One doesn't like the other

My boys have never fully interacted, a smile here and there, cuddling in sleep, and parallel play with some toy stealing. Lately Colten flips out when Trent looks at him or touches him. It makes me sad, I want them to be friends. Has this ever happened to anyone?

 

Bump, seriously no one?? So i have an anti social twin. Please tell this is a phase!

 

i haven't experienced this to the extent that you are, but my DD is very sensitive and DS is a bully. she often gets very upset when he comes around her when she is playing, cries and whines until i move him away.

i hope it is just a phase for your guys, have you mentioned it to your pedi? sorry i couldn't be more help...

 

Thank you for responding. No I haven't. It just started. I would be more worried if he was anti social with us, but he's not. He even smiles at other kids. I have found his brother during nap poking at him and pulling him, so maybe it has caused him to be scared?

 

There was lots of hair pulling/toy stealing/bopping the other on the head with a toy going on at that age! Colten probably knows what's coming! I wouldn't worry too much.

 

My girls are constantly 'fighting'. It seems whenever one has a toy the other wants it and vice versa. They seem to 'fight' over me and get upset if one is in my lap and the other isn't. They bop each other on the head regularly and are constanly pulling their sisters arm out of the way when she reaches for a toy the other is playing with. I think it's just a phase, I'm sure as they get older and realize they have a built in playmate and not a built in toy stealer, you will see them interact more and more!

 

This is totally normal and has nothing to do with them being twins. It's how kids that age interact. They don't know how to share or be "social" with other kids yet, so instead they poke each other, pull hair, steal toys...etc. Colton may just be a little more sensitive than Trent is! It's a pretty normal stage that they'll outgrow when they are able to start communicating more, and are able to be more social with each other! :hug:

 

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Mine only like each other when they are within the safe confines of their high chairs. It's getting better now but they used to be horrible on the floor together. Now they are ok unless someone gets bashed in the head

 

Ruby ADORES her sister and whenever she is near her she tries to "storke" her face i.e she claws her eyes out! I have noticed Amber just isn't bothered at all, that is when i am around. I have caught them cooing to each ther pleasantly but as soon as they spotted me Amber started fussing. I think Amber just needs her space and with Ruby being so full on it sometimes furstrates her but i am sure they will work it out between them and i'm sure your boys will too. I didn't always get along with my siblings and still don't lol but i love them to bits.

 

Thank you all. I feel better now. Actually today I noticed Colten standing up for himself a little more, he even took a toy from Trent. They actually were paralleling playing for a while without anyone getting mad. I do think it's because of the way Trent grabs at him because this morning I took Trent's hand to touch Colten's, and Colten almost flinched, before he realized it didn't hurt.

 

DD often gets mad because DS is around. He likes her much more than she likes him. She has days when she doesn't want him touching her, playing with toys she wants, being held by DH or I, or just being in the same room. It's totally normal. You wouldn't think anything of it if your singleton child didn't want to play with another child or have you hold another child. The good news is that it gets better and they have days when they play a lot. The bad news is that siblings bicker, and being twins doesn't change that. Don't worry that your DS is "wrong" in some way. He's just a normal little guy.

 

I swear it's like Colten heard me. Just a few minutes ago he was laughing at his brother :woohoo: . I have never seen him do that. I feel better. I guess I should cut him some slack. We all want to be left alone sometimes.

 

I wanted to thank you (you know the plus sign on the bottom) but yours doesn't come up?

 

Huh, that's funny I don't see it either. I'll ask around about that.

 

It's all the way down at the very bottom of the page on the right. I think her 'interests' section is too long(according to the software!), and it's causing that to happen to her + sign. I am going to PM her.

 

They always do that, don't they? <_< :lol: I'm glad they did though, so you don't have to worry about it. :hug: My two were like that around that age, they weren't into each other AT ALL. It's passed and now they are best buds. :friends: