Finally have a name

Dh agreed to my name choice! :wub: It's a good thing because the kids were already calling him "Caleb." I had the name picked out since my last pregnancy, but dh needed more time to think about it. So tonight he 'okay'd' it. yippy! After I had my last baby I felt so strongly that there was a baby missing...baby 'Caleb'... I thought at the time maybe it was just because I was used to having b/g twinfants in the house, but now that we have 'Caleb' on the way I do think I really knew he was missing! yay!

 

Love the name Caleb!! :wub:

 

I like it!!

 

Thats fabulous!!!
So do you think your family is complete now that you are getting baby Caleb ?

I ask because for me In not sure what the "magic" number is. For Dh it was 2 and as you can see we are now having 3 LOL - but when we were choosing names for the twins I really wanted a "charlie". I wanted to name our dd Charlotte and be allowed to call her Charlie. DH didnt like that. SO when I found out I was pregnant again, I again proposed charlie for a boy or a girl. He said yes for a boy but not for a girl. My mommy gut says Im having a boy 100% and if so, then Im finally getting my charlie but will I feel "complete" after that? Dh is now certain 3 is the limit but he has agreed to let me get the paraguard and hold off on the vasectomey soo.....Im interested to see the road life will take us down

Congrats again on agreeing on a name choice! Its not easy picking names!

 

I LOVE that name. It was on my list, too but we have a last name that starts with "B" and when you said first and last it all ran together where it sounded like we were saying Kayla insteand of Caleb...not that it mattered since we are getting a she. I ramble...but I LOVE it, and I am glad you got the name you were hoping for!

 

I'm 99% sure we're done. Dh is 95% sure we're done. We've both always agreed that we would wait 1 year after our 'last' child to make the final decision. I feel like there is too much room for regret if something happens or if you change your mind while you are still in that hormonal post-partum/breastfeeding phase. So I feel very happy and content thinking about our five children. I really did feel like we were missing our second son. I would've been thrilled with another girl, but I know part of me would've always been sad to not have 'caleb.' And my ds really, really wanted a brother. He and my older dd have been praying for a brother for over a year now, and I had a conversation with God a few months ago that went something like this...'Okay God...I'll be thrilled with whatever you give us, but you are going to have to deal with those little children's hearts if you decide to give us another girl.' I would frequently remind them that God doesn't always answer our prayers exactly how we think He should, but I wasn't about to crush their faith. My son especially was so insistant that we were having a boy that he wasn't remotely fazed when the u/s confirmed this for us. It was like he just shrugged and said, 'see. I told you. I was praying.' LOL.

Ironically, I'm having the family my mother always wanted. They had a son, then a daughter, then twin daughters...and my mom always felt that there was one more boy out there for them. She even had a name, 'matthew.' But my dad decided they were done and went and got the v shortly after the twins were born. I couldn't exactly blame him though. My mom hemmoraged after we were born and nearly died because of it. But given that he did it so close to the birth and her rough recovery only enhanced her regret...hence our policy of waiting for a year regardless of how strongly we might feel about it. The funny thing is that I'm more convinced we're done than dh is. If I gave him the green light we would have as many kids as the duggar's... LOL. I'm just not that 'good' though. Even the idea makes me breathe faster. :blink:

 

Wow!! Congrats! I love that name!!!

 

I love that feeling that what you're doing is exactly right for you! Our surprise pregnancy just feels so right - I've always wanted kids close in age so they could play with each other and stay close later on (my brother and I are far apart and not very close). I'm glad your baby feels perfect for you too!

 

Caleb is a great name! It was on our list too, but I didn't use it because my cousin's little boy is Caleb. Do you have a middle name picked out? I understand what you mean about feeling like someone was missing. I felt that way too and for a long time the girls and I prayed about it, me for another baby and the girls for a brother. I wasn't sure it was ever going to happen though because my DH was positive we were done. So I know how exciting it is to be getting that little person your family has been missing. I know for us our family will be complete because I've always wanted 4 and DH is definitely done. I think it is smart for those who aren't absolutely sure to wait before doing anything permanent though. I've heard of a lot of DH's that change their minds about how many kids they want as there kids get older and more independent.

BTW E&M's mom I think Charlie is absolutely adorable for a little girl!

 

Caleb Hezekiah is his full name.

 

Very cute!

 

Cute Name
Take Care!

 

I love, love his name! Very solid. I know exactly what you mean about knowing there is another little one that is suppose to be in your family. 5/7 of the kids I had the name ahead of time, even before I was pregnant. I just knew from God that that child was meant to be in our family. I have one more name, lol, but I'm not trying anytime soon. I need to lose some weight first. DH wasn't convinced and wanted to be done at 7, but God convinced him, I didn't even have to.

 

Love the name! :clapping: :babyflips: :clapping:

 

We're the opposite shoes... God would have to convince me! It's not fear over providing for the kids...it's more the whole upheaval on me personally...emotionally, physically, the transition of a new baby. It's basically 2 years of upheaval between the pregnancy and the bfing/lack of sleep... So I'm looking forward to this permanent status where things settle down. But I might be searching in vain for some kind of utopia which doesn't exist. If it's not kids; it'll be something else. LOL.

 

Im hoping God either convinces DH for #4 or convinces me that 3 is plenty For now, I'd like to think God is who got my husband to agree to the IUD for me instead of the vasectomy

 

I like it! Its a nice strong name Very nice!

 

Baby steps!! LOL! This is why I feel like such an oddball. Most women that I know are upset over their dhs wanting to be done. And here I have one who just wants to keep on going. He's 11 months younger than I am, and sometimes I attribute this to his energy level which is much better than mine. But he's not one of those young fathers who is still out and about playing the social field. He's a hands on dad and pulls his weight around here 99% of the time. And the other 1% is probably just when I'm in a bad mood and not noticing what he's contributing or I'm irritated that he's working on our finances and not washing the dishes. LOL.

Thanks for all the positive comments on the name. I'm waiting to see how the extended family reacts to the 'Hezekiah' part! ^_^ But the immediate family loves the name.

 

I'm glad he didn't go for the more permanent solution, although I have two friends one who's DH had a reversal (they added three more children to the 3 they had before the reversal) and one who's dh will have a reversal in Dec. It'll be interesting to see how your DH feels when the 3 kids are a bit older. Your kids are very close in age and that can be intimidating.

Is it the age thing? My DH is almost 3 years younger than me, lol! Oh and what does Hezekiah mean?

 

I think the age thing can go either way. I have a friend married to someone around 8 years younger than her, and they only had 1 child together. And he's playing the field right now. Not a good situation.

Hezekiah means 'God is my strength.'

 

11 months? Honey that's nothing.

 

E&M's mom, don't give up hope! My DH was DONE and got pretty upset whenever I'd mention having a 4th. After several years of me using several different types of BC and having nothing but issues with them I told him it was his turn because I was done. He was too scared/manly to get the big V and didn't like condoms. I was shocked that he was willing to take the risk after being so determined to be done! When I told him I was pregnant I really expected him to be upset but he was fine with it. He still refuses to have the V but since I have to have a c/s I agreed to have a tubal. So anyways it is very possible that your DH could change his mind especially as your kids get older and things get easier. I'd say if you can convince him not to do anything permanent for a few years that would be great. I really hope that either way you will both be able to be happy with your decision.

 

Oh I know! But believe me, it makes a difference! When I compare his energy level to my BILs who are both 5-8 years older than he is the difference is incredible. I honestly don't think we would've had 5 kids if he had been 5 years older than I! He would've run out of steam by now!!! LOL

 

Love the name! So sweet!