Help freaking out!

Please help before I have a panic attack.. Around cycle day 10 husband and I were not careful, at all. I don't normally ovulate till day 15 16 or 17. So probably ok. Then on Monday I had some spotting and thought Af was starting, but no luck. Now I am just waiting and worrying. I had an old Ovulation test which I took and it was almost positive so now I am freaking out. Please calm me down. I can not have a baby now. BTW I have no symptoms just I'm super paranoid!! I know this probably not where i should post this, but I don't know where.

 

:hug: Can you pick up an early test & do it so that, if it's negative, you will not have to worry so much?

 

:hug: I had the exact same thing happen to me this month, right down to the ovulation predictor coming up positive! Turns out it was wrong, I am not pregnant. I hope you get the same results, you can't rely on an OPK to predict pregnancy.

 

Thank you!! I hope the same for me. I can't get to the store till hubby comes home. I am tempted to make him come home early. So opk doesn't mean anything right???

I can't get out becasue I live on a 3 story walk up. i almost want to make my hubby came home becasue I am afraid I will have a panic attack.

 

No, the OPK does not mean anything. Not only did my OPK come back 100% positive, I felt very naseous and AF was 3 days late! I was seriously freaking out!

 

Thank you so much for responding. I am still nervous but I feel better after hearing your story.

 

If your due to start, take a test and hopefully put your mind at ease. It is hard to comment on this because I don't know what your belief system is as far as birth control options, emergency contraception, etc. I hope for you that everything goes well but if for some reason you have conceieved, even though the timing may be crappy, but you are a strong, fabulous woman and everything will be okay.

 

your period could still be erratic at this point, if you're anything like me. i had a bit of a nervous week about a month and a half ago, even though DH and i so rarely get an opportunity for fooling around. we totally went through the same thing when AF refused to show up, thinking "we were careful! we were totally careful! we can't do this now!" turns out i was just late. then this month i was a week and a half early.

definitely take another test to put your mind at ease, but try not to stress too much. in my experience stressing only makes AF more reluctant to show up. and your body might not be running like clockwork yet in that department.

 

Thanks for the support ladies. Hubby picked up a test and I will take it when he gets home. I will be holding my pee till then. I am now thinking I want the pill. I don't want to worry about this, and it seems like every month I am just a tad scared because I know we are not ready. Normally we are very safe, but unfortunately we had a little to much to drink and I assumed he would use something, and he assumed since I didn't say anything it must be ok (I only allow that if I know I am faaaaar from ovulation!) I'll let you know after I take it.

 

Be careful with that, I was faaaaaar from ovulation when I got pregnant with Luke & Lila! Good luck with your test!

 

Good to know. I will no longer be doing that!!!

 

:hug: Stress can definitely cause AF not to show!!! Please keep us updated.

 

I was going to suggest to have him pick up a test! Glad to hear he will! I went right back on the pill as soon as I had my 6 weeks check up. I've heard way too many stories of people getting pregnant breastfeeding and wanted to wait until we're ready for #3. I'll be sitting on the edge of my chair for your results!!

 

When will hubby be home? Waiting on pins & needles for you!

 

He said he might be home by 3:30. I am still holding my pee. I will let you all know. Thanks for the support.

 

Not to freak anyone out, but I got pregnant with my twins ON the pill!


Hope everything works out for you! :hug:

 

I hope you get the results you want! Just remember we are blessed with what we can handle....my twins were a BIG surprise. DH and I already had 4 from previous marriages and wanted 1 together....but we got SUPER lucky and got 2! I was so in shock at the thought of having 6 kids but we are happy and I just can't imagine things being different!

Keep us posted,

 

According to the test I am pregnant. I am in total shock. I don't know what to do. I am trying to think positive, but it's not easy.

 

First just sit down! There are about a million things in the world that could happen that is worse...think about all that you are thankful for and talk to your husband. Call your OB office and go in for confirmation and go from there. Take each day as they come....you never know what tomorrow will bring!

I am thinking of you and hope things work out, !

Please keep us updated!

 

Breathe. Have a nice long talk with your hubby and you guys will work things out somehow. Take care of yourself and like pp said, go to your OB to get everything confirmed. I'm sending truck loads of hugs your way! Keep us posted. :hug:

 

Holy Cow! I was seriously not expecting that! Take a deep breath. I know somewhat how you are feeling, our situations are not exactly the same, but I was not happy when I found out I was pregnant this last time. But, like someone else said, I finally realized there were tons of things that could be worse and, in the end, they were just the biggest blessing in our lives. We all adore them & can't think what life would be like without them. Give yourself time to process it, you'll be okay. PM me if you need to talk to someone, I'm always around. :grouphug:

 

Sending lots of hugs and thoughts your way. Please keep us posted and don't forget to breathe.

