I have some confessions - now that I'm in the 2nd year

I just wanted to thank you all so much!!! Every day, I wake up feeling like I'm an awful parent... then I saw this and feel redeemed!! No one understands until they've had twins!!!

 

It's so true, this is all stuff that I do, yet if I told anyone else, they would never understand how that became acceptable! Thank you for letting me know I'm not alone lol!

1. Sometimes I see my girls eat left over cheerios off of the floor, and then I pretend I didn't see..
2. I put everything I don't want to clean up in our 'office' so I don't have to look at it.
3. I also put all of the laundry I don't have time to fold on the side of our bed no one can see but me.
4. Sometimes I take the girls to the store just so I can talk to someone new, it always works, without fail!
5. I make myself feel productive when I am playing with them on the floor and doing nothing
6. I love it when they get an outfit dirty at the same time so I can change them both. I can't stand the question "why don't you dress them the same??" when just one of them needs to be changed

 

I just burst into tears! This is the first time I have been to twinstuff and the first forum I found. Thank you everyone because I know now that others understand!! I don't feel like I am crazy anymore! I too feel like a terrible mother because I can relate to all of these confessions. Plus...

1. I only really wash the girls hands if they have poop on them. Other than that...if I can't see it, oh well!

2. My children get their only veggies from v8 vfusion juice. They refuse to eat any veggies...at all.

3. I yelled at someone in Sam's club because they wanted to talk about my twins. I told them that 'Yes they are twins. No they aren't identical (Duh, blonde and brunette) and could I please just get my shopping done without getting stopped every five seconds so you can tell me about your brother-in-law's ex wife's cousin who had in vitro and got twins too. Oh and why is it any of your business if I had fertility treatments???' That was a pretty bad day.

4. Once I hadn't cleaned my kitchen floor in so long that I wouldn't let my kids in the kitchen...at all!

5. I told a friend of mine that her two non-twin kids were just not the same as having twins!! Thankfully she is still my friend. But it's true, right?

6. Yo Gabba Gabba, Disney Channel and Veggietales are on ALL day, even in the car.

7. I have no idea how to discipline my 21 month old girls. Especially the one who has recently started hitting. I am terrified of her.

8. Countdown to nap/bet times? Absolutely...34 minutes

9. I use way too many frozen entrees for me and hubby. I don't remember the last time I made a real meal that didn't start in the freezer.

10. Yesterday my husband had to wear dirty slacks to work because I forgot to do laundry...sorry babe.

 

Now that I'm officially a SY member it's time to fess up...

1. Our boys still wear sleepers 99% of the time. At home, to daycare, in the grocery store, visiting relatives. If its not Thanksgiving or Christmas or an appointment w/ a professional photographer there is NO reason to dress them in normal clothes.
2. I'm always afraid of running out of clean sleepers though so I don't sort and wash them separately with just other baby clothes. A handful of baby clothes here and there get washed with practically every load, regardless if its fuzzy towels, jeans, sheets, etc.
3. I loathe to change their crib sheets because of those annoying padded crib bumpers which get in the way. So instead of changing crib sheets I just layer 2 receiving blankets over their fitted crib sheets and tuck them along the sides of the mattress. A baby spits up? I just pull off the receiving blankets and voila, clean baby bed.
4. We don't read to our babies everyday. Whenever we do start reading a book they either try to eat it, or get bored and start playing with another toy.
5. The sound of a baby falling backwards on the hardwood floor and bonking their head no longer causes me to panic and scoop them up. Depending how hard they hit sometimes I just yell to them "Aww, you're ok sweetie!"
6. We took the boys to a professional photographer two days ago. My job was to get one fussy baby to smile and spot both boys who were seated on a kid's bench. I failed horribly at both jobs. One baby fell off the bench not once but twice within 60 seconds. I'm talking face plant to the floor.
7. We have had a bouncy seat in our master bathroom for 4 months now. It's only used occasionally when me or DH takes a shower (and the other parent isn't availabe to watch both babies), or more often when we need to take care of bidness. I'm glad babies can't remember anything from their infancy.
8. My biggest secret: at 12 months old we still usually only bathe the boys about once a week. It's still so hard and time consuming to bathe 2 babies! I love Mustela PhysiObebe no rinse cleanser more than I love my cats. It's a godsend.


