Has anyone else always had their twins in separate rooms?

I had the space so I have always had the boys in separate rooms from about 8 months - I was always so scared of them waking each other up. My friend has triplets and they all share the same room with no problems! She was telling me how they 'chat' to each other when they go to sleep and when they wake up. I feel as though I have missed out on something now!! It was always a tough decision but it does work for us. Now I feel guilty because I think they have missed out on something! Anyone else have them separate to make me feel better?!

 

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I put S&L into their own rooms at 6 months. Prior to that they shared a crib and were getting to big to fit in it. We have a 3 bedroom house but their bedrooms were not big enough to hold two cribs, so they had to be separated. Don't feel guilty, we all do what works best for our families :hug:

 

We separated at 9 months. Sometimes, I feel bad too. Not bad enough to move them back tho!

 

Mine were in separate room since 7 months. It just worked best for us cause we don't wake up early. They'd probably have learned to sleep through each other's crying better if they were together, but I just didn't want them to wake each other up in the mornings. I do think they'd have a blast together, but if I'm not well-rested, I am not a happy mommy. An unhappy mommy means unhappy babies. I would be too tired to give them the attention they need and deserve if I'm too tired, so separating them in to their own rooms is just the better option. Don't feel guilty if it's what works best for you.

 

Mine have always been together but when we move we will separate them. I'm not sure you missed out on much. Yes, they babble to each other before sleeping etc but they have all day to do that too. I think the benefits of having them in their own room are worth it.

 

I second that last post. I have mine sep and have been since about 4 weeks! My DS woke up several times at night until age 11 mo! He had reflux and my dd slept great! Husband was in Korea so in order to get the most sleep for me and DD we kept him in his own room! Worked great and still does. I feel guilty sometimes but not most of the time. I feel they have all day together and often crave time alone......my only regret is thinking about how we'll ever travel in a hotel room when they'll have to sleep together, anyone cross this bridge yet?

 

Thanks ladies - feel much better now!

 

Mine never shared a room, unless you count the three minutes they spent in their room together. One cried, woke the other up, we freaked and they each got their own room. :good: Don't feel guilty about it at all :hug: We all do what we feel is best, and I felt it was best for them to have separate rooms.

 

I figure mine are together all day long, so it is good they have some separate time at night (as mine have been in separate rooms since about 3months old when they were keeping each other awake). I dont feel much guilt about it.

 

Ours have also had their own rooms since they were 6 months old. We feel that they still have a close bond even if they do not sleep in the same room. They went through the stage where they had their own language. Even to this day, our DS says some things that none of us understand, but our DD does. They laugh hysterically.

 

We separated at 15 months, and I wish I had done it much sooner! My two have vastly different personalities -- Karina really needs her space, and Kevan is an always-in-your-face annoying brother, LOL, so they really do better in separate rooms.

I don't feel any guilt at all.

 

No I don't because don't have the room. Nto sure it would be different even if we did. ardon:

Don't feel guilty or second guess yourself.! If it works then there is no problem. There will always be "the other side." If they share, they will never know what it's like to have their own room. There are always 2 sides.

 

Mine also share a room together mainly because we don't have enough room for their own rooms. They do babble and make each other laugh in their cribs and I love that! But if we had more room, they'd definitely be in their own rooms at some point. I agree, we make the best choices for our little ones. There's no right or wrong here!

 

Mine have been in separate rooms since birth! They were soooo different and on such different schedules. The night doula could get them to sleep in the same room but I was never brave enough to do it. We don't have the room so we are just about to start construction on a remodel to build more bedrooms. I don't see us going back.

 

our boy/girl twins have separate rooms since they are 3 months old, our boy always wakes up wayyyyy before her, after the night sleep and also the naps, the girl needs a ton of more sleep.

we created a wonderful bye-bye/kiss-kiss ceremony before sleeping, they walk upstairs to their rooms, they are right next to each other in the corner, then they would both hold their lovies and kiss each other good night or nap time sleep, they wave too and say bye-bye to each other. when one is up there alone for some reason, he or she will look for the other one to see if they come too, good thing they always go down at the same time, but as I said, not up at the same time

so no regrets here, I think for mine, it is good that they have their alone time...they do everything together all day long, especially now with the walking after each other, imitating each other, etc., they love and need their own space, to separate and to understand that the other one (like mommy) will be there again in the morning.

also, they get REALLY excited when they wake up and see each other. Kaden is usually up 1st, so whenever she gets up too, he comes with me to her room to get her. they would laugh and squeetch and jump up and down, totally happy, so I think that is great.

to answer PAULACRAFT1's question re: when travelling and having them together in their room, we were in switzerland with both of them and they slept together in the same room in their own pack'n plays without a problem, I could not believe it how easy they transitioned. I guess the time change and the long trip also made them very tired and I think that helped, they pretty much were back on normal schedule over there by the 2nd night and napped 3-4 hours every day !

good luck!