If you have read my previous post about my problems with dh, you would know why my topic line says what it does. I have been feeling so sick and just cant shake the flu I am having. Been to the dr yesterday because for the last week I have added vomiting to my symptoms... I told him the last time I felt like this was when I was pg with the girls..... well I am pg again. 7.5 weeks pg. And the last time dh and I dtd was 8 weeks ago between bathing the babies and supper... I am so shell shocked, been crying since finding out. and dh looks like a kid who received xmas for xmas. he has already phoned all of his family... and I dont know how to feel, cos I am not ready for this.
Well.. Congrats, i guess?? I highly suggest getting into counseling w/ DH now. Do as much work on the two of you before new one arrives cuz as we all know- babies don't fix things between mom and dad-- they make them worse. It could end up being a VERY good kick in the butt for DH as long as you do the work and get some stuff situated between the two of you. Congratulations and your avatar pic is soo cute. It's great that the girls get to be big sisters! I bet it's a boy!
Oh Boni! I just saw your status update! I know this isn't what you want right now, but I agree with IVFBound, counseling could do wonders right now. I haven't read about your troubles with DH, so I may have a different opinion after that. Just wanted to send you some :hug:! Hang in there!
Thanks to all my friends for thehugs and well wishes on both subjects. My dh is like a kid, so excited and has alredy told all the friends an family. he arranged for the girls to be with a nanny tonight and he wants to celebrate. I am going to use this oportunity to talk to him about how I feel. think of me girls.
Good luck with your talk. I think there's a good chance things will get better if you guys have an open line of communication.
I too will be thinking of you tonight and hope you and dh can work things out!!! I agree an open line of communication is key as well! I hope things work out the way you want them to! And I'll send my congrats to you as well! Let us know how things go tonight!
Good luck! I agree with the PP's to try to talk things out with your DH and see if you can get him to agree to some type of counseling. Congratulations and best of luck to all of you!
Congrats! Good luck. Do they go by First Date of your last period in South Africa to determine how many weeks you are? They do that here, so if you DTD 8 weeks ago, you would be about 9-10 weeks pg now depending on when you ovulated. Yay for no flu!! Stacy
Hi Everyone, the talk sort of happened in hospital. i was severely dehydrated, thanks to pg hormones and morning sickness. He ended up having to take care of the girls for a week and by day 3 he initiated the talk. He realised then that it is hard work and he had no time for himself. He admited he was a jerk and that he would try harder. he has been so good so far adn with me not feeling so good, he took over a whole lot of the work. He has been away the weekend to a family weekend about 700 miles away, but I told him to go. To much to soon... He is clucking and has not been to gym for the last 2 weeks. We had another talk about it and I told him that he should make time for himself and then let me have my time but that we should also make time for each other. It has been a rocky road and I dont expect it to be okay overnight. But it is a step in the right direction. Thank you for your encouragement and prayers. With out you ladies here at TS it would not be so easy sometimes. love to all Boni
