Separation anxiety

We took our LOs to my in-laws´ and came back home with DH last night. They have a country house and its great for them. We live in a flat in a busy city. Im going back there tomorrow morning but Ive been MISERABLE all day today. I miss my twins and, from what I heard when on the phone to MIL, they miss me too (though MIL would have me believe otherwise). Im trying to spend some guilt-free time away from my LOs, I need it, but why do I feel so rotten? They´re going to nursery in September so how will I cope then!?

Anyone else experience this? If so, how did you pull through it? I never thought I´d feel this way (I have to admit that AF is just around the corner!!)

TIA!

 

:hug: Even when I've left my girls with DH for a couple of days (to go on a business trip), I was miserable missing them. I wish I had some advice, but just try to do something all for you while they are gone. :hug:

 

My only advice is to keep busy to keep your mind off of missing them. Drinking always helps me

 

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Yeah, I would have to agree with pp. Just stay busy!! It is hard, but I think it is healthy...not only for you and DH, but for them too.

 

awe it reminds you of how much you love them! but i agree, if you can, use the time to focus on you and doing something special for you! i look at it like this--by taking care of myself and making myself happy (getting a manicure, seeing a friend, reading a book solo at a coffeeshop,whatever it is)...i'm taking care of my needs which will make me a better mommy for my babies.

 

I do miss my twins when they are away from me but I also relish the time that I have to myself and to DH. We all miss each other terribly but at times I think the kids enjoy the break from us as much as we do from them. Definitely keep yourself busy: read, pamper yourself, take a bubble bath or do whatever you don't get to do often with the kids around. Enjoy!

 

It's hard to let your babies go away, but important though. You will get through it and they will be fine. I haven't had the opportunity for me to miss the twins for more than a few hours but DD has gone away several times and each time is hard but needed for both of us.

 

I got away today for a few hours and I felt all sorts of pangs of missing them but I tried to relish in the little things like taking an escalator and not searching for an elevator! My mom made a good point that made me feel better. She said it's good for them to be away from you too to realize that other people can meet their needs. I thought that was a great point!