There, I feel better. And a little embarrassed...

 

I have been meaning to post to this for a while...I love reading these. Here are mine.

Confessions:
1) I still go without a shower sometimes for 3 days in a row. Yes, it is disgusting but I am too tired so I use the baby powder trick in my oily hair.
2) I bathe them at least every other day, but I won't say I soap them up every time. If they are tired I have them in, a good rinse and out in about 60 seconds.
3) My one LO puts everything in her mouth still. I have been known to see her pick up leftover bits of snacks and eat them...I just ignore it.
4) If you were a mouse in the wall you would see me occasionally make the same whine back to my DD Zoe when I can't stand it anymore. She stops and looks at me weirdly. "Annoying isn't it?" I say. She is 15 mos for goodness sake....LOL.
5) Sometimes I feed them the same thing for all three meals...they haven't complained.
6) I bought toothbrushes/paste....but still have only brushed their teeth once since 1 year.
7) I wash all clothes together now. Towels, rags, jeans, baby stuff, whatever.
8) I read the Twilight series to escape my life. It was a good obsession for a while and I still love my life.
9) Sometimes I pretend I am asleep when they wake up so that eventually DH gets them - I sense that he is trying to do the same trick.
10) I give them way too much food at meals and let the dog in to finish what dropped on the floor. Whatever is left on the table gets thrown away - it is a little wasteful but I want them to feel like they have plenty. Sometimes they eat most of it.
11) Sometimes at bedtime DH and I just lay on the floor and let them climb all over us. We just lay their with our eyes closed and they have a good old time...but we are not reacting. I almost fall asleep.
12) We are not intimate as much as before twins, but sometimes I try to time it around ovulation, even though he had a V maybe there is still a slight chance. But in reality I don't really want any more...I just think being pregnant and having a sweet little baby will always be something I would have loved to do one more time. But I still feel very lucky.
13) Okay, I admit it. Sometimes when I am with friends and other babies and people go on and on about my twins as if no other babies exist I feel so proud - plus they are really really cute... :FIFblush: They are special. My friends have to get tired of the attention but I think it balances out because they can do all kinds of things with their one baby. It goes both ways. I can remember being with a friend on two separate occasions when strangers asked if they were my triplets. That did hit a nerve with her...hee hee.

 

1. My personal hygene has also taken a backseat to everything else....two to three showers a week. And I have to remind myself to brush my teeth these days. PITIFUL.

2. I will wear the same yoga pants for three days in a row and just change underware and shirts.

3. Getting dressed up consists of jeans, a clean shirt, and some makeup.

4. Whatever my girls throw on the floor stays on the floor for them to eat later. Whatever they don't eat my dogs clean up.

5. The only veggies they will eat are covered in cheese or included in their V8 juice.

6. They eat the same basic food items everyday....french toast sticks, tyson chicken fries, mac and cheese, veggies with cheese, and fruit.

7. I let the girls eat way too many snacks because it keeps them happy. Gummies, puffs, crunchies, and ice cream sandwiches.

8. I have at least one day a week where I have to remind myself that leaving a kid in Wal-Mart or trying to sell one on E-Bay would get me in trouble.

9. I am so incredibly OCD about nap time and sleep habbits my entire family thinks I am a Nazi that does not let my kids have any fun.

10. If it were not for facebook and being able to post all of the things they do that drive me crazy I would really be crazy.

11. I am currently pregnnat with another girl (that will be three girls under the age of two) and I constantly freak out about how I am gonna do it all.

12. Neither of my 15 month girls talk and I feel like it is my fault because I don't work with them enough....or at all really.

13. If my husband is home and I know one of the girls has a dirty diaper I will let it go until he is holding said child and then ask him if she is dirty so he has to clean that diaper.

14. Since the girls were born my husband and I have eaten more hamburger helper and fastfood than I would like to even think about.

