i feel terrible

my girls are saying words, but still not able to communicate too much to get what they want/need. most of the time i can just figure out what they want and get it for them, but yesterday we went out to eat and i put fries in front of ivana and she kept "ugh"-ing at me and showing me the fry. i thought she wanted me to maybe blow on it to cool it off. well she started getting frustrated so she threw a fry at me, so i tapped her hand and she just started crying and then everythign just went downhill and we ended up just leaving. she was so upset, she held on to a fry the entire way home... i put them to bed with no lunch (cuz at this point marina wouldn't eat, either). later in the day after they went to bed for the night i realized, OMG SHE WANTED KETCHUP the poor thing! that's all sheh wanted! i feel like the worst mom. so today we're going to get her fries and ketchup for lunch lol
i just had to get that out

 

Don't feel terrible sometimes it is really hard to understand kids. Even when they having been talking for years.

On a recent trip across the country I had our 4 yr old daughter and DH had the twins. We got separated while trying to get through the check in stuff at the airport. DD kept telling me she wanted a ********. I kept asking her what over and over. and am really stressed because I have our tickets, bags, diaper bag, etc. But she kept asking for it. Finally I said in a somewhat stern voice. "Savannah, I do not understand, you are gonna have to wait until later and ask again!" A lady in line next to us said "She is asking for a badge." I was completely embarrassed because this woman doesn't know us could understand my child. This was exactly what she wanted because of all the people walking around with badges on.

Just keep listening and you will figure out what they want.

 

I can sympathize. Sometimes it is really HARD to understand them. Thankfully Katie can point at what she wants and if it is something in the fridge she wants she walks over to it and pulls on the handle. When I open it she points to what she wants and tries to say what it is she wants... she is getting easier to understand as the days go on.

 

sometimes i still cant understand jess. if its really bad i stop and ask jazz to translate or have her say it in my ear. even with tubes her speech is blurred sometimes

 

Don't beat yourself up! A lot of understanding them involves guessing. I also do the "show me" - easiest to do at home though.

Dani - this was hysterical, only because I've been there too! I swear, my 5 yr old is just as hard to understand as my 2 yr olds sometimes, especially if she is frustrated I didn't understand her the first time. Instead of enunciating more clearing she gets upset and whiny making it that much harder to figure out!!

 

Mommy guilt never ends. If it isn't something it is another. One of my boys is becoming very verbal and talks nonstop. He has sounds that he consistently makes for some things that at least to me sound nothing like the actual word itself but he totally expects you to understand what he is trying to say and it drives him nuts when has asks for something and you can't figure it out after 2 or 3 "very clear" reptitions. I am pretty sure he thinks Mommy and Daddy are prety dumb, because everyone knows "ugh" means ketchup, right?

 

:hug: Danielle, don't feel bad, I think we've all been there. There have been many times where I have totally missed the mark on what the kids want.
I really cannot wait until they can communicate clearer what they want!

 

Awww!! Been there, done that, got the bad mommy award to show for it. :hug: :hug: :hug:

Did she like her fries with ketchup today?

 

:hug: I think we have ALL had these moments. Don't beat yourself up - you tried! :hug: I hope today's meal was great and made up for the rocky experience yesterday!

 

Don't feel bad at all! It's hard to understand what they want with our DD I have to stop her all the time from throwing fits and try to get her to communicate by saying help when she needs something. She tends to throw herself on the floor and scream so, hopefully soon it will get better.

Good Luck