Another CIO question

I had done all my research before i started and it seemed that most people were successful with in the first week. Well tonight is day 6 and we are still very far from an end result. Twin A goes to sleep with no problem and if she wakes up the longest she will cry in 10 min, so i really did this whole CIO for twin B. the first night she cried for 2 hours, i couldn't believe i let her cry but every time i said i would go in it sounded like she started quieting down so i waited, finally she fell asleep on her own after 2 hours. the second night was and hour and half, the third night was 40 min, the fourth night was 45 min, the fifth night was an hour, and tonight we are right now at an hour and half. Does CIO sometimes not work??? Did anyone experience this?? i don't know what to do should i stick with it, does it sometimes take a couple weeks for things to improve??? i need advice, i hate hearing her cry
TIA

 

My twins are too young to try this, but I have an older son who took 2 full weeks to become adjusted. He was 7 months old exactly, my ped recommended it. I felt as if I were torturing him. He then just started crying and fussing less and less. slept 12 hours a night, and two regular naps. That schedule lasted for months.
Good luck

 

How old are they? I did it with all 3 boys, and it took the longest with Justin(9 months old), which was only 5 days or so.

 

How old are they? How oftem are you going into the room? I find that if I go in, they will cry. Even when I do not pick them up. So, I do not go in to check on them. Consistency is the key. If you are going to do a method, stick to it an dont give up.

BTW, it took us a little over a week.. i think it was 2. I dont remember!

Be consistent!

Jenn

 

I too wonder how old they are? I did it at 10 months with older ds and then 8 and 10 months with dd, within 2-4 days they were sleeping fine almost immediately after going to bed! :hug: It can definetly take longer with some kids but it can also depend on the age :hug:

 

Big :hug: Momma, it is awful to hear your baby CIO i found it extremley hard too. I don't have any experiance in it not working but the first week was like you describe - long crying sessions that gradually got less and less but ours never cried longer that in the beginnning like yours. I was informed to expect a sleep regression around day 4 if i remember rightly, we didn't get this but maybe that is what your going through now? Just a thought. Ours always cried without fail for the first few weeks and nowadays they will fuss if too tired but more often than not they go down without a peep so i am sure it took them abit to fully get it. I hope it gets better soon for you.

 

One more wondering how old they are. I did CIO with the boys at 7.5 months and one did really well while the other took a lot longer. The one that took longer is still using a paci and still has a harder time going to sleep (unless it's in the car ). If you aren't sure it will work, you can always try again in a few weeks. Is it possible a new tooth could be coming in? That could be contributing to the trouble.

 

I think the older they are then the longer it probably takes. So if they are close to 1 year old maybe that's why it is taking a little longer than someone doing CIO with 6 month olds.

 

With my DS, we didn't start CIO until 12 months because before that he always fell asleep on the bottle. Then, I took away the bottle, and he had to fall asleep on his own. He was sleeping through the night at 9 months, though, so CIO was only for the first time down.

It took 3 MONTHS of crying every night!! Sometimes, it would only last for 15 - 20 minutes, sometimes, not at all, sometimes 1-2 hours (although those nights were really rare). I HATED it!! It was very hard, but the few times I went in there, he stopped crying immediately, so I knew he wasn't really upset. I felt like it was just a test of wills. Then, magically, he stopped around 15 months. Every night was "night-night" and he laid right down with his snugglies and happily waved at me. Then, for some reason, around 18 months, he started the crying again, and he still does it. So, basically, CIO hasn't worked for me. We have gone in there very rarily (only if we had some reason to think he had hurt himself), but he still cries. Now, he's old enough to realize that we are not coming in, and we can usually talk to him through the door and tell him to go to bed and he gets quiet. He's a very happy boy, well-adjusted in all aspects. I asked the pedi about him crying every night and the pedi assured me we were doing the right thing.

I've just decided that my son does not like to go to bed and some babies/kids just don't. My DD (only 4 mos) already STTN and when I put her in bed, she smiles at me as I sing to her and then just drifts off. She gets upset if we don't put her to bed on time. My younger DS stays up later and I think he will fight sleep like my 2-yr-old. I hope it's not as hard for you as it was for me, but I did want to share my story in case it helps at all.

 

We did CIO at about 5 months. It took about a week to reach a kind of equilibrium (starting with over an hour of crying and gradually diminishing), but even then, they cried for about 15 minutes every single night until they were about a year old. We just decided it was their winding-down time. Once it settled into a routine, it didn't really bother us.