15. If they wake in the middle of the night and refuse to go back to sleep I put them in their cribs and turn on "classical baby" and just leave them in their until they finally go to bed.

16. My children start their day with milk and cartoons in their room so that I can have some quiet time to start my day.

17. There are many days that I think I am not cut out to be a stay at home mom.

I could add more but the girls are trying to pull the power chord to my laptop out of the outlet.

 

One more.
18. When my friends that have one child tell me about all the things that their kid is doing that my kids are not it makes me want to scream "My kids may do that if I only had one of them, but since I have two it is so much harder to teach them".

 

I just wanted to say that as long as there is some language around, that you talk to them occasionally, your girls will learn to talk! They don't need to be 'taught' at all. Kids have an amazing capacity for language in the worst conditions which I can assure you yours are not in. 15 months isn't worrisome if they don't talk. Besides, multiples almost always talk later because they have another baby to 'talk' to.

We're told as parents that we need to be teaching our babies continually or they'll be 'behind'. In general, there's very little that babies/infants/toddlers need to be taught in any formal way. Babies have been learning just fine for millennia while just hanging out on their mother's backs while she works in the fields. Check out a site like Healthy Children from the AAP on the few things that you do need to be worried about if your kids aren't doing by a certain age. All those friends of yours that have kids that are doing things that you aren't? -- the moms are probably just taking credit for natural developmental milestones that their kids are hitting. Talk to your kids and play with them and they'll most likely be fine.

 

Rebekah, what a great answer. I totally agree with you.

 

I hope you don't mind, but I loved this thread and used it as a topic for my new blog. Check it out if you'd like at www.onthebreenk.com


Ann
Mom of twin girls, age 1

 

Have to admit to number 2.....Austin now has learned to say something that sounds like "oh sh*t!"hmmm......i Dont ever say that...lololol and I do take a tylenol pm but still get up with them anyway..its just to help me go back to sleep and not think about the MILLION things I have to do the next day. uuurrgghh

 

Ok new updated confessions as they get older!
1- I have to take a shower at night before bed as I cant leave them alone for 1 second (even with their dad or they throw a huge fit!)
2-I can no longer go on vacations unless I rent a house that I pick that is baby proofed or TWIN proof (very different I do have to say!) which means I will no longer be going anywhere until they are old enough to know what NO means!
3-baby harnesses are AMAZING! (aka LEASHES)
4- Now that I am an at home mommy (and they are 18 month old monsters) I count down to NAP and BED time! 2 1/2 hours....oh GOD we can make it!
5-Is amazed at how fast a little body can move!
6-Is trying natural consequences..if you bite you may get bitten back so dont bite! If you stand under a table you are going to hit your head so dont do it! etc....I cant keep up!
7-am now on 40 mg of Prozac and am LOVING IT! :banana:

 

This is the BEST thread! My boys are 14 months old and I used to spend practically all day here at TS when I was pregnant and on bed rest with them. After they were born, well, you all know how it is, and it's been at least a year since I've been here. For some reason today I thought about TS and came to the second year forum for the first time! This post has helped me feel so NORMAL, and I have almost peed my pants laughing at some of the confessions. I'm going to add mine, even though I'm sure many of them will be repeats (as much as I wanted to I couldn't read through all 12 pages!).

1. I am a SAHM and for breakfast/lunch, I rarely feed my boys anything that they can't pick up and eat themselves because I don't want to have to sit there and feed them with a spoon. I will at dinner time because I don't want my DH to realize how lazy I am.

2. I have let them sit with a poopy diaper for up to an hour because I can't bear the thought of changing another one.

3. I have exaggerated the number of diapers I've had to change in a day in the hopes of gaining sympathy from my DH, and more importantly, in the hopes that he will feel bad and do all the diaper changes the rest of the day.

4. I pretend that I get annoyed with all the comments and questions when we are out in public but secretly I love it. Sometimes I will insist that we all (me, my DH, and the twins) go someplace, like grocery shopping, instead of one of us staying home with the boys and the other doing the errand, just because I want to get the comments/smiles. I hate that as that get older that will end.