 

Thank you all. One second I think I am fine and the next I feel a panic attack coming on. This is very unplanned and hate to say but not exactly wanted. I am trying to breathe. Tina I may be calling on you.

 

:hug: Tiffany. We are here for you.

 

WoW!~ I too was expecting it to be neg. Just try not to panic! Its shocking but once a little time goes by you'll be okay! I am praying for you!!!

 

Just wanted to say hang in there and just take some time to let it all sink in. You can do it and it will all work out!


Erica

 

oh my goodness! i'm sure you are feeling completely overwhelmed right now, but like everyone has said, BREATHE! just give yourself time to process and take it one day at a time.

it is cliche, but true, we really are only given what we can handle, and you can do this! we are all here for you!!

 

Wow, I didn't think it would be positive either.

Just remember there is a lot of support around here no matter what decision(s) you make. I know I wouldn't be the happiest Mama if I was pregnant right now, and my boys are 13 months old. :hug:

 

Tiffany Big :hug:. Try and just let it sink in for a couple days and have a good talk with your DH. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you must feel but know that we are here for you.

 

:hug: :hug: :hug: I know it's not the result you want sweetie, and what a shocker, but try to think of the good things that can come from this (although I know it's not easy).

You'll get all those sleepless nights over with within a few years!
You'll be done with all the diapers in a few years!
The kids will be close in age and will adore each other! They'll have such a tight bond because they'll never remember what it was like without baby #3!
All your baby stuff will be like new and usable and instyle!
Your carseats will still be in date!

:hug: I know how stressed you are, but hopefully you and dh can sit down and talk about this, call your ob and get in to see them as soon as you can, and I know down the road you'll be okay! :hug:

 

Danielle made some really good points! I hope you are feeling better this morning. :hug:

 

Congratulations! I know it's not what you want right now, but having one after two will be a piece of cake! In a relative sense, of course You can do this. I keep thinking of how difficult things are now with my 3 youngest, but how it will be so much more enjoyable once they're all older. Relax, breathe, you're gonna rock!

 

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know you will be able to take lemons and make lemonade. My first child was not a "wanted" pregnancy but after I gave it a chance to sink in, I totally embraced it and he has been one of the best things that has ever happened to me. At any rate, I totally support you.

 

You are all going to think I'm completely INSANE....but when I read your post, before you found out you are preg again...I got so excited for you--I know it isn't the ideal timing for you right now, but personally, and I cannot BELIEVE I am saying this--but I wish it were me! There! I said it! I never EVER thought I would say it. I was constantly saying, oh this is IT for us! No WAY are we going to have any more babies unless God has other plans for us. NO WAY! But then I actually found myself with a bit of "amnesia" as to all we went through with our first (twins) pregnancy. We thought--great, two for one, this is it. No more. HA. So I said to DH that I might want to have just ONE more....he laughed at me. Then a few days later he said, "you know, I kind of want one more too." But we are SOOO not ready for another one yet. He got injured at work, and is now temporarily disabled. It hurts him too much to BD--it would be physically impossible for us right now, just due to his pain level, let alone the financial aspect of it all.

So when I saw your post, I got all excited for you--even though you were hoping it wasn't going to turn out the way it did. I'm really happy for you, but I TOTALLY understand the anxiety you are having. I would probably be a basket case, myself, if I were to find out that same thing right now. We just are not in the right "place" for it to happen again --YET. But just know that you WILL get through this, and I wish you the very best. You and your family are in my prayers, sweetie! Hang in there! HUGS to you!

 

I know it isn't what you wanted, but you will see that it will all work out in the end. My twin pregnancy was a big surprise and not at all what I wanted at the time. DH and I were thinking about divorcing and just 3 months into the pregnancy my DH unexpectedly got laid off from a very stable job. Things were TOUGH, but in the end it made us realize we didn't want to be without each other and things have worked out very well. I could not imagine life without my twin girls. This time I had wanted another baby so badly for years but DH did not and when it happened I went back and forth from being excited to totally freaked out for the first month or two. Just give it time to sink in and try to tell yourself you CAN do this. Things will work out, you will see. Congrats!