resources issue - we live in a very affluent area but are struggling financially and my eyes are monster green too. But I do force myself to socialize outside of the house with other moms, and have found it helps if moms of singles also have toddlers - then they understand the scheduling and getting-out-of-the-house nightmares. I don't want to end up isolated in our tiny apartment. Oh - and as for the pictures, I am SO SORRY! I keep thinking we should go for professional prints but I am afraid the same would happen. So for now I just take as many pictures as I can get with my own camera and usually a few end up being almost professional quality! Good luck! At least we know we always have twinstuff.

 

I don't have a MOM's group and WISH there was one here! I do have a MOPS and enjoy going but do have some of the same frustrations as you do. Every week Im the one that stands out as the "mom with twins" or "here comes the stroller lady". I love the questions, how do you do it? I don't know? Jeez! LOL! I know their very sweet ladies, but I would love to go somewhere where I wasn't the attraction. I say go for it! See if they can wave the fee, if your comfortable with that. We all need to belong somewhere, right?