5. To go along with number 4, I insist on dressing them the same to emphasize the fact they are twins to others. They are fraternal and look pretty different, and I know I can't dress them the same much longer but I am determined to milk it while I can.

6. Like many other people have stated, eating food off the floor is a common occurrence in our home.

7. I didn't clean our master bathroom for 2 months- at least. Stuff was growing on the stuff that was growing in the shower. By the time I would get the rest of the house (reasonably) clean, I just didn't ever have the energy to face it. My husband told me he was taking a half day off work last week. I thought it was to spend time with us and was excited. Turned out he took the half day to clean the bathroom. I didn't stop him or offer to help either.

8. I secretly love that so many people wonder how I do it, and even though I act humble and give credit to help from my wonderful DH and family, I love that I was "chosen" to be a mom of twins and feel like I have a little more "mom superpower" than singleton moms.

9. One of my boys is crying now because his brother took a toy from him. I am ignoring him to finish this post.

10. Being a mom to twins is by far the hardest, most challenging, and draining thing I have ever done. It is also the most wonderful, rewarding, and fulfilling thing I have ever done. I wouldn't change having twins for anything.

 

I used to tell DH he won the poop lottery! now that mine are potty trained they only need help in the bathroom when they poop - and we usually take turns...some days I'll tell him - I wiped 4 butts already today...you can do 2 in a row!

 

I couldn't agree more w this! I do home daycare and much to some ppls dismay I'm NOT all about teaching them their ABC's and #'s I'm about Play, that's how kids learn. YET I have pretty much every parent I work for tell me how much their kids learn here. What I do do like the OP is SING, we have songs for everything!

 

I was just gonna post the SAME THING!! It didn't even cross my mind to wash their hands and it's plastered on signs EVERYWHERE you go!

 

Meeeee toooooo.... And there they are most of the time, pulling my pants down while I'm like, "no please... just one more posting, lemme read one more thing... pleeeeeeease!"

 

I'm not on TS that often anymore but when I am I usually come here for a good laugh!!! So here are mine...

1) Mine never eat food off the floor, but only because we have a dog that gets to it first. However, my DD has been known to share with the dog and often lets him take the first bite! The dog also cleans up their tray after every meal and I let him.

2) My oldest DS has started saying....."okay, okay...I hear you! I got the memo, you're not happy!" every time one of the twins starts crying. Gee, I wonder where he learned that from?! ardon:

3) Even though I'm a SAHM I rarely clean...I pick up often but deep cleaning doesn't happen all that often.


We've only recently made it to the second year, so as I will continue to post as new things come up.

 

Oops, thought of a couple more already....

I often fake an illness with my DH just so I can lay in bed guilt free!! Last night I got mad because I actually had to "help out", I knew it wasn't fair of me to be mad so I told him that I wasn't actually mad just not feeling well. He let me go downstairs and watch a movie!! :FIFblush:

We have netflix and I never ask if he wants to actually watch the movie...I watch it on my time and return it for the next one. I would be pissed if he ever did this to me!

I also get angry when I see commercials for any type of "little blue pill" because I don't ever see a time where passing a bowl of strawberries to him would cause either of us to "get excited and need sex". Although I do realize these people in the commercial are much older I figure by then we'll have had sex so little that we won't even remember how to do it!

My babies watch Baby Einstein 5-6 times EVERY day!!! It's on right now.

 

Hah.. such a cathartic topic this one. I'm a newbie here, and I would love to say that I find one or two things common with each and every list that has been posted.
My confession would mainly be how I use the twins as an excuse to stay off keeping the house clean. Gosh, the bathroom is a mess, the laundry lies around and we pick clothes from the basket itself, we rarely pick up toys from the floor (read, we pick up only when we know we are going to have company). Oh and I'm SAHM now, and I hate it. Can't wait to get back to work.

 

I stayed home til the kids were 14 months and now I have a job. It is the best thing ever. I totally lie and say yes when people say "isn't it so hard to leave them every day?"

 

Wow, I am both entertained and saddened by what I am reading here.

