Feeling isolated

I have been feeling so isolated lately. Even though I get out of the house with the twins for at least an hour every day. It doesn't seem like we do anything significant. Either going to the grocery store, the book store, wash the car etc....nothing where I meet up with other adults and chat. I have tried finding a local playgroup with no luck. We live in a small town and there just isn't much to do here. I have tried getting involved in our church and even though they have an awesome Children's ministry...the twins are really still to little to get involved and my DH and I haven't quite figured out where we fit in (even though we have been attending for 4 yrs. now).

We moved back to my DH's hometown about 9 years ago. It really is a retirement town. It seems like all of our friends have moved away. We haven't been able to meet anyone. Part of me likes it here because we have family, but I get soooo tired of not having any friends. Lord, knows I have tried to meet people, but in this town, it is nearly impossible.

Does anyone else go through this? Not able to find an outlet, a playgroup, etc...? How do you deal with it?

 

To me, one of the hardest things about being a SAHM is by far the isolation. I have decided that I am going to go back to school part time in the fall to hopefully help with this. It will give me an opportunity to get out without the kids, meet some new people, and be productive. All of which I am lacking at the moment.

I hope you are able to find some kind of balance. Are there any kid's classes by you? Dance, gymboree, mygym, gymnastics? I put my girls in dance at 18 months and it has helped break up our week quite a bit. Best of luck to you!! :hug:

 

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. I know it's tough! Honestly, I feel the same way a lot of the time, just because it's difficult to get out with the boys AND find time to actually converse with people when I'm out with them!

Have you tried a local moms group? It's been a nice way for both me and the kids to make friends, and it's given me the opportunity to get out on the weekends here and there. If there's a book store nearby, you could maybe check and see if there's a book club there. Our Barnes & Noble used to offer several. I understand living in a small town, and sometimes it does feel like outsiders aren't exactly welcome. But, I do hope you'll find a way to enjoy yourself and have your needs met. And, if you live near me, you're always welcome to come hang out! We love friends!

 

I know what you mean. I live in the country so activities to involve them in are very few and far between.

 

I have felt this way too. Most of the children's programs around here are for kids two and older. What helps me feel less isolated is chatting to friends on the phone, I have one friend in the area and the others are out of area. I agree if you can find a swim class, dance class or something to break the week up, that might help. :hug: to you.

 

Try meetup.com. I belong to a sahm group although I am the only one with twins.

You can also start your own meetup for sahm's, but it will cost you. You have the option to pass down the cost to the other members. Depending on how many join, it could be something like a $5 yearly fee.

 

Thanks! I took your suggestion and found a group. It is a town that is 30 minutes away, but hey that's o.k. as long as we can get out of the house and meet some people. We are actually going for a meet in greet today!

 

You're sweet...thanks! Unfortunately though, I am about 4 hours away from College Station.