Saddened because there are so many (too many) twin Moms out there who appear to be stressed beyond the point of taking good care of themselves, and who also feel like they have to compromise their standards and ideals because it's all just too much. Before delivering my twins I talked to many twin Moms (specifically twins with a toddler because that was going to be my situation) and the best piece of advice I got was this: Get as much help as you can afford. That's exactly what we did. Yes, it broke the bank, but it also allowed me to enjoy my time with my twins (when I was home on maternity leave). We got a night nanny five nights a week for 10 weeks (I slept!) and after she was gone, I had someone to help me for a few hours in the afternoons. It made all the difference in the world. Those early days are done, but even today with all three of my kids being in daycare/preschool we still get some (paid) help in the evenings during dinner time and bed time. Occasionally we get friends or neighbors to help too.

Another thing that saddens me is the idea that SAHMs have to do everything - laundry, cooking, etc. Just taking care of the kids is about 25 jobs in one. Going to work (outside the house) is easy in comparison. Can the partners be more involved in house care?

Especially for the Moms who are SAHMs, which I know is THE HARDEST job in the world, I wonder if there might be ways to alleviate the stress and give yourselves a break. Things in my house are not perfect, but thanks to the advice of some wonderful twin Moms who preceded me, I've learned how to take the pressure off myself while not compromising my standards.

 

OK Iam a newbie but it will feel sooooo good to confess that I am going to - and I didn't read all pages so forgive repeats!!

1. My daughters first word was "Olivia" - as in the pig on Nick Jr.

2. My LO's (18mo b/g twins & DS 3) live in a completely clothing optional world. Most days this summer they've worn nothing but a diaper ALL DAY. My DS has graduated to underwear, but same rule applies.

3. If I put on jeans instead of drawstring pajama pants my children sit by the front door waiting to leave.

4. I start looking forward to nap time 5 minutes into the day some days.

5. I pretend I am asleep sometimes on my DH's days off so he will get up then I remain "sleeping" all morning long - until noon - even when I hear complete & utter chaos outside my door.

6. Showering daily is a distant, distant memory.

7. When I go grocery shopping alone I will sit in the car in the parking lot forever just listening to music or reading stuff online.

8. Sometimes I just sit on the couch & let them all go completely wild - running, screaming, climbing, destroying everything in their path - with no intervention, as I simply cannot bear to say "no" one more time.

9. I miss working & think my husbands got it good because he gets to "escape". Driving alone, lunch with co-workers, adult conversation...it sounds dreamy!

10. When on the rare occasion they go to grandma's I don't even miss them for at least 8 hours.

11. After our twins were born (our 3rd & 4th kids) I begged & begged my husband to consider just one more. Now that they are toddlers, buck wild, and impossible to keep out of trouble I told him if I got pregnant I would put the baby on craigslist under heading "Free to good home" hahaha!!

 

Oh yeah-

11. I think - very often - that I am not stay at home mom material. I take Xanax at night to sleep because mom guilt & anxiety about what I haven't done or need to do tomorrow keeps me up all night despite the fact I am exhausted.

12. My kids cannot eat a meal without the TV on. They have been trained in the worst way to be quiet & eat.

13. I think my kids are the funniest, cutest, most incredible people on earth! They are...really!! LOL!

 

1. I constan

 

I think I want to marry you! You are my hero! :wub:

 

1. I constantly feel like I am not paying enough attention to one or both of them, as I often need to work during times when they are in highchairs or the neglectapen. I also wish I got them out more than once or twice a week.
2. I hate being a sahm and wish more than anything I could go back to work. it is the absolute hardest job ever...i so miss having sick and personal days too.
3. The more Im in this house, the crazier my thinking about life becomes (depressive thoughts)
4. I often pray that they will just sleep a little longer.
5. I shower twice a week now and lather myself in deoderant.
6. Sometimes I feel like I am being pecked to death by 2 chickens.
7. I pray that they will entertain each other for five minutes so I can check my ebay, email, or facebook.
8. I am still on chapter 5 of the book I started reading at the end of my pregnancy!
9. I have no pictures in albums and only have 6 pages of their first year scrapbook done. Lol.
10. I hate the continual thought of what I am going to feed them next. Ive always been a takeout kind of person before them. Now life seems to revolve around cooking, chopping organic veggies and fruits and dicing everything into bite size pieces. Utterly exhausting for soneone who only has a kitchen because it came with the house.
11. When I go to work, I go shopping in between visits for me time. Meanwhile hubby is home with the kids thinking im working the whole time.
12. My husband is a better dad than I ever thought he could be. After14 yrs together, he its even a better husband now than ever...I love him!..but since the babies have arrived, I often think of my rich ex bf who broke my heart. Just the fantasy of having a big house like his and the oassion my marriage lacks with the day in day out co-parenting we do...terrible, isnt it?
13. I seriously love these babies more than anything but sometimes fantasize about life before babies....sleeping in, naps, laying around..
14. I cringe when they won't stop whining or crying when I'm attending to one and can't get to the other or when I'm trying to get bottles our meals ready and they are "yelling" at me with high pitched whining.
15. My house its a constant disgusting mess no matter how much I clean!. I dump the clean silverware from dishwasher into the drawer instead of separating it nicely and there are constant unfolded piles of clean laundry on chairs.

 

1. I am my own slave. My house has to be neat and clean 99% of the time. And it is.
2. I cook every day and it gets to me sometimes. I just want to have someone else's cooking for a while....
3. I am grumpy if the boys wake up before my first cup of coffee...
4. I have days when I just want to close the door behind me and never return.
5. I love my kids to death.
6. When I have to get something done and the boys need my attention I put Baby Einstein on so I get 25 minutes.
7. I work part time. And I love to have the balance of working and spending time with them. I could not be a SAHM. I think it is just the hardest job in the world.
8. I don't always have enough patience and I tend to yell.
9. I am secretely jelous of moms who can always - even if it's seemingly - keep their composure and explain everything in a calm tone to their kids.

 

1. I swear wayy too much, my 4 year old is constantly telling me to stop saying bad words in front of the babies.
2. Having the twins has definately made me decide that I never ever, want anymore children.
3. If I go to a friends baby shower, I have zero desire to hold the baby, no thanks-I have had my fill for a lifetime.
4. I switched my DD's to cows milk at 9 months because I absolutely could not mix one more batch of formula.
5. I ran as fast as I could back to work once my mat. leave was up.
6. If the girls start singing before my alarm goes off, I just pull the blankets over my ears to drown out the sound and catch a few more zzz's.
7. I feed the girls way too many Cheetos-they love them and keeps them quiet for a long time.
8. If my girls aren't with me and I hear a mom complaining about her kid, I always say "well you should come to my house sometime and try dealing with my twins"-I have zero patience for singleton moms who complain all the time. Cry me a river lady.

 

this topic scares me and makes me feel good all at once!
im not the only one who looses it every now and then.

is it strange that i have never felt to tired to change a nappy like some mums have posted here? (the boys are changed when they wake, before their nap, after their nap and after their bath. ... thats only 8 nappies a day... it doesnt seem to much!)

1. sometimes i 'forget' to wipe their hands and face after a meal. they hate it! so why not let them be grots for a while?

2. its a battle to get through the morning, we make it to play group every day that the babysitter isnt here (rain, hail or shine) just to get us through to nap time.

3. i often shuffle the kids off into the toy room and then run to the lounge to rest for the few minutes that i get before one of them exits the room or hurts themselves and needs a cuddle.

4. i feel like im failing being a 'teacher' to the boys, i never sit down and 'teach' them things and they cant sit through more than one page of a story book without getting distracted (so we have basically given up on books all together). hopefully they just pick up some nifty tricks along the way.

 

These are all making me laugh because they are all very true and make me feel better that i am not the only one who does them.

1) I tell myself I will make a bedtime routing for the girls but never remember to brush their teeth.

2) I try to feed them as healthy as possible but most nights I'm too tired and they get the fastest thing that can be made.

3) They still have their soothers for night time and I told myself they'd be gone by now but I dont have the heart to take them away.

4) Sometimes I put them down for a nap when I need a breather.

5) The TV is on all day long and they give me the remote to put on the Backyardagains.

6) When I clean they each have a broom or swiffer to help me.

7) I don't bathe them as often as I should.

8) Once a week they go to daycare even if I'm not working so I can get things done around the house and have a day to myself.

9) I haven't taken them to see Santa yet and feel like a horrible mother about it.

10) They throw half their food on the floor and sometimes I don't clean it up right away.

11) Our laundry also is in laundry baskets in the living room.

12) I rarely pick up their toys at night because I know they'll just be thrown around in the morning.

13) I don't take them outside to play as often as I'd like and it makes me feel like the worst mother in the world especially since they usually stay in their pjs all day.

14) Phoenix prefers her daddy and it makes me feel unloved by her. But, on the other hand Essence prefers me when she first wakes up.

I'm sure I could go on and on. But, I do confess that I am constantly doubting myself as a mother and think the girls should be getting better food, exercise etc.

 

While reading your ongoing list of what you've been through with your girls has made me laugh and cry simultaneously. My girls will be turning one year this Wednesday. It has been an endless chaotic life from the moment they were conceived until now and still going...
1. Bed rest for 2 1/2 mos. due to preterm labor - born at 36 wks - c-section because they were both breech. (not a fun recovery).
2. Constantly were fussy even as infants because they always wanted to be held and ate literally every 1 1/2-2hrs for the first 2 mos. I was a zombie.

3. If I don't give them my undivided attention constantly, they will wah, wah, wah until I do. Yes, I've tried the ignore method BUT it doesn't work with my two. I've tried saying No in a stern voice. Yeah right, that doesn't work. It makes them wah louder. Basically most of my day is them crawling around after me crying when I'm trying to get things done. They can never self entertain. I thought it was suppose to be easier with twins after the first year since they have a play mate. I know mine are just turning a year now. Hopefully they will stop being so starved for attention when they get plenty of it.
4. I'm always afraid to go out in public with them because in the past they've yelled at the tops of their lungs. Why? Because they're not being entertained by me. It's sooo embarrassing being the loudest family in the store, restaurant, etc. I don't even attempt to bring them anywhere on my own. I could do it, but it's too much work and not enjoyable.
5. If I'm doing anything with one, such as changing diaper, picking her up out of her bed first, etc. the other one cries. It's always wah, wah, wah!
6. I try to bathe them together in those little bath seats. Fail! They are so squirmy and reaching for the other ones toy and more wah wah, one of them almost fell out of the seat and went face down in the water! Of course I was right there to sit her back up, but geez I'm not bathing them together until they get older.
7. And yes, I'm sick and tired of random people coming up to us when we're out in public, asking how I do it and how it's such a double blessing. While I'm saying, Oh, it's not that bad, and I only know what it's like to care for twins since they're my first. What I'm really thinking is I'm going out of my mind and they're more double trouble than double blessing! Yea, I'm very thankful for my twins and people may say that this is harsh to say, but live a week in my shoes and you will see where I'm coming from.

I wish their demeanor wasn't so demanding.


Scarlett

 

Scarlett, I hear you. I, too, have not recovered yet from them being overly fussy in the first few months. Add a big portion of mommy guilt to it and we're good to go. My girls are much more happier now than they were before (thanks goodness!), but still very demanding. Their separation anxiety is sometimes driving me insane. Like you I have tried to ignore their tantrums, but it doesn't help either. They ALWAYS want me to be on the floor playing with them. They have NO patience at all. I often wish I was an octopus and sometimes even think I may end up like one because I find myself being super efficient in tackling two needy toddlers. They don't sleep much at all during the day and if they do I am trying to reduce the chaos in our house. By the end of the day I am exhausted.

 

oh! another one..

* i sometimes leave them with snotty noses even after ive notices them running..... if i wipes them EVERY time they ran i would be chasing them with tissues all day long

 

These are hilarious, I don't have any to add that haven't bee mentioned.

But I will add that I read a couple and thought "What a good idea!!"